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Because some people need some time to themselves, time for hobbies, time to hang out with other people (as in freinds or etc).
There is nothing worse than someone who cannot go a day without having to call you or a weekend without hanging out or do anything on their own or with other people or keep themselves occupied.
Of course this differs between if we are taking about a friend or a partner and if you live together or not.

Some clingy people come across as creepy like a stalker or someone who is unable to occupy themselves like "get a fucking hobbie" or "meet some other people" just seems some people cannot handle being alone or always get jealous or something?
It can be very annoying and even scarey.
Scarey thing is, i have experienced this with same gender friends more than with a females.
It's nice to be cared about but i mean i do not want to see ANYONE every single day or even every single weekend.. Of course if you have a partner this is different but even then you need some time to yourself and to hang out with your mates.


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The are just simply annoying.

I''ve had some clingy friends, one was a freshman in high school who just followed me all the time then this person who was constantly talking to me when I was studying hardcore.
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FlyinDumpling wrote:

The are just simply annoying.

I''ve had some clingy friends, one was a freshman in high school who just followed me all the time then this person who was constantly talking to me when I was studying hardcore.


Yeah man i've got a mate, thank fuck he's not as bad now but dude would call me every single day!? and sometimes multiple times a day. And one of those people that sometimes you cannot get off of the phone. Like hour long phone conversations.
And wants to hang out pretty much every single weekend.
Always wants to know what iam doing, i even get texts that simply say "what u doin"...
And sometimes if you do not answer he will call and call and call as if its and emergency (when it is far from it) and will just not take a hint.
Like i might be out in the garden or alseep with phone on silent or in shower, etc and he will just keep calling and sometimes get angry lol

It's like he always wants to know what iam doing or who iam with with and i always need to explain myself to him. Like justify my actions or give reasons or excuses or something lol!......

He always wants to be informed and included in EVERYTHING! even if its something he's not interested in or if he wouldn't have the money for or etc.

He's just not normal. He needs a job and to meet new people because i like time to myself and i have other friends he dose not know and other friends that do not like him and etc

He's even bought me clothes...

you'd swear i was talking about a woman who was in love me or something hey......

Oh and it was bad when i couldn't even escape on line in game cos he had me on steam and origin and then there is facebook and that also.







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...wow. Just amazing what clingers are like.
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Confucius say, good clingy woman like Velcro: stay on when need, come off when want.
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Theres a difference between someone who is genuinely interested in spending time with you and someone who is dependant on you. I think the word clingy is supposed to mean the latter, and generaly this is a bother because it means that the individual is not capable of living life on their own to begin with, which causes problems in the relationship because they become an emotional and perhaps financial drain on their partner.

For relationships to work, both have to be happy with the level of interactions they require from each other, otherwise it won't work. But one has to be careful as people do not advertise attachement disorders they may have before commiting to a relationship. For more on attachement disorders and characteristics and traits of people who have them a google search will be helpful.

Sometimes I see a relationship like getting a pet. Sometimes you get a dog, which requires a lot of care and attention sometimes you get a goldfish which requires hardly any at all. You have to know what kind of pet you want first and what kind of pet your prospective other is.
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Mabe the problem with clingyness is that is assumes it's the other person's problem for not getting enough out of the relationship and thay are seen as a nuisance.
What if the clingy person is normal and you are cold and distant, just not by your own standards?

I think that thinking twice about how one's actions and activities affect the other is a sign of a healthy relationship and that the goal is to live as though you were sharing part of your lifestyle.
Posted 6/12/16
Clingy people no thanks I need my space emotionally unstable people need to stay away because
I do not have time for that I lead a busy life to have a clingy friend always there is not going work.
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pmjgoux wrote:

Theres a difference between someone who is genuinely interested in spending time with you and someone who is dependant on you. I think the word clingy is supposed to mean the latter, and generaly this is a bother because it means that the individual is not capable of living life on their own to begin with, which causes problems in the relationship because they become an emotional and perhaps financial drain on their partner.

For relationships to work, both have to be happy with the level of interactions they require from each other, otherwise it won't work. But one has to be careful as people do not advertise attachement disorders they may have before commiting to a relationship. For more on attachement disorders and characteristics and traits of people who have them a google search will be helpful.

Sometimes I see a relationship like getting a pet. Sometimes you get a dog, which requires a lot of care and attention sometimes you get a goldfish which requires hardly any at all. You have to know what kind of pet you want first and what kind of pet your prospective other is.


Oh this. You put it so much better than I did.
For the record, I'm a cat person.

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i guess it seems like that person is too dependent on their s.o., needs constant supports, etc...?
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It can be annoying, sometimes you need space, regardless of who you are. Also yeah dependence is too much
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Clingy people in my experience expect to be the center of their partner's attention. They expect that the partner will prioritize them over all other friends or family. They expect the partner to solve all their problems and make all the decisions such as where to go out to eat or what movie to go to. They also expect that the partner will always make the same choices that they want even when they don't express any preference, so basically they think that their partner should read their mind or somehow know through osmosis what they want.

This creates all kinds of problems, kind of like having a child clinging to you saying, "mommy, Mommy, MOMMY!" Constantly to get your attention. Basic living requires earning money and when they constantly call or text when you're at work it can interfere and some bosses would fire you if you spend the time trying to respond. Even though I do place my partner as more important than other relationships, it doesn't mean I won't do things with my family or friends. They are also important to me, and ideally my partner would enjoy time with them as much as I do. I don't want to make all the choices and get blasted when I don't make the same decisions they would have. It's exhausting and makes me feel unappreciated since they never give kudos for the right choice.
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Clingy is cute, too clingy may want you to have time to yourself.
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pmjgoux wrote:

Theres a difference between someone who is genuinely interested in spending time with you and someone who is dependant on you. I think the word clingy is supposed to mean the latter, and generaly this is a bother because it means that the individual is not capable of living life on their own to begin with, which causes problems in the relationship because they become an emotional and perhaps financial drain on their partner.

For relationships to work, both have to be happy with the level of interactions they require from each other, otherwise it won't work. But one has to be careful as people do not advertise attachement disorders they may have before commiting to a relationship. For more on attachement disorders and characteristics and traits of people who have them a google search will be helpful.

Sometimes I see a relationship like getting a pet. Sometimes you get a dog, which requires a lot of care and attention sometimes you get a goldfish which requires hardly any at all. You have to know what kind of pet you want first and what kind of pet your prospective other is.


Yeah good post.
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Because my mind and body literally can't take talking to you 24/7. I have limits to the amount of social interaction I can do in a day, and it's pretty low. Push me to interact and I'll become anxious which will just result in even more fatigue.

Clingy doesn't equal loyal or loving. In fact a clingy person is much more likely to throw me the fuck out when I can't satisfy the absurd social needs.
Independent but still loving and loyal? Great.
Clingy? No thanks.

Alone time is my way of resting, my body needs it, my mind needs it.


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