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My parents are one of those 'eat all organic', 'look at this miraculous cure I found on this 100% legit site!' 'anti vaxxer' types. My parents have also made particularly unthoughtful comments about me belonging in a mental institute in their frustration...why would I want to deal with telling them? I figured at least some of you may have had the 'toughen up' types of parents that delayed you getting any support. I may have turned out fine, although struggled, but not everyone would.


Ugggh miracle internet cure anxi-vaxxers. You have my full sympathies.

I was fortunate with my parents. Well, parent. My dad is the "toughen up" sort but I haven't talked to him in decades. His side of the family treats all mental/emotional problems with alcohol and prayer. ( Hard core Irish Roman Catholics and when that fails, alcoholics. ). Fortunately my mom got full custody when I was a kid. Mom's side of the family has no problems with my PTSD or treatment. Mainly because my grandfather and great uncle both came back from WW2 with PTSD and both eventually killed themselves because of it. So my mom and her siblings had years of first hand experience with it growing up.



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I never understood why you think that. I'm pretty blunt when I ain't like somebody. If I get frustrated with someone I usually find them amusing anyway, either sexually teasing them or using them as a kickball. I find people funny--rather than putting in effort to dislike.

If I was an asshole at some point to you, I can honestly say I can't recall--not that my memory is much good when it comes to those things anyway.

I get that vibe from some people. Especially from how I post, I guess I kind of "default" on that unless someone gives me a reason to think otherwise.

Tl;dr: Nah I don't recall ever even getting into a (major) debate with you on the forums, so it's nothing you did.


And thanks I appreciate it. I think I just have to learn how to coexist with it for the most part.

I hear that's how most people deal with it. It's not easy, but I wish you luck. xp
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I have found therapy to be very useful and helpful.

As for family, I let them know that their opinion was not welcome and did not matter. Once I did that, they were oddly supportive to degree.


Hah, nice. Were you still living with them at that point?


Yes I was. Started after some experiences in College that created a degree of PTSD and abuse when I was much younger. Mother tried to 'butt in' a few times but I was paying for it myself. Stepfather kept his place after a threat and he seeing my knife collection.
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runec wrote:
Ugggh miracle internet cure anxi-vaxxers. You have my full sympathies.

I was fortunate with my parents. Well, parent. My dad is the "toughen up" sort but I haven't talked to him in decades. His side of the family treats all mental/emotional problems with alcohol and prayer. ( Hard core Irish Roman Catholics and when that fails, alcoholics. ). Fortunately my mom got full custody when I was a kid. Mom's side of the family has no problems with my PTSD or treatment. Mainly because my grandfather and great uncle both came back from WW2 with PTSD and both eventually killed themselves because of it. So my mom and her siblings had years of first hand experience with it growing up.


PTSD can be pretty debilitating to my understanding. I've thankfully never been suicidal. It seems like people don't seem to understand how beyond the reach of control things are unless they have dealt with it themselves in some way.

People tell me to relax. I think I'm relaxed. I 'feel' relaxed, but I look at my hands and they're shaking. Telling me to stop being anxious is like giving me a glass jar and telling me to go catch Casper.


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I get that vibe from some people. Especially from how I post, I guess I kind of "default" on that unless someone gives me a reason to think otherwise.

Tl;dr: Nah I don't recall ever even getting into a (major) debate with you on the forums, so it's nothing you did.

I hear that's how most people deal with it. It's not easy, but I wish you luck. xp

Oh yeah. Vibes from me are always going to be likely wrong. Part of my problemo.

Well at least I know I'm headin' in the right direction.

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Yes I was. Started after some experiences in College that created a degree of PTSD and abuse when I was much younger. Mother tried to 'butt in' a few times but I was paying for it myself. Stepfather kept his place after a threat and he seeing my knife collection.


That is definitely unfortunate. I'm glad therapy was able to help you.
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PrinceJudar wrote:


ceewayne wrote:
Yes I was. Started after some experiences in College that created a degree of PTSD and abuse when I was much younger. Mother tried to 'butt in' a few times but I was paying for it myself. Stepfather kept his place after a threat and he seeing my knife collection.


That is definitely unfortunate. I'm glad therapy was able to help you.


Thank you. One last piece of advice to those readig, it takes a while to find a good therapist. If you go to a session and realize the person does not work for you, go try another one,
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Never been to one.
I don't want one.


You need one
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bubbleeeyy_ wrote:

Never been to one.
I don't want one.


You need one


so what

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bubbleeeyy_ wrote:


Ryulightorb wrote:


bubbleeeyy_ wrote:

Never been to one.
I don't want one.


You need one


so what



So go see one c:
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PrinceJudar wrote:

Have you ever gone to therapy? For grieving? For depression? Stress? Did you find it helpful? There's a heavy stigma against doing so. A lot of people are reluctant to tell close friends and family because of it--especially parents.

So how about it, if you were a parent would you put down people that go to therapy in front of your children? If they approached you, would you mention they seem perfectly fine or tell them to toughen up?

Have you even been the child in such a position?



Therapy is a good thing i would go along and let them see someone for help
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I went to a speech therapist when I was a kid? Never been to a therapist for behavioural issues. I don't care for it personally.
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yes. off and on for the last 10 years. Just when things get too much for the meds to handle.
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You have no idea how much a therapist can do. I see one regularly, and even though I'm not so depressed, emotional, or disconnected from reality as to not be able to function without seeing one, it helps. A lot.

For me I don't think it's really the fact that it's a therapist, more so than it's someone I can talk to about my problems, who will listen without judging me and whom I can talk to about my life, and ask questions about things that I have issues with. Sometimes I already have the solutions to the problems I have in my head, but bouncing them off the therapist helps affirm the logic behind them and motivates me to make them actual solutions and not just ideas of solutions.

Truth be told, I can probably get the same effect from talking to my best friend, but even though I still talk to her regularly she's busy with her own life. And while she's very intelligent and knows about my own psychological struggles to some degree, she doesn't have the understanding of human psychology that my therapist does. Sometimes there will be issues that my friend can't help with, or that she doesn't have the time to. She's in another city and rarely gets the opportunity to visit. That's where my therapist comes in - I can schedule an appointment to see her right here in town and she'll keep to it.

That said, I've known enough people that have had serious struggle in their life, and some whose lives had been so messed up I was surprised they were still alive and sane. I've come to realize that some problems in life are too big for us to handle ourselves. If anything I applaud people who decide they need to see a therapist, because they've realized they have a problem and they are seeking help to overcome it.
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My parents sent me to several psychologists. Most of them weren't very good, and since I didn't want to be there I never opened up to them anyway. I saw anyone who tried to "figure me out" as an enemy.

One lady was really good though. She would just take me to the arcade and play video games with me every week. Then every month or so we would sit in her office and talk. At the time I didn't realize it but she was slowly earning my trust. It worked, and I did eventually open up to her, and I believe she successfully diagnosed my problems. Unfortunately my parents didn't like her much (they wanted quick results) so I stopped seeing her before we really got going addressing those issues.

Instead they sent me to some quack who tried to prescribe me all kinds of drugs that he was likely getting paid to prescribe. At the time Paxil was just coming on the market and he thought it would be a good idea to prescribe it to a 12 year old... I would just throw the pills out instead of taking them though. I ended up alright but it was mostly an unhappy childhood.
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Nope, I don't really have a means to afford therapy. I also feel like there are people who have it worse, and my problems can be dealt with really easily if I wasn't so lazy... It's a pretty blunt way to say it, and I believe that anyone can seek therapy, but I feel as though it's not worth it for someone like me.
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