Post Reply What to do if someone smashes you when you give them help
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Posted 6/23/16
One of my facebook friends just hit me up for Japanese learning advice. He is using a program I know only in passing and have only done demos of it and I don't like it and prefer to use something else that I feel is better. I didn't really understand what he was trying to ask me if anything. When I tried to explain to him what he would need to be able to do and listed something things, he got snippy with me and I just abandoned the conversation basically saying: "Come back to me when you've cooled down, learned to show respect and/or have a real question to ask me and not waste my time"

All I can do is shake my head and go "Whatever" I tried to over some hints and advice but he didn't want to take it, so F-him!

Am I wrong for my handling of the situation? What would you do if you were me?
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Posted 6/23/16
I hate it when someone asks me for my advice or opinion and then turns around and gets bitchy with me about it. Don't ask for my advice if you don't want it.
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Posted 6/23/16
Smash them into the ground and take their wallets. That'll teach them.
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Posted 6/23/16
Tell them to F**k off and ask someone else who will put up with their shit.
Posted 6/23/16
Never talk to him ever again
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Posted 6/23/16

gornotck wrote:

Smash them into the ground and take their wallets. That'll teach them.


AND their pants.
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Posted 6/23/16
No. Try not to make friends with hotheads; if he gets angry over something trivial like that and treats you differently then that shows what your friendship is worth to him.

Just my advice.
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Posted 6/27/16
Hey, you're not 52. :p

Anyways, like the rest say, stay away from people like this. This is something trivial and this person somehow mad it turn into an attack. Toxic people like that are infamous for abusive relationships, whether it be a friend or SO. Cut this person off from your life. I can guarantee there are far more tolerant people.
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Posted 6/28/16
Sometimes when people ask for help, they're asking you to do more than help and will abuse you if they think it will force the situation.
There is no point helping people that do this because they don't appreciate their situation and you can't help someone that doesn't want to be helped, even if that's what they're pretending to ask for.
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52 / F / Philadelphia, PA,...
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Posted 6/28/16
@Cero_of_Clouds

Yeah....I'm really 52.... Perhaps I should elaborate a little:
It's was just that he was the one that came to me first, via FB Messenger when I was trying to work on one of my pages. He interrupted ME with one of his out of the blue comments; that his lessons were driving him crazy and appended it by saying he was using a foreign language computer program that he had bought and was asking whether or not ever used it. I told him I only demoed it and found it wasn't want I needed, that it was too basic. He got a little upset and I think it was because he didn't want to feel he wasted his money if the program wasn't going to help him. I gave him advice on what other things were out there but it turned into a frustrating exercise for him with him coping a very immature attitude, and I just lost interest in the conversation. I have better things to do with my time then dealing with someone else's petty crap. I offered my advice, he raised a fuss. I cut off the conversation.

UGH, it's just the petty BS I just don't want to handle. He's okay other than that. It was just this one isolated incident that I found troubling.

Thanks everyone for all your comments. I was amused by some of them. :)
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