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Been once, was due to anger issues, was like when I was 7-8. Now, I'm one of the calmest people you'll ever meet.
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I go to counselling now, it was for depression, but now it's just really for piece of mind and wrapping up loose ends(plus it's the university so I pay for it whether or not I go through tuition.)

Even now a lot of my friends don't know I went to counselling, I don't really talk about it except with close friends, because of the stigma.

I think those who speak badly about it don't know the first thing about it, it's not something you can even fathom before going. I definitely wouldn't one to talk down about it, I'd be the one knocking out people for doing that.
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No more.
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qualeshia3 wrote:

I happen to like seeing a therapist .


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RedExodus wrote:


qualeshia3 wrote:

I happen to like seeing a therapist .


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The only therapy I've had to go through was physical therapy. I dislocated my knee and had to strengthen it again. Other than that, no.
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PrinceJudar wrote:
Have you ever gone to therapy? For grieving? For depression? Stress? Did you find it helpful? There's a heavy stigma against doing so. A lot of people are reluctant to tell close friends and family because of it--especially parents.


Yes and no. For depression/anxiety/PTSD the first go too is typically CBT ( Cognitive behaviour therapy ). CBT helped me not open my veins in a bathtub. But the therapist didn't. Not their fault, mind you. Its difficult enough as is finding a family doctor you're comfortable with never mind a therapist. And if you're not very social to begin with or have social related anxieties it can be all the more difficult. Then add on to that you're likely paying for the privilege of being uncomfortable in a room with a stranger asking if you want to open your veins in a bathtub.

Luckily, CBT workbooks and even online CBT are free and widely available for those that can't find or aren't comfortable with a therapist or with group CBT. So you can try them out free of charge and free of social anxiety.

All that said if you have mental health issues definitely get to a doctor. CBT or not if you took my meds away for a week or two I would go back to the whole vein bathtub plan. And that is not a ploy for sympathy or drama. My emotions are to dull for that. Its simple practicality. I can remember the way I was before and I'm not going back to it, thanks.



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So how about it, if you were a parent would you put down people that go to therapy in front of your children? If they approached you, would you mention they seem perfectly fine or tell them to toughen up?


God no. That shows a profound lack of understanding of mental health ( and a corresponding lack of empathy for it ). That's right up there with telling someone with depression that they just need to "cheer up".



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I did for back pains. Does that count?
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sounds expensive
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Therapy is great in my opinion. Especially for men and women communication it helps bridge the gap. Sometimes its easier to tell a stranger stuff about your past and present everyone on the planet could benefit to some sort of therapy no matter what type pushing your comfort zone is healthy
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I suppose it be a bit impolite not to give my input despite asking it of others.

I started therapy rather recently for my anxiety, and in the process got some explanation for everything else. My parents are not fans of the medical industry. They kept me away from doctors in general for a very long time until I was much too sick to do without.

I am diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder now. I have sensory processing issues, even hugging overloads me. Absolutely fuckin' triggers me.



I have clumsy/repetitive motor movements and rigid routines. I run back and forth in my room making really strange noises and breathing in weird patterns more times in a day than I can count. I walk in circles and lines incessantly. My family thought I was an absolute mental case. I have a Tic disorder like many with ASD, thankfully that one is rather amusing rather than impairing (the sound akin to a mouse or a strangled dolphin).

It explained a lot of things for me. Why I couldn't listen in class (playing my 3DS, doing homework, or just skipping altogether). Why I can't follow conversations and have no interest in social occasions. Why I can't connect with other people or my own emotions: I was depressed for years--didn't realize it until I was too sick from not eating and then misdiagnosed with hypoglycemia. Had severe anxiety--gee it must be blood sugar! Had a panic attack and screamed at nurses--I also misappropriated to a physical ailment. There's a barrier between me and the feelz, not that I don't feel. It's not uncommon for me to be upset and not be able to explain it--people go batshit crazy thinking I'm refusing to tell them when I honestly ain't have a god damn clue.

You'd think the teacher's would have noticed something was off when I spent an entire year in 3rd grade chasing a 5th grade boy around the playground making growling/hissing noises at him.

Also why I couldn't figure out the sex thing until I was 16. Everyone is indirect about it, and I just did not pick up on that shit. Quite funny now.

I also amuse myself now knowing why women in general make no sense to me. I never received the gift of telepathy.

I could just keep going on and on and on about the light of explanation it has put on my life. Was it weird I scrunched up 100's of pieces of paper in 7th grade like a non Earth cherishing felon? Yes. Do I know why I did that now? Yes. I liked the soft feel of the paper after I was done scrunching it for hours. It was calming.

None of this I say for pity, ASD may be a pain in the fuckin' ass when I was in school but I can't say I'm not successful now. I'm successful. I have a good life now. I fuckin' made it bitches. Yipee Ki-Yay. A lot of engineers have autistic traits anyway. That much isn't a big deal now, I've already learned how to manage. That ship has long sailed.

The problem is and why I went to therapy was the anxiety. Anxiety is a very common disorder and frankly it is10x more annoying than anything else I deal with. Many of you have dealt with it at some point. Speaking gets even more challenging and I walked out of my therapy visits with a clawed up arm from my anxious scratching.

I've found therapy helpful so far. I think I have a good therapist, she's a clinician psychologist. However, I lie to my parents about where I'm going. My parents were very critical of therapy and those that went to it. I don't lie to anyone, but my parents are the exception. It's not something I do often so I'm shit at it.

Mother: Where are you going?

Me: Uh out.
Mother: Yeah but where?
Me: The...mall.
Mother: The mall? (absolute disbelief)
Me: Uh yeah, the Gamestop.
Mother: Alright.
Father: I don't want you going out on your own. There's a bunch of weirdos out there. Why don't you take one of your sisters with you?
Me: No, really, it's just real quick--
Father: *starts calling for my younger sisters
Me: Really, I'm turning 24, stop.
Father: I think they're gone.
Me: Yeah. I'll *starts opening car door* be back later.

Like shit, man.
This is when being a recluse bites me in the ass. Now with Pokemon GO out I can use the believable excuse of going on a Pokemon Journey.

My parents are one of those 'eat all organic', 'look at this miraculous cure I found on this 100% legit site!' 'anti vaxxer' types. My parents have also made particularly unthoughtful comments about me belonging in a mental institute in their frustration...why would I want to deal with telling them? I figured at least some of you may have had the 'toughen up' types of parents that delayed you getting any support. I may have turned out fine, although struggled, but not everyone would.

'Yo, Mother, I'm going to therapy and no I'm not crazy. I'm positive you're going to assume I'm insane while launching into a fit of denial-- simultaneously shoving natural supplements down my throat to make me normal. Also I have some very mild autism, and no, it wasn't the vaccines...Father it was your fucking genes.'

Yeah. That talk is not happening. I figured it was more than me that had to go around the parents.


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I did for back pains. Does that count?


I was thinkin' more mental. Ehe.


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I actually found a therapist that accepts my insurance. $20 a visit isn't bad.
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I used to go to a psychiatrist for ADHD. He eventually helped me learn to control it to the point where most people I associate with don't know I have it unless it comes up (in a conversation).

I'm sorry that you have to live in a home environment like that. I know what it's like not being able to trust your parents. I know you are one of those who don't have a very high opinion of me, but I do hope that your therapy works out for you, and that you can eventually overcome your anxiety.
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XxDarkSasuxX wrote:

I used to go to a psychiatrist for ADHD. He eventually helped me learn to control it to the point where most people I assoviate with don't know I have it unless it comes up (in a conversation).

I'm sorry that you have to live in a home environment like that. I know what it's like not being able to trust your parents. I know you are one of those who don't have a very high opinion of me, but I do hope that your therapy works out for you, and that you can eventually overcome your anxiety.


Sounds like it was helpful. The repetitive motor movements on my part are pretty mixed in with ADHD. ASD and ADHD are pretty comorbid.

I think a lot of people know what that's like.

I never understood why you think that. I'm pretty blunt when I ain't like somebody. If I get frustrated with someone I usually find them amusing anyway, either sexually teasing them or using them as a kickball. I find people funny--rather than putting in effort to dislike.

If I was an asshole at some point to you, I can honestly say I can't recall--not that my memory is much good when it comes to those things anyway.


And thanks I appreciate it. I think I just have to learn how to coexist with it for the most part.


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I have found therapy to be very useful and helpful.

As for family, I let them know that their opinion was not welcome and did not matter. Once I did that, they were oddly supportive to degree.
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ceewayne wrote:

I have found therapy to be very useful and helpful.

As for family, I let them know that their opinion was not welcome and did not matter. Once I did that, they were oddly supportive to degree.


Hah, nice. Were you still living with them at that point?
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