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So, are people with low self esteem a little bit selfish? Is there a difference between low self esteem and selfishness?


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I have low self esteem and I can't stand being hated by anyone. The thought of being hated by someone is like being killed. I can't stand it. I have to be liked or on someone's good side because if I'm not I'm practically dead. But I hate feeling like this and I don't want to have low self esteem. But it's hard to get rid of. I can see a therapist and talk about my problems but is that enough. I feel like I'm selfish too because of my low self esteem. Does anyone else feel like this? Do you know someone who is like this? How does one slowly get over their low self esteem?


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Having low self esteem and having a need for validation are different things. People with low self esteem can be annoying (COUGH ME cough COUGH), but the constant need for validation and acceptance is a bit unbearable.
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There's only one important rule in life. You have to look out for number one, which is yourself. So you are allowed to be selfish. As for your low self esteem, you just need to learn to not give a rat's ass about what anyone thinks about you, you can't make everyone happy. It's tough but I have faith you can overcome this.
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yes. Having low self esteem means that your behavior will ultimately become selfish since you really have no care in your own actions.

Is there a difference? being careless towards your own actions, nope I don't see the difference if you don't give a shit about yourself, you wont give a shit about what you are doing, so you wont give a shit about others, no matter how nice of a person you are, the feeling of being worthless will take over.

Thats why I like to be happy and positive. I guess being selfish is completely different when you are doing something for your own happiness as it will somehow effect others, and thats what really annoys me, but if people accept your on and off approach, that makes me happy
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Hail_King_Kakao wrote:

Having low self esteem and having a need for validation are different things. People with low self esteem can be annoying (COUGH ME cough COUGH), but the constant need for validation and acceptance is a bit unbearable.


I guess I'm annoying then.
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qualeshia3 wrote:

I guess I'm annoying then.


Sorry babes, I still like you though, keep making those threads. <3
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Hail_King_Kakao wrote:


qualeshia3 wrote:

I guess I'm annoying then.


Sorry babes, I still like you though, keep making those threads. <3


Thank you.
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idk bc im awesome
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idk bc im awesome


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I have low self esteem but I couldn't careless if people hate me or not
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stars201 wrote:

I have low self esteem but I couldn't careless if people hate me or not


Wait a minute! How does that work?!
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As soon as you learn you can't please everyone and learn to not care about the opinions of idiots you'll quickly find you have way less issues.
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Maid4U wrote:

As soon as you learn you can't please everyone and learn to not care about the opinions of idiots you'll quickly find you have way less issues.


I wish that it was that easy.
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Maid4U wrote:

As soon as you learn you can't please everyone and learn to not care about the opinions of idiots you'll quickly find you have way less issues.


I wish that it was that easy.


I used to care what everyone thought it was torture I was heading in a bad direction living based on what others wanted and not myself then I wised up blocked out everything finally found myself and what I wanted and never looked back.
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Maid4U wrote:


qualeshia3 wrote:


Maid4U wrote:

As soon as you learn you can't please everyone and learn to not care about the opinions of idiots you'll quickly find you have way less issues.


I wish that it was that easy.


I used to care what everyone thought it was torture I was heading in a bad direction living based on what others wanted and not myself then I wised up blocked out everything finally found myself and what I wanted and never looked back.


When did you decide to wise up?
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