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Yes...but lately I don't really know how I feel about marriage as a concept.
I don't want anyone there
I don't want to spend a ton of money
If I could get it to go that'd be swell.
Maybe a Las Vegas wedding with Elvis Presley.

Having your own person who's gonna like you regardless of how lame you get is great
but I never want children.




you don't need to spend alot of money also just be with someone who doesn't want children?
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Bonus points if you decide you do want to get married before deciding on who to.
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I am married-- Its wonderful. My life is bliss, I love my husband so very much. <3
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Marriage, however you do it, is a life long commitment to someone to be there for them, and them for you. To love honor, support and cherish forever is not something to be entered into lightly and is not easy for anyone.. If you do find the right person, and you're willing to work together, then there is no better way to navigate this life then together.
I am one that has achieved this and can tell you it is real if you want it badly enough.


This is all too true, as I myself can attest to this as well. My husband and I are blissfully happy. People just need to know WHAT they want in a person and be wiling to do whatever is within legal limits and within kindness limits to find and keep their partner-- 13 years I have been with my husband. 13. I keep falling more in love with him and he with me by the day, we never really argue-- not over money, even. We are often called old fashioned as we never give up on our relationship. <3
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If I can find someone to spend my life and have kids with, then yes, I'd like to get married. I hope I can find someone who loves to travel as much as I do, and such.
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I don't even know, honestly. I used to really want to but it doesn't seem so appealing anymore.


Same here
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I don't know, maybe I'd just live in with someone rather get get married
so if ever we fall out of love we don't have to sign those pesky divorce papers.
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Yes because i see it as a form of contract binding two people together a promise that they won't stray or leave but if they do there will be consequences.

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No! No soup for you! Next please!
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I do. I am not exactly pursuing it, because she'll have to be compatible obviously, and I don't know too many of those - and I know zero single women that might be compatible.

I like the idea of having someone to share my time with. I think it would be awesome to have someone to share my thoughts and ideas with as well, and it would feel good to have someone rely on me, I think. It all sounds good on paper anyway.

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No. I'm afraid if I get married that person is going to want a kid.


I don't know if you're in a relationship or not. If not and the time comes that you're ever in a serious relationship or if you find someone you'd like to be in a relationship with then be up front and honest from the get go. Just tell them that you do NOT want kids at this time or ever if that's the case. If you ever do want to be married don't let the fear of your partner wanting a child stop you. Honestly, you sound like the dream wife of at least 70% of the guys out there lol. And if they love you they will not try to pressure you into having a child later, especially if you already talked to them about not wanting to have kids.

It takes a very strong person to be a parent. Actually, let me rephrase that. It takes a very strong person to be a good parent. It also takes a very strong person to know their limits and to stand up for what they do or don't want.

There's a lot of reasons a lot of us guys don't want children. For me personally a few of the reasons are:
1. I know I'd have to put my child first and I have too much baggage to put anyone else first at this moment. I still have a lot of work I need to do on me as well as a lot of growing up to do. It's not a matter of love. I have that in spades but love doesn't pay the bills and put a kid through college.

2. I would really REALLY hate to play the genetic lottery. I usually lose at games of chance and I would really hate to pass down my predispositions to addiction, depression and anxiety to an innocent child. It sucked bad enough for me growing up with those. It would break my heart to watch my child suffer from it too.

3. I hate changing diapers....period. I'll do it. I've done it. Don't like it though.

4. I rarely find babies cute. Once they get older they can be pretty adorable but babies = freaky looking aliens. Although I saw an extremely adorable baby with a big lock of red hair the other day. She was pretty cute for a baby.

5. I'm not sure I'm the right person to teach a child. I can only imagine it now. He/she would be getting sent home the first day of kindergarten after telling the teacher he/she doesn't require nap time and wants to keep playing because dammit this is a free country and I can do what I want. The Dead Kennedy's shirt probably wouldn't help her case either.

So don't sweat it. There's a lot of guys out there who don't want kids. There's a lot of women who don't want kids either. Just stay true to yourself and you always have the option of changing your mind later if that's what you want. If not that's awesome too.
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Yes because i see it as a form of contract binding two people together a promise that they won't stray or leave but if they do there will be consequences.



So dating is marriage and marriage is dating, or at least that is what seems to be the Internet suggests dating is.
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gornotck wrote:


Ryulightorb wrote:

Yes because i see it as a form of contract binding two people together a promise that they won't stray or leave but if they do there will be consequences.



So dating is marriage and marriage is dating, or at least that is what seems to be the Internet suggests dating is.


I don't remember dating being a contract....
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Short answer, yes.

Sadly it doesn't look like it will happen anytime soon.
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Spend my life with? Yes. Marriage? There are unavoidable merits in regards to law, despite its cons. I'm not fond of the marriage institution, so promoting it makes me slightly bitter. I like the concept of marriage, but not parts of the state's involvement. Unfortunately cohabitation has far more legal cons--especially with the involvement of children.

In the end, I suppose. My boy is likely to want to get married as well--but it'll be an extremely small affair if anything.

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