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Posted 5/20/16
I have been wondering if this normal and/or if this happens to anyone. Its that I have made many close friends on the internet. That i could trust my life with. And over time, many of them have just disapear without a message or anything. So is it normal to have online friends randomly disapear forever without any message?

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Posted 5/20/16
Yes. And if you trust people on the internet with your life....
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Yup sometimes sadly but its the internet it kind of unavoidable~
Posted 5/20/16
Trust on the internet is just difficult. It isn't your fault people are like that while it is gullible. You take a chance either way with people..
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Posted 5/20/16
I value friendships in real life more than friendships I make online. I mean yeah there may be occasions where you actually meet the people you've met online, but other than that I just think forums is kind of a place loners hang out to escape real life. Don't get me wrong however I'm not saying all people here are loners and otakus.. I'm a guy who's had thousands of posts elsewhere. I just can't help but notice the huge amount of threads with title "imagine your dream girl' or "I'm lonely", or threads talking about sexuality, etc. It isn't uncommon to notice people disappearing once and a while. People move on sometimes. Just how it is.

As for me I don't care for posting much these days. I watch tons of anime. Other than that I'll only come on forums to socialize in threads to talk about anime... that's about it really. I mostly made friends in another gaming community which I pretty much don't have much time to play these days.
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Posted 5/20/16 , edited 5/20/16
All my internet friends have never really disappeared. I'm still in contact with almost all of them and we're still either friends or acquaintances bordering friendship. I'm not sure if that's normal for everyone else though, I know it would seem abnormal to me if one of my friends suddenly disappeared like that.

On a side note I was friends with most of these people for 5+ years before we started getting a little distant and we've never met IRL.
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Posted 5/20/16
Yeah seems normal. I still know some people from when i joined the internet, but there's always those ones that got away.

There's this one guy in particular that i'll never forget that vanished. Went by the name cowuzumaki5. Big naruto fan. liked to upload copyright infringing stuff to youtube and all that good stuff. Met him around 2007, i believe. By 2008 we had gone our separate ways(I had kinda disappeared from the internet myself.) 2009 was the last time I saw him. He had posted on the forum we used to post at for the first time in awhile. I remember being so surprised to see him and told as much. Unfortunately I think I called him an awful poster in the same sentence. He never replied and I never saw him again after that. Not that it matters or anything.
Posted 5/21/16
I think trusting people and expecting them to do anything are two different things, just because they may be generally nice people it doesn't mean they will do what you would like them to.
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Posted 5/21/16
Online friends for me always stuck around longer than offline. I haven't bothered with offline friends for years, but I'm more of a recluse. I've noticed that if someone disappears it's normally because I let them. In the end, you come to terms with how little you wanted it.

Posted 5/21/16
Blahhhh sometimes it happens lol.

Can't explain the reasons behind it but I've certainly done this a couple of times before.
Posted 5/21/16 , edited 5/21/16
It happens but it's natural and it also happens in real life.

When you grow older you realise that your interests are different than other people's interests and it's what splits people up
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Posted 5/21/16 , edited 5/22/16
I met my internet friend in real life.. It's normal In internet you can find people who are very similar to you, maybe in internet you can find your love too
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Posted 5/25/16
its okay to have friends in the net., but dont trust or tell anything about your weakness.
its better to be friendly to them without knowing about them. if they tell you thats it.
but if they left you., you can go forward and make new friends.
dont worry you learn already from the past.
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Posted 5/25/16 , edited 5/25/16
I've experienced this situation many times before and have come to this realization. Most people have their own circle of influence and concern. Everything outside of that is usually low priority and forgettable. People you meet on the internet, it's often hard to grasp a individuals personality, characteristics, quirks, and other specifics you would normally see during in-person interaction. A number of people escape the real world and become someone different online either to escape a hardship, to become person they wish to be, or just as sense of personal enjoyment. This in itself conflicts on the level of trust, as that individual might be telling you what you want to hear, or possibility telling you out of the fantasy they are attempting to live. I've meet some genuine people also, it just takes time speak to someone to make that determination.

Genuineness is a major concern. If confined to just messages can you actually trust exposing your personal and intimate secrets? This applies to people you meet outside of the internet also, I can just gauge someone in person better.

I don't want to ramble on, so in summary. If someone really cares you or the friendship. They will make it a point to reach out to you. Whether it be via Skype, phone, text messages, emails, etc... We all make an attempt to reach out to those closest in our circle. There are also unforeseen circumstances. For example, two people vanished instantly out of my life in which I was good friends with. After extensive searching, I discovered one died of a stroke and another committed suicide.

To those people that vanished out of your life, assume that the majority of them moved on from the short-term association or friendship. The internet is like that, people can sometimes be selfish and move on without a care. Or real life kicks in and they are more focused on that. So many variables. I don't really make that many attachments online anymore for this very reason. I hate wasting time connecting with people only for them to vanish.
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Posted 5/25/16 , edited 5/25/16
I met one of my best friends via the xbox 360 back in 2007. He lived in New York at the time and I California, long story short we both traveled to see each other and we later enlisted together. even through He now lived back in Newyork and Me Arizona we still travel and meet to hang out and catch up 6 times a year.

but yes I have had friends over the internet who drop off the radar at times and randomly pop up 2-3 years later down the road.
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