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Cutting off contact with best friend?
Posted 6/28/16 , edited 6/28/16

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Should I cut off contact with my 'best friend'
Posted 6/28/16
Try telling him you want to be left alone for awhile

If that doesn't work, cut him off
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Posted 6/28/16
In my opinion you need to talk to him and explain the situation, both in the fact that he isn't your best friend and in the fact that he is bothering you. If doing this doesn't work then cut him off, but at least give him a chance to amend his actions.Personally I've been on both sides of the coin and knowing how it feels to be cut off from someone you thought was was a friend sucks,
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Posted 6/28/16
I think you should talk to him first (if you haven't)

maybe he doesn't realize how annoying he's being

it's kind of fair to just cut him off without saying anything, and I imagine it would hurt him greatly

just my opinion, though
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Posted 6/28/16 , edited 6/28/16
There are so many relationships in this life. Only one or two will last.
You go through all the pain and strife then you turn your back and they're gone so fast.
So hold on the ones who really care. In the end they'll be the only ones there.
And when you get old and start losing your hair, tell me who will still care. Can you tell me who will still care?
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Posted 6/28/16
I'm kinda that friend, minus the whole moving thing, I sometimes wonder if my best friend thinks of me as his best friend.

Anyway more to the point. I think you should stop him and have a conversation with him, draw the line, tell him what you think. That's what I'd want from my friend honestly. And if he keeps at it tell him you're done being his friend.
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Posted 6/28/16
I personally think that just cutting him off without saying anything first is only going to make the situation worse. Right now the best option is to talk to him in a very serious manner, make him notice that he's making you feel uncomfortable, just try not to sound angry or annoyed at him because it would make him feel awful. I know you find him annoying right now but saying it right in his face without thinking won't do any good.

I really hope it doesn't get to the point of involving the law in all of this, but I just think that it's better to talk first and then make a decision depending on how the situation develops afterwards.
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Posted 6/28/16 , edited 6/28/16
From what I can see, if he hasn't gotten the hint yet, then you need to tell him clear-cut that you aren't interested: if you value his friendship, but just aren't interested, that is.

If he becomes stalkerish or won't leave you alone after that point, then he's not the kind of person you should associate yourself with, anyway.

If you just don't like him or find him creepy or whatever, don't feel bad about cutting contact with him, if you just want to be nice about it, start "introducing" things that you need to be doing so that you can excuse yourself from talking with him and slowly reduce the time you talk with him daily/weekly until you are no longer associating with each other.
Posted 6/28/16
Gotta talk it out before you cut it off. If it's a relationship that you think is worth having, you have to try for it.
Posted 6/28/16
Maybe your best friend was a bumhole.
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Posted 6/28/16

Velvet_Crowe wrote:


Tl;dr
Should I cut off contact with my 'best friend'


imo talk to him and if he won't listen then cut off all contact.
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Posted 6/28/16
That person sounds sad. I would cut my loses with him and get on with my life.

Try talking to him and let him know how you feel about all of this.
Posted 6/28/16
Give him an ultimatum, if that doesn't fix it cut him off.
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Posted 6/28/16
Well that's kind of hard to awnser and only you will really know what it is you want. That being said i would probably talk to him and tell him he's being to clingy and you need some space. If that doesn't work i'd just cut contact.

I had a similar experience when i was in high school but it's long and doubt you'd want to hear it. Anyway the main point was that we became different people, i tried to become more mature and to be a better person while he did the complete opposite. Not too long ago i ran into a buddy of mine from high school and he told me he's quite the scumbag now a days which made me glad i stopped hanging out with him.
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Posted 6/28/16
Yeah, I'd cut him off. Though, I have more or less cut off all but two friends. To be honest I'm happier for it. Way less anxiety.
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