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Xxanthar wrote:

I would just avoid them when they are hanging out with someone that I dislike. I don't see it as petty, more like keeping the peace. I wouldn't totally give up the friend though unless they are hanging out with someone who killed my dog or something.


I should've reworded it a bit, but whether or not it's petty(To me) depends on how bad your relationship with the other guy is. Personally, I can be around someone I dislike and a friend as long as I know for a fact that we won't start shit with each other. If it's inevitable that it'll cause drama then yea, I'd avoid hanging out with my friend while they're with the person I dislike.
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It depends on who the person is. I had a friend before that was still friends with a guy that I dated for a short while and that then turned around and harassed me for months on end when I broke up with him (he was psychotic). I didn't hold it against my friend to still be friends with him but I wouldn't go over there if he was there because I didn't need more of his bullshit drama in my life. (I dated him a month and he was the kind of person that thought that we should be 'together forever' and wanted to get married and... yeah, he was nuts. He was also just past 30 years old so it's not like this is a story from my teen years either.)
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I don't know if it's really petty to not want to hang out with a friend who's been hanging out with someone I dislike, especially if the reason I dislike them is valid. If I cared about this friend and we were close, I'd probably still talk to them and stuff, but I'd definitely question why they were hanging out with someone like that.
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My friends can do whatever they want. I may be the main character, but that doesn't mean I can just make the side characters act how I want them to.
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It depends. If it's just someone who rubs me the wrong way I'll be I don't wamt my friends to lie down with dogs and rise up with fleas.
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I did when I was young. My Mom explain to me that people had a right to choose their friends even if such friends were not friendly towards me. I grew up and realized my Mom words were true.
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I think whoever my friends hangout with outside of me is their own business. I won't stop being friends with someone just because they hangout with someone i don't like. I'd would not want to be around at the times when they're with that person but I wouldn't just withdraw completely because of something like that.
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i won't talk to said friend. but that's just cuz i assume the other person is a better friend than me and i dont wanna interrupt
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I'll be cool with my friend, but I probably wouldn't hang out with them if they were with said person. I don't like being around people I dislike.
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TrickedMJ wrote:

So, I was just thinking about how petty people can be and I got curious and want to ask you guys something. If your friend hangs out with someone you dislike will you not talk to your "friend" until he/she stops talking to that person, will you never hang out with your friend if that person is there? Or will you still be cool with your friend?


Initially I might. Generally I try to get over that kind of stuff.

Your friends are going to have other friends . . . some of those people you aren't going to like.

If you don't like your friends friends, so be it. If it becomes a problem for you you're going to have to figure out if it's just your problem or if you need to find new friends

One of the guys I went to school with was a really good friend to me for a while, then one day he decided he didn't like me any more. He never told me why. I kind of decided he was just being a flake and I figured he'd either "come around" and we'd be good friends again or not.

Turned out to be "not".

I tried a few times to mend things but being I had no idea what the problem was, there wasn't much I could do.

If you are on the other side of that kind of thing you might say something, at least try to be diplomatic.

If it is someone you just cannot get along with then stay away when they are there but don't penalize your friend for having other friends. I try not to.
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It will piss me off a bit, but I dont want
To be that friend that is over controlling with who they hang out with. So yeah
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If they can accept I don't want to be around that person, yeah, I'll still accept them.
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No that is petty as hell.

though i did hate someone once so much that i told my friend right to them that i was not comfortable being their friend if they were friends with said person...but i REALLY hated said person.
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i think it sometimes depends why and how much i dislike that other person for example: the dislike person said something along the lines they wish my son was never born and wish he vanish. then i stop talking to both cause thats fucked up. otherwise no idc at all.
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I had this happen years ago. The problem is I knew what the new friend really was due to being his "friend" years before. I told my friend flat out that if he gets along with him that's good just don't turn your back on him without waiting for the knife to come. I then proceeded to tell my friend that if he wants to hang with him it's well and good but keep me out of it. I made a deal with my friend to go out with him separately every now and then but that I didn't want to be within 500 ft of the new friend when I did. At first he accused me of being jealous, until the new friend showed his true colors. I hadn't told him about the lies his new "friend" spread about me in the past but once the ass started spewing the lies to him about me he knew them for what they were and kicked the guy's ass to the curb. I don't think of it as petty at all just watching out for yourself after trying t protect a friend.
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