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Girls has this happened to you ever?
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Pyrotek45...you okay buddy?
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Pyro, I know I'm not the only one who can say this - but I've been in plenty of situations that got worse and worse until I acted. I think it's important to pick your battles, but some people mess with other people because they let them. When someone notices you aren't screwing around they're much less likely to continue their crap.

So... you just let people do whatever they want to you and ignore it...? Wow. Immature or not, that's something I can't do when it's something that really bothers me.

I do agree that people need to toughen up, but part of that is standing up for oneself when it's needed.
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If you're a women and you're stuck in this position, then you have two options. Option a, the mature approach ; ignore it and move on with your day. This accomplishes a few things .firstly,good on you! Secondly, it will show that making rude remarks is not an effective way at baiting a response,therefor you become one step closer to ellinitaing this behaviour. Or you can choose option b, the childish retarded option. Where you spin around and throw a tantrum and let everyone in the store know that all it takes is a couple of comments to throw you off your cool, only for the kids to laugh at you as you look like a fool and accomplish nothing, meanwhile you strengthen their baiting methods. Pro tip option a is better.
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I'm a guy so I've never had this happen to me and I've yet to hear a group of girls standing behind me talking about how hot I am and how they'd like to hit that s%#t lol. But I do agree with you. That is beyond rude. It's not a compliment and it shows these individuals lack of respect towards you both as a human and a lady. That's even worse than the guy going up to the girl to hit on her at a bar or something with absolutely NO intention of getting to know the girl and then says something lame like: "So, it's a nice day out huh?". If you're initially physically attracted to someone then that's great but how about actually trying to talk to that person and get to know them? Would it hurt to actually know their name and hold a normal conversation with them? If every woman had a dollar for every time they heard about the weather from some lame moron then they'd all be filthy rich. You may as well skip the whole weather bs and just go up and be honest with them. If you actually have NO interest in them as a person then at least have the decency to be up front and honest about it so that way they know where you stand. Who knows there may be one girl out there who appreciates the honesty and just wants to have some fun too.

Sorry I got a bit off topic there. But yeah, guys are jerks. Physical attraction and sex are both important but they're not the be all, end all of dating. Just have a little class guys. Don't verbally fantasize over every hot woman you run across. How do you think that makes them feel? I know most men would think it was awesome if a group of women were doing that to them but trust me, it would get old really fast. After years and years of that you would be really sick of it.
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VeggyZ wrote:

Pyro, I know I'm not the only one who can say this - but I've been in plenty of situations that got worse and worse until I acted. I think it's important to pick your battles, but some people mess with other people because they let them. When someone notices you aren't screwing around they're much less likely to continue their crap.

So... you just let people do whatever they want to you and ignore it...? Wow. Immature or not, that's something I can't do when it's something that really bothers me.

I do agree that people need to toughen up, but part of that is standing up for oneself when it's needed.


People don't really fuck with me because I roll with the punches. If they call me gay i just go with it. and Everytime people just stop and respect me afterwords, then I gained a friend's in most cases.
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That talk happens all the time, but to say it in front of the person is disrespectful. To say it within earshot... I don't know... Ignore them?
Posted 7/1/16

iriomote wrote:

I can see some heavy pruning's been done to this thread, given how out of whack the time-stamps are.

Sorry OP, but to some extent this is teens being teens, bundles of overactive hormones that they are. Hell, even I engaged in some conversations like that as a teen. I'm more concerned that they apparently lacked the courtesy (and common sense) to make sure they did so from well out of earshot, there isn't really any excuse for that.


^ Yes you said it right from the moment I started this thread people took it off course starting with Pv comments-
Are people even reading the original post? And if a teen is directly behind me hell yes I'm going hear their comments! most times I ignore them but this time I said how rude they where. Most times I rack it up to how they have been raised.
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I just think it's important for them to learn what is and is not acceptable, and they'll never learn such things if someone doesn't set them straight. Of course, you CANT set kids straight like you would have been able to when I was a kid, so good luck I guess. All you can really do is let them know how rude it is. One day some girls their own age will talk shit about them within earshot and they'll feel bad and remember back to times like those you mentioned and finally realize they were an ass.

I know I did, and I was actually a pretty well behaved kid.

It makes me hesitant to have kids. By the time they become teenagers I think I'd have already had more than enough, then to deal with young teens... -_- Not that I have not also met some promising ones. Once in a while I feel like this country might even have a future. As long as I'm not the one raising them, haha... can't imagine myself in that role.

I think it's more that boys will be boys after all, more than teens will be teens, because I have heard those kinds of conversations out of guys from all walks of life and all ages. I was taught at a pretty young age to be courteous to women and have courtesy as a rule, but most aren't because not all that many people care about courtesy unless someone is being discourteous to them. I have a feeling most kids don't even get that talk nowadays. Most adults are usually conscious enough of their surroundings to not say them within earshot though.
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It's only happened a few times for me, since I'm very dislikable and scary looking haha. I just either ignore it or tell them to eff off.
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I had a similar experience a couple of years ago from a pair of 16 yo concretors apprentices when I walked onto my husbands new worksite. I'm well used to the abuse & wolf-whistles that come from a building site, not least of all because I am also in the industry, but these guys were being explicit & overly familiar - and I am a 50 yo woman!! The best defense in these situations is always a good offense, and I have enough experience with these types, as well as many years of bartending, to hold my own. After telling them how I would make use of a pair of inexperienced, pimply teens with premature ejaculation issues (and sex didn't enter the equation), the pair sat in silence while the remainder of the worksite cheered my response ! While they were still scraping their jaws off the ground, the builder -their boss & my husband - wandered out of the site office & welcomed me with a kiss!! The two were hounded mercilessly by the other workers for weeks and apparently stopped heckling women - when we finished the job 6 months later, they were still being called 'the Barilla boys' (a brand of noodles!).
So, I don't miss an opportunity to put kids like that in their place, they have to learn that being disrespectful of women is neither cute nor funny & not all of us are going to ignore their stupidity!!

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