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Girlfriend doesn't want me to have manga collection
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Posted 6/15/16

Elvikun wrote:


cavempt wrote:


Elvikun wrote:

My anime, manga and Warhammer doesn't want me to have a girlfriend or boyfriend. It sasy they take up space and time, nag a lot. I value my anime, manga and Warhammer enough to respect that.

So should you.


haha, hey i love my anime too, but i do value my relationship with my girlfriend more. i guess we have different priorities in life. nice avatar btw


Your girlfrind will inevitably leave you, for any reason. Might be the next week, next month, next year, after 10 years... But it will happen. But your anime, manga and inanimate objects will always love you. They don't want you to change, grow up, do things you dislike. They don't stain your bath, they don't leave dirty laundry in your bookshelf for gods know what reason, they don't drop food on the carpet and leave it there... *cough cough* ANYWAY... Why, this barely is something needeng a consideration.


Jokes aside tho, because I was totally joking, especially when giving specific examples *COUGH COUGH*, don't trust people who want you to change. Sure, one day, your collectibles take too much space, but the next, is it really worth it to have them stored? How about you sell them? Oh and you spend so much time on the PC. You need to act like an adult.

I'm sure you know where I'm heading there. Some stereotypes are way too true, and if your partner can't accept "Hey, I actually love this thing" it might be a good idea to sit down and thing about this.


That's pretty much my thought on the process too. I've been really picky in my relationships and always watching for 'red flags', so to speak. And they don't have to be physically abusive. It's always the little things that turn into bigger things that get out of control. I've been through it with a couple people and I never need that in my life again. So if someone asks me to do something I really think about it and weigh my options. Some things, like my hobbies, mean I don't back down. Even in a shared space, half that space is yours because you're paying for it and it's not only one person's house/apartment/whatever. So that means compromise, sure, but it doesn't mean 'where can I store/hide my things so x person doesn't need to see them anymore'.

It's taken me a while but I've finally found someone who really understands where I'm coming from and he has his hobbies too. We share the anime stuff, but I like BJDs and he likes wrestling and soccer.. Neither of us are expecting the other to hide these things because we don't agree that the same stuff is awesome. The place we're moving into in the spring is his and mine, meaning I can have my dolls out and he can have his soccer towels and whatnot out. Even if it means that we each have a room for our stuff it still means we can have these things displayed around us because it's what we love. If either of us were expecting the other to hide or store the other persons' things because we didn't personally like it then that's not a compromise. That's controlling.
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If she is already starting to tell you how to live your life as your girlfriend then just think how controlling she will become as your wife.


Not necessarily. They're sharing the same bedroom -- it's her room too. If she doesn't want to stare at half-naked cartoon girls on the shelf, then yeah you should understand.

If she's not controlling with your anime/manga, except for this... and if you think she's worth it... then all you really have to do is keep your manga collection in your garage, or in a box... and in the trunk of your car.

Not really a big deal, just hide it in a box somewhere she can't see it. Problem solved.
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You guys can not be serious with the "leave her" remarks. -__- Keep the girl because who knows when you are going to get another girlfriend...
But in all seriousness, both of you guys are on equal ground and just prove that you can be responsible for your collection.
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Posted 6/15/16

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No offense, but, especially considering your edits to the OP, your title seems awfully misleading. Unintentional, I assume.


You asked for advice, no? You're going to get a myriad of responses. Now that you have come to a conclusion and don't appear to want to budge on it, I suggest going ahead and asking a mod to close this thread.
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As someone who likes collecting things, "put it in a box" is not a solution. I want to display the things I like. Thats the reason I make sure to buy nice/undamaged things.
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aeb0717 wrote:

No offense, but, especially considering your edits to the OP, your title seems awfully misleading. Unintentional, I assume.


You asked for advice, no? You're going to get a myriad of responses. Now that you have come to a conclusion and don't appear to want to budge on it, I suggest going ahead and asking a mod to close this thread.


yea any chance the title was misleading was totally unintentional, i was a little more emotional when i made the first post. my bad. i made more edits after i received some constructive advice from a few users and was able to collect my thoughts more clearly.

i agree. how do i go about asking a mod to close a thread?
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Posted 6/15/16

cavempt wrote:


yea any chance the title was misleading was totally unintentional, i was a little more emotional when i made the first post. my bad. i made more edits after i received some constructive advice from a few users and was able to collect my thoughts more clearly.

i agree. how do i go about asking a mod to close a thread?


On your OP, you can press the "Report to Moderator" and ask to have your thread closed. If you want, you can pm a mod directly. Here's a link to Lorreen;
http://www.crunchyroll.com/user/lorreen
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My father brings a lot of stuff into my home my mom doesn't like but she respects and treats him like an adult.
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You guys can not be serious with the "leave her" remarks. -__- Keep the girl because who knows when you are going to get another girlfriend...
But in all seriousness, both of you guys are on equal ground and just prove that you can be responsible for your collection.


"Who knows when you are going to get another girlfriend" isn't a justifiable reason for keeping one. There are plenty of people out there.

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I feel like we're all having a bit of a tantrum at this stage. The problem has been solved, I think.
Can't we save our neuroses for other threads? I prefer my crazy in simple categories.
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Wait, it's YOUR house that YOU bought and now YOUR girlfriend is telling YOU what you can do in YOUR place that YOU bought and paid for?

Yeah, unless YOU want to give her YOUR house when she takes 50% in the divorce, I'd start looking for ways to cushion the blow on the way out the door for her. It will not end well. Just wait until she screams at you for two hours because the spoons didn't get put away correctly to her standards.
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Clearly your manga collection must be in the kitchen, simply move it to another room. That way she won't have to look at it while she is busy making you sammiches, as she should be.
Posted 6/15/16
Sacrifice her to the gods! Or demons. Whichever floats your boat.
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