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Posted 6/23/16
1) Let's say you want to continue the relationship with the 63 year old woman. How would you handle this as a man?
Confront her about the lie. I wouldn't keep it to myself. The lie is the issue, the fact that she didn't trust you enough to tell you the truth after that point in a relationship is a huge red flag. What else did she lie about if she's lying about something which really is irrelevant?

2) How would this revelation affect your relationship?
To me, trust would be an issue. With trust broken, it's hard to repair the relationship. I know this may seem like a minor issue, but if you're being honest with yourself it will make a person question a lot about the relationship. I'm not saying the relationship can't be repaired, but when trust is violated, it's hard for people.

3) What sort of age related conflict would occur between you and your 63 year old girlfriend?
I'm not sure.
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Posted 6/23/16 , edited 6/23/16

macht_gut wrote:


EichiXIII wrote:


brookline wrote:

1) Let's say you want to continue the relationship with the 63 year old woman. How would you handle this as a man?

That kind of an age gap at those ages really isn't a big deal. If I wanted to continue the relationship I obviously like her despite her age so I would continue on as if it were nothing.


2) how would this revelation affect your relationship?

It wouldn't because it shouldn't. If I like her for her then what does the age matter?


3) what sort of age related conflict would occur between you and your 63 year old girlfriend?

Obviously none so far if things have already been going so well that we live together.


I agree with the above statements. The reason she probably never mention her age was that she thought it was not important. Or she felt that even though, they were a match, he might leave her because of the age difference and not because of lack of common interest.


My thoughts exactly. I agree with you both. Age is meaningless (as long as two people are consenting adults) and everyone pretty much lies about their age to someone and at some point anyway. If everything else is fine then who would care? One little lie shouldn't derail years of happiness and bliss and if a relationship can't survive that then it wasn't a very strong relationship in the first place. I don't really care that people lie. I'm more concerned about the "why" behind the lie. Not every lie is told to be mean or out of anger. Some are told as a defensive mechanism and others are told to protect someone else's thoughts or feelings. Why someone lied is always more important than the actual lie itself.
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Dump her and find me an 18 year old instead.
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How old did this woman say she was originally? I mean...some people look young for their age but I don't think you can cover up 63 so easily
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She says she's 53 instead of 63.
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Posted 6/23/16 , edited 6/23/16
well...a decade isn't too bad.


Posted 6/23/16
I wouldn't care. I would come to the understanding that she is self conscious about her age and tell her that it's okay being the age she is. Having said that, I don't ever imagine such an incident happening in the first place
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She just wants to use him to extend her necromantic immortality.
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