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Do you think raising children is a burden?
Posted 5/4/16
I keep asking myself that a lot. In one hand I want to raise a kid and make sure his/her life is better than mine was when I was young . In the other hand, I really don't want to marry. So I decide not now but a few years from now to adopt. Here the problem, though. What more difficult to raise a teenager or a baby? I mean sooner or later I will have to deal with the teenager phase if I choice a baby. But a the same time a baby got his own set of problems to deal with.

Anyway that why I am asking this. So I also got a few more questions to ask.

If you are a parent I will like to know how did you or are now dealing with the teenager phase?
How do you find time for yourself?
Were there any sacrifices you have to make in particular for your kid?
Is your life easier or harder because of having a kid?
Do you regret any choice about raising your kid?
When is the right time for them to have a cellphone?
When did you talk to your kid about sex and sexual stuff in general?
Anything you want to add up?
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If you think raising children is a burden to YOU, you're probably not ready, or at the very worst, be an abuse case waiting to happen.

It's a sad fact to think about out of context--and some go into it never realizing until too late--but your independent life is over once you have kids. Most all your time for the next seventeen years will be in protecting and providing for them. You are no longer allowed to be "yourself" and kick off to the clubs every Saturday night, like you were during your teen high-school and early mating years. Whether it is, in fact, the ultimate final slow step in Turning Into Your Parents is up to you, but you will certainly be in the exact same position.
Some who know this already don't mind, and manage to find the good things in this, but they have to grasp the first fact first as a necessary condition of it.
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KarenAraragi wrote:

I keep asking myself that a lot. In one hand I want to raise a kid and make sure his/her life is better than mine was when I was young . In the other hand, I really don't want to marry. So I decide not now but a few years from now to adopt. Here the problem, though. What more difficult to raise a teenager or a baby? I mean sooner or later I will have to deal with the teenager phase if I choice a baby. But a the same time a baby got his own set of problems to deal with.

Anyway that why I am asking this. So I also got a few more questions to ask.

If you are a parent I will like to know how did you or are now dealing with the teenager phase?
How do you find time for yourself?
Were there any sacrifices you have to make in particular for your kid?
Is your life easier or harder because of having a kid?
Do you regret any choice about raising your kid?
When is the right time for them to have a cellphone?
When did you talk to your kid about sex and sexual stuff in general?
Anything you want to add up?


Others may have an opinion, but let me give you some facts from my life

Steelmonk here, 51 years old and daughter graduating in a month and and my son is a freshman in HS (so I'm just finishing my brood)

1) Teens are tough but now they are almost adults, pretty cool!
2) My time is their time, I want to spend more time with them, but they are busy. Time for myself? screw that, come on son lets watch anime
3) No, I became stronger and more powerful because of them. When my daughter was born, I knew I had to become more than I was.
4) My children made my life so much more rich and full, if there was a sacrifice, good riddance to whatever I thought was important, because it wasn't
5) Yes, I wish I was more gentle when they were 4 to 7 years old
6) Last year of Junior High
7) As soon as my daughter had her first visit, as soon as my son said, "I think that girl is cute" But I laid out the foundation at 10 years old
8) Children are not for everyone, however all my friends who have kids are quite pleased. I think I'll go watch some Onepiece with the kids.
9) By the way my wife is half of the parental team. 2 really does work better than 1 parent. I know a lot of people are afraid of marriage, don't be. Seek it out like you seek out a treasure. Because it really is. Some become gold others pot metal. The gold is worth it. But that's because I'm a happy camper
Posted 5/4/16
Children are the worst thing in the world. People are born evil, but 90% of them are never taught to be good any more. I would never have a kid. I would kill myself if I got someone pregnant. I hate seeing children in public, I hate seeing baby clothes in stores, I hate baby shoes, baby toys. Babies are pretty much the one thing in the world I would choose to eradicate from existence even if it meant no more people.

TL;DR
I think babies are the worst thing in existence.
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Posted 5/4/16
Woudn't know. Always wanted a kid, though. But gotta wait for the right woman to have one with xD. And also be good financially.

I could see it as a tough challenge if it is unplanned.
Posted 5/4/16
no I have no reason to think that
Posted 5/4/16

Seacactus wrote:

Children are the worst thing in the world. People are born evil, but 90% of them are never taught to be good any more. I would never have a kid. I would kill myself if I got someone pregnant. I hate seeing children in public, I hate seeing baby clothes in stores, I hate baby shoes, baby toys. Babies are pretty much the one thing in the world I would choose to eradicate from existence even if it meant no more people.

TL;DR
I think babies are the worst thing in existence.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PIh2xe4jnpk
Posted 5/4/16

KarenAraragi wrote:

I keep asking myself that a lot. In one hand I want to raise a kid and make sure his/her life is better than mine was when I was young . In the other hand, I really don't want to marry. So I decide not now but a few years from now to adopt. Here the problem, though. What more difficult to raise a teenager or a baby? I mean sooner or later I will have to deal with the teenager phase if I choice a baby. But a the same time a baby got his own set of problems to deal with.

Anyway that why I am asking this. So I also got a few more questions to ask.

If you are a parent I will like to know how did you or are now dealing with the teenager phase?
How do you find time for yourself?
Were there any sacrifices you have to make in particular for your kid?
Is your life easier or harder because of having a kid?
Do you regret any choice about raising your kid?
When is the right time for them to have a cellphone?
When did you talk to your kid about sex and sexual stuff in general?
Anything you want to add up?


If you want some objectivity on the issue, here's a descent analysis.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o1xf78EltKM

My advice to you is this. You have to do what's in the best interest of the child. Is only having 1 parent a good idea? I understand how you feel about not marrying, with laws and alimony being rough for men like myself, it's pretty much a dead end for now.

Do some researching, and tell me what you find.
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Posted 5/4/16
they are a burden on money and the world (overpopulation eventually)

I'm not having a child im going for immortality why have a child when you can extend your own life!?
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Posted 5/4/16
One of the things I want most out of life is to have a kid, yet its also one of my biggest fears...
Posted 5/4/16
Yes
Posted 5/4/16

WeeabooWarrior wrote:


KarenAraragi wrote:

I keep asking myself that a lot. In one hand I want to raise a kid and make sure his/her life is better than mine was when I was young . In the other hand, I really don't want to marry. So I decide not now but a few years from now to adopt. Here the problem, though. What more difficult to raise a teenager or a baby? I mean sooner or later I will have to deal with the teenager phase if I choice a baby. But a the same time a baby got his own set of problems to deal with.

Anyway that why I am asking this. So I also got a few more questions to ask.

If you are a parent I will like to know how did you or are now dealing with the teenager phase?
How do you find time for yourself?
Were there any sacrifices you have to make in particular for your kid?
Is your life easier or harder because of having a kid?
Do you regret any choice about raising your kid?
When is the right time for them to have a cellphone?
When did you talk to your kid about sex and sexual stuff in general?
Anything you want to add up?


If you want some objectivity on the issue, here's a descent analysis.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o1xf78EltKM

My advice to you is this. You have to do what's in the best interest of the child. Is only having 1 parent a good idea? I understand how you feel about not marrying, with laws and alimony being rough for men like myself, it's pretty much a dead end for now.

Do some researching, and tell me what you find.


You know my dad kind raise me by himself. Mom isn't a saint.
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Posted 5/4/16
Having a kid is the best accomplishment of my current life. I cant imagine not having my son around its the one constant that keeps me connected with current events. I just upgraded his flip phone for a smart phone on his 13th birthday. I try to keep an open dialog with my son about school, homework and friends daily. We talked about sex and any questions he had when he was 11 and then more details at 12 due to sex education class in school. I am divorced so its nice to have a partner for dinner or any activity. Having a baby by yourself would be a huge ordeal so good luck to people who choose that road.
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It's a responsibility
Posted 5/4/16
I don't feel this way
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