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Posted 6/6/16 , edited 6/6/16
or unhappy and just not know what to do till you feel dead inside.

What do you guys do when you are in such a situation ?
Posted 6/6/16
My family members are sad often and I don't know what to do.
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I have seen myself sad a lot of times.
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My boyfriend does nothing but cry all the time.
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yea.........
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Yes, but there is a difference between a sadness caused by something you have no control over, for instance the death of an elderly family member, where people grieve and then move on, and a sadness caused by chronic depression or bipolar disorder.

Some types of sadness or grief are normal and even if I can't do anything to help it, I know the person will work through it in their own time. With clinical depression, there is nothing I can do and no guarantee the individual will ever manage to overcome it. With bipolar disorder, it's like living in a mine field because you never know when one of their mood swings is going to go too far and even one word from you can trigger their issues dropping them from full mania into suicidal depression.

It sucks being unable to help them. The only thing you can do is listen, be there for them, and if it is a clinical or bipolar depression you can encourage them to get medical help or counseling, although chances are they won't want to.
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Yes, it happens to everyone. There's not a whole lot you can do besides just being you and being there for them. You can try talking to them. Sometimes just having someone else around helps a lot. If they're too sad or too depressed it might be best to ask them about it. See if they need a shoulder to lean on or see if they need to go talk to someone else like a professional. When it comes to clinical depression there's not a whole lot that you can do about it other than just being there. Sometimes those episodes just have to play out. It is a good thing though to try and get their minds off of it. Even if they don't feel like it doing something....anything is better than just sitting there and focusing on how unhappy you are. Watch a movie, read a book, just hang out, anything and everything they can do to stay active will help to some degree. You might not be able to completely cheer them up but I know that having the knowledge that someone is there for you will help a lot. Just stay patient and try to talk to them. And please remember people don't always need a reason to be sad or depressed. It's not always a matter of "if someone wanted to be happy enough then they could." That is complete and utter bs so even if it doesn't feel like they have any good reason to be depressed please stay patient with them. People who are sad are basically in pain so treat them as you would someone who's hurt. Be kind, be patient and try to be understanding. Don't let them take it out on you and don't enable them to push any of that negativity your way. People who are sad or depressed will sometimes lash out in an effort to try and get rid of that pain. You don't have to put up with that and it's not good for them either. If it doesn't let up after at least a week or two then you really should try to talk to them about it and see if they would be willing to go and seek some help.
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Posted 6/6/16
I'll cry with him/her. Just be there and listen.
Sometimes the heart just needs someone willing to do so.
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Posted 7/27/16
What's that clown?
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Posted 7/27/16
i'm the worst at trying to comfort someone when they are upset, i never know what to say. so i just listen
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Posted 7/27/16
Yep, my family is pretty dysfunctional.
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Posted 7/27/16
well i reckon u gotta love somebody first
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Posted 7/27/16
Being sad yourself sucks, but watching someone you love being depressed is heart wrenching.
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Posted 7/27/16 , edited 7/28/16
Yes, and I'm sensitive enough to the point that I cry when they cry.

There are some individuals who I've never seen cry, all of a sudden burst into tears, and it tugs at my heart, because I've always known them to be strong, tough, and take no shit.
Posted 7/27/16
I would ask them what's troubling them, and if they want to talk about it.
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