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Well I don't plan to be friendless but between my career in the Primary Army Reserve, My day job, my work out routine, and my general disdain for drunks which make up 99% of the human race it seems I am not left with much time nor desire for friendship. It used to distress me but while it still bothers me I am beginning to become accustomed to it.
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Meh, it's debatable.

On one hand you can talk about things with friends. Then on the other hand you realize that what two people like, and what their mentality is, that is where I draw the line.

So here you have a friend who you can actually talk to, but at the end of the day, you hate their Fucking guts.

A prime example. Doesn't matter if I have known them for almost my entire life, at the end of the day we all grow up, but the sad truth is that some people don't grow up for all the wrong reasons. Sure they may capture the people around them, but I know who they really are, deep down, and I mean really deep down.

Not to say I myself have no shame, I have issues, I have flaws that are there, but the thing is, I try to go about fixing them to better myself, while I sit in day in and day out watching others like a broken record. It Fucking destroys you, I don't care who you are, when you physically see the same person for years with the same mentality, it's like they stopped living years ago.

It drives me insane, if there is one thing to drive me up a Fucking wall, it's people who just can't let go. I'd rather talk to myself, no word of a lie. At least I can keep myself happy, not having to hurt people, because i'm just so distant. I don't forget you, I still remember life stories of someone whome I never met, if something means that much to you I will never forget that moment.... I am simply living my life, and if you can't accept that.... I don't really care

So no, I don't care. If I am to meet new faces I shall remember them, if I am to connect with another I shall do so, but until then I can look up at the sky and watch the clouds for hours, listen to the birds sing, hear the sound of a gentle breeze making the trees dance. Life is about connection, I do not waste my time with parasites. My problem is that I listen too much, I say things that get people's hopes up, but what am I when I become something you never expected? What did you even expect of me in the first place? Is my life so little now in the face of truth?

Such is the endless circle we all run together. There is only soo much someone can understand before they realize who they really are. The moment we can truely see what kind of a person we must become.
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No, I have lots of friends.
"Don't I guys? Oh, and gal?"
"Yep!"
"See?"

Who cares if they're imaginary. We all have a good time regardless. And when I do something stupid I can just blame it on them. It's a win/win for me....and me.......and me.......but not the last guy over there. I don't remember his name. We just use him to pay the beer tab.

All joking aside I pretty much like my alone time. I could go out and socialize with friends but usually don't. If they don't see me for a year or two or five they understand.....which is why they're my friends. If they ever need me they know to call.
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These are good comments.
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Nope, I have friends.
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Why would you not want to have friends? I'm genuinely curious, because I've always been taught that friendship is like the most important thing you can have.

You don't need 30 friends, but I'd say you need at least one very good friend
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FUCK having friends
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FUCK having friends
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Nah, I love my idiotic friends.
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No. I do only a select few people in my life, but those who I let in I tend to remain close too.
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I have a few really good, close friends, and then a ton of acquaintances. Unfortunately most of my really close friends are all over the country so I don't get to see any of them very often. A couple of them I only get to see at Anime Central every year. One of them flies out sometimes and I fly down to him sometimes. I'm hoping another one I'll get to see more often soon here but who knows. And I'm moving away from the other one in the spring. x:
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Posted 6/29/16 , edited 6/29/16

Ocale wrote:

I have nearly nothing in common with anyone and hate pretty much everything in terms of activities and media. Goofing around is not fun 99% of the time, and that's all friends do together. At this point, I have grown used to not having friends, so doing things with others (like playing games online) is both scary and not particularly appealing. Being alone and doing things alone is now comforting.

Instead of make friends, I chat with random people that I never get personal with on forums or other similar things where I can post. A large problem, though, is that I only know how to talk about myself, since I have nothing in my life other than myself and the very few niche things that I happen to somewhat enjoy. Because of this, I'll appear narcissistic and whiney most of the time, and these traits might be true, but I don't know, it's hard to judge.

At this point, I don't think I can have a proper friendship. I never learned how to care about someone or to understand others' care for me.


This is a pretty edgy post so you can bet that it caught my attention. So, you're saying you relate only to 1% percent of the population around you and NO ONE shares a same basic interest with you? Are you on Bernie Sander's radar?

Edit: Btw if your* only interest is you, it may be in your best interest to seek counseling or maybe see a psych and be evaluated.
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Posted 6/29/16 , edited 6/29/16
Tis true I have no friends now. Why?

I don't mind being alone.
Posted 6/29/16


It's more a matter of finding someone that both has similar interests and is someone that I get along with. An example is mixing (like a DJ). The type of music I like to mix is getting more and more unpopular every day, and a large chunk of people who like it are from other countries and cannot speak English fluently. So, you've got an already unpopular hobby mixed with an unpopular genre and a language barrier. Now add the fact that I'm not fun and there's really no one for me to talk to about it, unless it's a one-sided conversation of me explaining my interests or the other person explaining theirs, which isn't enjoyable for either party, I don't think. And there's always the chance that people dislike me, too, because I'm edgy and a complete prig. Since there really isn't much else to talk about, so I default to talking about myself, because it's about all I have to offer, it's not that I'm my own interest.

Seeing a professional wouldn't do anything other than make people want to hire me less and cost me money.
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