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Getting a record player really helped me enjoy getting new music again. Instead of just getting whatever you want, whenever you want it, online, no charge, you actually have to go looking for what you want. It's so exciting browsing record stores and finding music you would never think to look for otherwise. And when you have the records, listening to music becomes an event . Getting the record out of the sleeve, cleaning the dust, placing the needle, and the anticipation before the needle finds the first groove; I really appreciate the music I'm hearing more when I have to work a little to get it.
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trmjkd989 wrote:

Video Games? Pointless waste of time... just Youtube walkthrough videos and save $60.



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It's the future though. Yeah our patience with things will decrease but I think we understand common courtesy not to act like a spoiled brat about it.
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I feel the same thing. I'm a spoiled guy when it comes to things I'm used to get easily.

If anything, it affected my patience. I still have things in life that are impossible to get instant gratification from, and still able to find challenges I want to take on, so it balances out.

There is always a breed of people that can't stay bathing in self-indulgence for too long, always trying to push themselves towards something new in their lives. As cliche as it sounds, doing exercise kicks your ass out of your world of easy pleasures, and bring a different vibe and colors to your everyday life.

I suggest you read Master by Robert Greene. It might open your mind in regards of this thread's theme.
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I strangely have more patience for books than video games but I still have difficulties focusing.

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Only when it comes to music, I just need it right away. I guess I'll buy albums and CDs, but honestly, one push of a button and I have it right away. That's just the way things are.

I find myself becoming invested with ease of access. To lazy to go to a bank and withdraw cash, just tap a plastic chip and thank you good bye.

Patience? Well the thing is, when I realized what I can do with my time, my patience wore thin. I guess I see life almost in the business world when it comes to money, how I spend money, and if I don't recieve instant gratification, then what the fuck am I paying you for?

Don't get me wrong, I am a patient man, there are things I will pay for just to wait for it. Like commissions, or certain purchases that must be shipped, rain checks, items of value and importance that don't come to you in seconds.

Patience for games, fuck I'm not 18 anymore where I can spend 6-8 hours playing a game living with my parents, now I have to actually provide for myself and move forward, that's why I only invest my time in tablet games, or the ocassional multiplayer, and tapping into the classics, 2-3 hours max.

Again when you realize what little time we actually have, I just enjoy the simpler things in life. It makes time go slower, because you can appreciate things more. Go for a walk, or a bike ride, start exploring. Find ways to make things worth while.

Fuck I feel sorry for the new generation of kids, parents just throwing them tablets, exposing them to WiFi signals, and all this other crap that turns children into crying whining pieces of shit, no family values, no ambition, its Fucking Disgusting, but hey, that's the price we pay to move forward. Start building up off the green grass and into the empty air, pretty soon kids won't know what a tree is, complete airheads, hey it makes sense now.
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Sailor Moon sure looks scary in the new version.
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food is killing my wallet at the moment

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Finding books that I want to read online to torrent is a lot more of a problem than it is easy to find haha. It's easier for me to just be at work and go 'okay, these four came out today, let's buy them'. Either way they just go into a never-ending pile that I feel bad about anyways.

But I definitely understand what you mean. It's gotten easier to do everything and find everything these days. It got me in major trouble with figure collecting because it's so easy to just click the shiny pre-order button and then not worry about it until it comes up for order. It's easy to find anime that I haven't seen or torrent stuff that isn't licensed. It's easy to find manga, it's easy to find games (and even easier if you have Steam). It's easy to find other people into the same hobbies and talk incessantly about it and recommend stuff to each other and be immediately able to find and download whatever it is you're talking about. Music is the same way.

Though I still have a sense of accomplishment and I still have long term goals that I feel good achieving. For things that are easy to find or easily purchased/downloaded there are sites that you can catalogue them on sites like myanimelist or goodreads. Goodreads has a great thing every year too where you can put down your reading goal of x amount of books for the year. I always do more than the year before and it feels good to reach and surpass those goals. I still like completing video games, and while I'm not a trophy hunter (a lot of times I feel like trophies came out too far into my personal gaming years because I've never felt the need for them ever since they started up but I know a lot of people do like them) I still really love the storyline in games. I still play the hell out of shmups and stuff too, I love games that take a lot of skill and time to be good at them.
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xzard wrote:

I feel the same thing. I'm a spoiled guy when it comes to things I'm used to get easily.

If anything, it affected my patience. I still have things in life that are impossible to get instant gratification from, and still able to find challenges I want to take on, so it balances out.

There is always a breed of people that can't stay bathing in self-indulgence for too long, always trying to push themselves towards something new in their lives. As cliche as it sounds, doing exercise kicks your ass out of your world of easy pleasures, and bring a different vibe and colors to your everyday life.

I suggest you read Master by Robert Greene. It might open your mind in regards of this thread's theme.


Yeah, for me the thing is that overloading yourself with non-stop instant gratification sort of "cheapens" the experience for me. I know it sounds stupid, but things that are harder to obtain just seem to have more value to me. Hilariously enough, this actually perfectly describes how my dating life has been over the years. I've been insanely attracted to women that were hard to get, but women that were all over me before I did anything were an instant turn off for me. *shrug* I guess it's just how I am. If I don't "work" towards something, it just feels cheap.

On the topic of exercising, I'm a hardcore lifting addict lol. I have an extremely addicting personality, so I've tried to find something that is a bit of a "healthy" addiction I guess. And I will check out that book you suggested.
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softhesquirrel wrote:

Getting a record player really helped me enjoy getting new music again. Instead of just getting whatever you want, whenever you want it, online, no charge, you actually have to go looking for what you want. It's so exciting browsing record stores and finding music you would never think to look for otherwise. And when you have the records, listening to music becomes an event . Getting the record out of the sleeve, cleaning the dust, placing the needle, and the anticipation before the needle finds the first groove; I really appreciate the music I'm hearing more when I have to work a little to get it.


Before Youtube/iTunes took over I was really into classic rock music and music from other countries. So getting a hold of this music wasn't exactly easy. Scavenging the internet took some time, but it was exciting when you finally found it. I used to visit message boards and exchange rare bootlegs of concerts with people. There was this "exclusivity" about doing all of this. Now with Youtube, there's really no point in having to do all of that anymore. All of the rare bootlegs I have through trading are all easily available on Youtube. I mean, I can't be upset that it's easier to find (especially for newcomers) but it's not the same you know? just a superficial complaint really.
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Finding books that I want to read online to torrent is a lot more of a problem than it is easy to find haha. It's easier for me to just be at work and go 'okay, these four came out today, let's buy them'. Either way they just go into a never-ending pile that I feel bad about anyways.

But I definitely understand what you mean. It's gotten easier to do everything and find everything these days. It got me in major trouble with figure collecting because it's so easy to just click the shiny pre-order button and then not worry about it until it comes up for order. It's easy to find anime that I haven't seen or torrent stuff that isn't licensed. It's easy to find manga, it's easy to find games (and even easier if you have Steam). It's easy to find other people into the same hobbies and talk incessantly about it and recommend stuff to each other and be immediately able to find and download whatever it is you're talking about. Music is the same way.

Though I still have a sense of accomplishment and I still have long term goals that I feel good achieving. For things that are easy to find or easily purchased/downloaded there are sites that you can catalogue them on sites like myanimelist or goodreads. Goodreads has a great thing every year too where you can put down your reading goal of x amount of books for the year. I always do more than the year before and it feels good to reach and surpass those goals. I still like completing video games, and while I'm not a trophy hunter (a lot of times I feel like trophies came out too far into my personal gaming years because I've never felt the need for them ever since they started up but I know a lot of people do like them) I still really love the storyline in games. I still play the hell out of shmups and stuff too, I love games that take a lot of skill and time to be good at them.


Exactly! I don't have an issue at all with how easy it is for things to be found these days. It encourages more people to branch out into multiple hobbies. But there definitely is something special about having to do a little work to find something and enjoying it. People like me though tend to go a bit overboard with our addictions to wanting everything instantly. Kinda makes life a bit boring when everything is so easy to get.
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IshokuOsero wrote:

Finding books that I want to read online to torrent is a lot more of a problem than it is easy to find haha. It's easier for me to just be at work and go 'okay, these four came out today, let's buy them'. Either way they just go into a never-ending pile that I feel bad about anyways.

But I definitely understand what you mean. It's gotten easier to do everything and find everything these days. It got me in major trouble with figure collecting because it's so easy to just click the shiny pre-order button and then not worry about it until it comes up for order. It's easy to find anime that I haven't seen or torrent stuff that isn't licensed. It's easy to find manga, it's easy to find games (and even easier if you have Steam). It's easy to find other people into the same hobbies and talk incessantly about it and recommend stuff to each other and be immediately able to find and download whatever it is you're talking about. Music is the same way.

Though I still have a sense of accomplishment and I still have long term goals that I feel good achieving. For things that are easy to find or easily purchased/downloaded there are sites that you can catalogue them on sites like myanimelist or goodreads. Goodreads has a great thing every year too where you can put down your reading goal of x amount of books for the year. I always do more than the year before and it feels good to reach and surpass those goals. I still like completing video games, and while I'm not a trophy hunter (a lot of times I feel like trophies came out too far into my personal gaming years because I've never felt the need for them ever since they started up but I know a lot of people do like them) I still really love the storyline in games. I still play the hell out of shmups and stuff too, I love games that take a lot of skill and time to be good at them.


Exactly! I don't have an issue at all with how easy it is for things to be found these days. It encourages more people to branch out into multiple hobbies. But there definitely is something special about having to do a little work to find something and enjoying it. People like me though tend to go a bit overboard with our addictions to wanting everything instantly. Kinda makes life a bit boring when everything is so easy to get.


Yeah. I have an addictive personality too, which can definitely be seen in my house as I have over half a thousand figurines, four thousand books (between manga and novels, as of like four years ago... honestly too afraid to count them now), and more games than I can shake a dozen sticks at. It's easy to find all kinds of great stuff... but we'd need a lifetime a ton longer than what we have currently if we'd even want to get through half of the stuff we acquire. And that's both really nice (in a reading way with me personally, because I get worried if I get down to x number of unread things that I need to make sure I have a bigger pile JUST IN CASE), but also completely unnecessary. I'd imagine to the much older generations that are living right now, to see collections like mine would be either stressful or they'd probably really look down on me for having so much.
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Read books, that always helps me with stuff like this. Almost nobody now-a-days (talking about older AND younger) reads books, and they can be fun.
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I'll try to keep this short and sweet, but I've come to the conclusion that today's world and it's ease of access to literally everything on the internet has reverted my brain to that of a spoiled child. I don't have patience for ANYTHING anymore! This instant gratification has made almost everything seem pointless to me.

Video Games? Pointless waste of time... just Youtube walkthrough videos and save $60.

Movies? Just look up them up online and save the hassle of driving to the theater.

Books? Just download the scanned PDFs from torrent sites.

Anything else? Just use Google.

When I was younger I never got what I always wanted. But... I was happy with what I had. Now that I'm older I can pretty much get everything I want and it's... not satisfying at all. It's like I'm starting to think like a machine... just mindless consumption.

Now don't get me wrong, there are TONS of benefits to everything being available as well. I'm not going to be hypocritical and not act like I'm happy to be exposed to things that normally wouldn't be so easy to find (like anime for example). But this barrage of EVERYTHING in your face at any given moment has pretty much killed the concept of patience for me, and thus a lot of value seems to be lost in the "process" of getting things. I know it sounds silly, but there's definitely something about working towards something and not getting it right away

For the past few months I've been working on this and have found that I'm starting to enjoy things more. Anyways, I just felt like ranting a bit and was curious on your guys view on the matter as well.



It's all up to you. Sometimes the journey is as important if not more so than the actual destination. The fact that you are starting to enjoy things again directly correlates to the fact that you're now working on things. In this day of mass media and the constant barrage to all of your senses it's important sometimes to step away. Turn off that screen, go for a walk, look at all the little real things in life that you've been missing and then come back with a renewed determination to work your a$$ off for that happiness you so rightly deserve. Now that doesn't mean that anyone can be happy if they want to bad enough. I'm not saying that because some people start with the decks stacked against them but that's a whole different conversation. I'm just saying that it takes work for everyone sometimes. Here's the way I look at some of those things. Or at least I try to. Some days I'm more successful than others though.

1. Video Games - Some times it's important to just do NOTHING. We all need down time and nothing is ever truly a waste of time. Try to just enjoy them for what they are. I could care less about how a game ends. I like the journey and learning to solve things on my own therefore I always stay away from all spoilers, hints, walkthrough's, etc and carve my own path....at least the first time I play through a game. Also even if I am stone cold bored out of my mind sometimes I just need a bit of boredom. Every so often I need a little time away from me and on the really bad days I just need to buy myself some time until I feel like me again. Video games are a great way to do this.

2. Movies - Much like video games. If driving to the theater is a big hassle then wait for them on dvd or until you can stream them online through Netflix or something. Sometimes it's nice to just treat yourself and go see a movie. Whether it's good or not is irrelevant. Make it a fun night and go with some friends. Again the journey is more important than the destination and there is not an online site out there that can give you the same memories as having a fun night out with your friends or loved one's can. Even a really bad movie can be a lot of fun with the right people. Birdemic is quite awesome in a group setting. Not so fun alone.

3. Books - I never pirate anything. I don't have a lot of money so when I do treat myself I enjoy it immensely. Sure I could steal everything I ever needed but then what would be the point of me working so hard? Also could I sleep at night? Forget the fact that I have insomnia for a moment. I would know I stole them and it would eat away at me. I don't have to have a lot of stuff but I am extremely proud of the things I have provided for myself. I am also proud to support artists. if they don't get paid then they don't write more books and there would eventually be nothing new to enjoy. And once again....the journey!!!

4. Google is simply a tool and it's up to you how you use her. I refuse to ever visit Dr. Google for my medical needs. I don't care much for plumber Google although I will ask Mr. Youtube plumber for help occasionally. Google has it's good and it's bad points and has a lot of useful (as well as useless) information. Google is simply a tool and she cannot give me anything that I cannot already find for myself.

Remember nothing in life is for free. Everything has some price attached to it. It sounds like you paid a heavy price for quite a while there. There's a lot of reasons we work for what we have and pay for what we want and entertainment is just a very small part of that. Things like security, education, food, taking care of one's family are all important and each one of those things can give you something new and wonderful if you let them. Or you can come away with less than what you started with. Happy, unhappy, it's hard either way sometimes and there's really no easy answers to any of this. You and you alone can find the answers....but I do think you're on the right track. :)

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