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PeripheralVisionary wrote:

Absolutely not. You and your prospective partner have a right to know so they can make they're own decisions regarding this. It may not be a big deal to one person, but it could be for others. If it is potentially relationship ending, which it is, your partner or yourself have a right to make that decision. Cased closed.

Whoa PV. You have someone ghost-write this?
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Posted 6/9/16 , edited 6/9/16
No, it isn't. Sex reassignment directly effects sex and reproduction.
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Out of curiosity, why would it be wrong? If you're interested in someone because they are presenting themselves as X and you are under the pretenses that X is able to perform Y or because you have Z beliefs. These are beliefs and requirements that belong to the one possessing them. For some people (usually ethnic minorities), there may be the requirement of marrying within the same ethnicity or of someone who has a certain social status (and/or religious belief, that's one I occasionally forget about). And some of these people have cut off romantic relations because these requirements were not met. While others have managed despite this.


Well if you are pursuing a relationship and having biological children is important to you it might matter. If you are only physically attracted to certain sex organs, obviously you would want this persons transgendered status disclosed before you get down to business and have a very awkward conversation and potential ending of a relationship that last longer than perhaps it should of. It would only hurt both people more, the longer this conversation is delayed or becomes a problem.
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I changed to a super car if that's what you meant?
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Right, kevz, but why would it be wrong for people to have those requirements? I think it's important that people have the right to maintain their preferences. I see nothing wrong with a relationship dying because of the revelation that the other partner is trans. Hence my question.
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XxDarkSasuxX wrote:


PeripheralVisionary wrote:

Absolutely not. You and your prospective partner have a right to know so they can make they're own decisions regarding this. It may not be a big deal to one person, but it could be for others. If it is potentially relationship ending, which it is, your partner or yourself have a right to make that decision. Cased closed.

Whoa PV. You have someone ghost-write this?


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It is politically incorrect to speak to anyone without their consent, and since you cannot give consent without talking to someone to offer consent, no one is allowed to talk to anyone anymore. This may be the optimal solution to all current "social issues."
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Nope.
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Posted 6/10/16 , edited 6/10/16

XxDarkSasuxX wrote:


PeripheralVisionary wrote:

Absolutely not. You and your prospective partner have a right to know so they can make they're own decisions regarding this. It may not be a big deal to one person, but it could be for others. If it is potentially relationship ending, which it is, your partner or yourself have a right to make that decision. Cased closed.

Whoa PV. You have someone ghost-write this?


This is what I honestly believe when it comes to relationships. Letting your partner make their own decisions. I mean, I expect to see in our lifetime vagina transplants if the world doesn't end, which doesn't really change the fact that while you or I does not think it should not matter to your partner, it does anyway, and that belief should be respected. It's basically how I feel about religion. "I don't care about it" isn't a valid way out of this, because you should care that your prospective partner cares. I don't like it, but I believe people should be free from deception.



This is also how I feel about transgender bathrooms, which I haven't really taken a stance on yet, but I feel that their "concerns" should be taken in consideration to "some" extent. Transgenders in prison is also something I take a "moderate" stance on.
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Ocale wrote:

It is politically incorrect to speak to anyone without their consent, and since you cannot give consent without talking to someone to offer consent, no one is allowed to talk to anyone anymore. This may be the optimal solution to all current "social issues."


Can I go yell into the sky, or do I need it's consent?
Posted 6/10/16

TRKitsune wrote:

Can I go yell into the sky, or do I need it's consent?

The sky is public to all, so you may, but you may not express an opinion, as it is public, and you could possibly offend someone.
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i guess
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as a panromantic, I am glad I don't need to have this dilemma
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I'd really like to understand how you are going to phrase this question without it sounding like an insult? I mean it's only if the person is actually transgender that it's not going to seem like a huge dig isn't it?

Imagine you are out on a date with a lady you just met, you are having a good time your really in to her and then she turns to you and says "hey did you used to be a chick? I'm totally getting the whole I used to pee sitting down vibe from you, am I right"? It's the gender equivalent of asking a fat girl when she's due...
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