Post Reply Whats your meaning for Respect and Trust?
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Posted 5/9/16
So I have been pondering this question myself lately and I am having a hard time seeing respect or trust anywhere anymore. I am trying to get a better understanding of those meanings so if anyone feels up to sharing your points I am honestly interested in hearing them. I will share my views on those meanings as well.

When I hear the word respect I think of a mutual agreement between 1 person and another that is already there before you even meet. That agreement would be "I will not have anything negative to say to you or to do to you until I have been provoked." In other words care for each person as a individual, give people the benefit of the doubt, don't always jump to conclusions, talk about things that bother you before you get upset, approach every situation with care in your hearts for everyone around you. That is what I think of respect, now of course if someone gives me a reason to have no respect for them then I am as cold as ice. Respect is mutual if that respect is broken it is up to all parties to fix it or just walk away.

I believe trust has so many meanings but to me trust is power.A power you decide to give to someone else in hopes they use it to help maintain your sanity. Trust is a double edge sword as it can also cause you a lot of pain and suffering. On the other hand though having trust in someone gives me hope. It is no easy task trusting someone for me because if I trust someone then that person holds meaning to me and if someone holds meaning to me they have the ability to cause a lot of pain.

I personally think respect and trust have a lot in common I just don't see it anymore with the people around me.If you feel like sharing your meanings maybe by reading them i might see something I am missing. I don't ask for criticism nor do I want this to turn into a debate over who is right and wrong I am solely interested in learning what other people think to better understand them myself.
Posted 5/9/16
You have to earn respect and trust is easily given but easier to lose. I don't trust anyone easily beause it's so difficult to these days, unless I know them for a while. People in my life mostly, but a handful.
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Posted 5/9/16 , edited 5/9/16
Respect is something earned mate. You're not automatically entitled to it simply because you breathe. Unless you've done something to earn it in my eyes you're nothing but an idiot at best and human trash at worst .

As for trust well that is also something earned but at a much harder and hasher pace.
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Respect is not a given for me; it's something you have to earn, or at least show that you deserve. The standards for deserving respect are personal.

I believe that you should expect to be treated as you treat, so, in a nutshell, what I am saying is that typically I don't expect to be the respected one first. If you are genuinly a nice person, if you are smart but not intellectually dishonest, or if you are humble or modest, you are generally going to receive my respect a lot faster than someone who revels in annoying others, someone that is dishonest with themselves, or someone with a gigantic ego who thinks that he is above others.

Once I start showing respect to you, and if you start showing it back, we can talk about trust.
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In a work environment, I don't believe that respect is a mutual agreement between two parties. I can have respect for a person but they might not of me. Respect is earn. The person who earned my respect might not be a co-worker but a rival (or competitor). The person who gain my respect, I might not trust.

Trust is automatically given until proven otherwise, particularity to an associate. Once trust is removed, it can never be given again. I can forgive but cannot forget. Doubt will always follow.

With family, I trust and respect my parents, they have earn it. With siblings, it is rather difficult and hard to explain.
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For me respect, is given to someone for things they do I believe worthwhile and honest. I don't have to know how to do what they're doing, know what they're doing or even how they're doing it but if it impresses me I will respect them for it even if I can't/wouldn't do it myself. There are also different kinds of respect...

1. I can't draw well (due to depth perception problems) but it doesn't stop me from respecting the art of The Brothers Hildebrandt, the late Al Rio or J. Scott Campbell. They create things of beauty that I admire and wish I had the talent to do so I can respect that.
2. I can respect my favorite musicians/bands for their instrumental prowess and songwriting skills.
3. I respect celebrities (and normal everyday people) who stand behind charities,give of themselves to the ill or champion causes close to their hearts.

As for trust, that's more along the line of being sure the person you trust would hurt themselves if they hurt you. If you know they feel that way then they earned that trust.
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I think you're getting common courtesy and respect a bit mixed up. There's a big difference between being respectful and having respect for someone. I try to be decent and respectful to everyone I meet but that does not mean I have any respect for them. Respect is something that is earned and while it doesn't always necessarily take time in most cases it does take a while to earn or give out that respect. Certain exceptions to that rule exist but are usually reserved for role models and people who A. you've never met yet B. still hold in high regard or have respect for. Someone like Mother Theresa would fit this bill nicely.

It's also possible to respect some one or some thing's ability without actually respecting them as a person. Artists, musicians, authors and more have all earned my respect for their ability and talent if not necessarily for their person. Activists, animal lovers, people who help others, mothers, soldiers, etc all gain some form of respect from me.

Trust is a bit of a stickier topic. To quote above: Yumi_Mirai put it so eloquently: "trust is easily given but easier to lose."

Trust is a very powerful thing that can either cause a great deal of good or a great deal of harm especially if that trust is betrayed. Most of us are not trusting by nature and I think that's proper. I also think we would all love to just naturally trust one another but because we have learned it's not good for us to always do that we don't. Trust is usually something that we dish out in small dosages and add to over time. Like respect there are always exceptions to the rules. Some people are just too trusting or naïve. Others are not trusting enough. Anything taken to an extreme is bad.
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