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i'm in a weird position where my Empathy can go from super low to the other end.


It's not logical to concern yourself with the person here. You're just placing unnecessary baggage on yourself. You can't change it. She is no longer within your immediate vicinity--even if she were people don't open up to strangers about that sort of shit. Likely you weren't going going to be able to do anything anyway aside from make her uncomfortable. You can't help everyone, especially people that aren't asking for it + have no connection with.

This isn't some bullying scenario where you could have stepped in to prevent someone from being fucked up. This isn't a situation where someone collapsed and required immediate assistance. Such things are external.

I'm going to go out on a limb here and say you likely don't actually care---not about her at least. Your concern is more to do with the perception you have of yourself. It just comes off as a dishonesty you aren't even aware of.

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Ryulightorb wrote:
i'm in a weird position where my Empathy can go from super low to the other end.


It's not logical to concern yourself with the person here. You're just placing unnecessary baggage on yourself. You can't change it. She is no longer within your immediate vicinity--even if she were people don't open up to strangers about that sort of shit. Likely you weren't going going to be able to do anything anyway aside from make her uncomfortable. You can't help everyone, especially people that aren't asking for it + have no connection with.

This isn't some bullying scenario where you could have stepped in to prevent someone from being fucked up. This isn't a situation where someone collapsed and required immediate assistance. Such things are external.

I'm going to go out on a limb here and say you likely don't actually care---not about her at least. Your concern is more to do with the perception you have of yourself. It just comes off as a dishonesty you aren't even aware of.



True i let it go now but if i can lighten someones load stranger or friend i want to help.

I guess you are right but i hate how i used to sit down in public no one rarely ever came and asked me if i was ok even though im was obviously hurting.

One guy however did and i have so much respect for him as the world needs more people like him ...even though he didn't help i appreciated him coming and asking if i was ok.

So on that side i can't just do what i despise and go against who i am if i ever become the type of person who just does nothing and minds their own business i hope that me suffers greatly as i have little respect for someone who mind their own business when it comes to seeing someone who is so obviously in pain.

I have had people come up to me in life before people i have never known complete strangers because they saw that i was clearly upset and hurting i opened up and told them my problems because they were kind and offered to help.

I have grown up respecting people like that and hating how most people don't do that sort of thing it seems the older i get less and less people do that sort of thing and i'm slowly losing respect for everyone.

I never expected to change anything however one person asking is enough to make someones day and i know that from when i self harmed (i still do).

i guess not everyone is going to agree with my beliefs or support them and i guess i have to live with that all i know is i don't want to live if i become like everyone else a person who just walks past.

To me this is a very important ideal that i live by and i know from personal experience and talking to others who have felt the same way or do that asking if someone is ok is enough to brighten someones day even that little bit.

of course thats not the same for all people
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We're very different. "Are you okay?" Is probably my least favorite question to be asked. I absolutely hate that question.

If that's the ideal you want to uphold though, then I suppose it's a burden you'll have to learn how to bare.

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Ryulightorb wrote:



We're very different. "Are you okay?" Is probably my least favorite question to be asked. I absolutely hate that question.

If that's the ideal you want to uphold though, then I suppose it's a burden you'll have to learn how to bare.



Oh im happy with having it as a burden i tend to carry my friends burdens to a degree for them its who i am as a person.

But i guess everyone is different and you can't really tell where i live though we have a day for depression with the emphasis on asking someone who looks down if they are ok the risk of them finding it annoying vs the chance of them being happy is a risk that is worth it imo.

My ideals are very important to me as a person infact the last time i broke one of them that was the first time i tried to commit suicide
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Oh im happy with having it as a burden i tend to carry my friends burdens to a degree for them its who i am as a person.

But i guess everyone is different and you can't really tell where i live though we have a day for depression with the emphasis on asking someone who looks down if they are ok the risk of them finding it annoying vs the chance of them being happy is a risk that is worth it imo.

My ideals are very important to me as a person infact the last time i broke one of them that was the first time i tried to commit suicide


I question how happy it makes you when you struggle with depression.

Drowning yourself in the burdens you carry while thinking it'll help you feel better about yourself.


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Ryulightorb wrote:
Oh im happy with having it as a burden i tend to carry my friends burdens to a degree for them its who i am as a person.

But i guess everyone is different and you can't really tell where i live though we have a day for depression with the emphasis on asking someone who looks down if they are ok the risk of them finding it annoying vs the chance of them being happy is a risk that is worth it imo.

My ideals are very important to me as a person infact the last time i broke one of them that was the first time i tried to commit suicide


I question how happy it makes you when you struggle with depression.

Drowning yourself in the burdens you carry while thinking it'll help you feel better about yourself.




oh my depression doesn't stem with that if anything helping others is the only thing that keeps me afloat and wanting to live.

I know what my depression stems from and that's a matter i can't exactly solve at the moment.

I like helping others whenever i can it makes life feel like it's worth living and call me a masochist but i kind of like having burdens on me to an extent not sure why.
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oh my depression doesn't stem with that if anything helping others is the only thing that keeps me afloat and wanting to live.

I know what my depression stems from and that's a matter i can't exactly solve at the moment.

I like helping others whenever i can it makes life feel like it's worth living


You already had the answer then. It doesn't matter if others find it weird. No point in yah askin'


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Ryulightorb wrote:
oh my depression doesn't stem with that if anything helping others is the only thing that keeps me afloat and wanting to live.

I know what my depression stems from and that's a matter i can't exactly solve at the moment.

I like helping others whenever i can it makes life feel like it's worth living


You already had the answer then. It doesn't matter if others find it weird. No point in yah askin'




true xD i just for some reason always worry about what others thing...i need to fix that
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I find that it's difficult to regret anything when everything you do is not only necessary at a personal level, but at a level of fated inevitability.
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Also first off, this event or rather thought you had can be made to improve yourself more so then anything.
So when you see, notice or get into something again, you know more or less how to handle it .

experience!
"you leveled up!"
Yay!

we will never know why she would be cutting then.
everyone got there issues sometimes beyond repairing even though you could allways help or change the direction of the flow (path) without adjusting anything else....love


Also sometimes its worse to go friendly or "restless" with such (if they are) mentally challanged.
Were use of force COULD be good to use.
Like a slap to wake up (only if they are in such a state or if needed get them "into" such a state where this would take effect)
Posted 7/11/16 , edited 7/11/16

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It's not my job i never said it was however if someone else doesn't try to help then i will always try to help.

I hate people who just stand around and mind their own business then nothing gets done i mean yes it's more dangerous but if i did that i wouldn't be able to live with myself if i went against my ideals and beliefs like that i would rather not exist at all

I don't want to become what i see as disgusting (which i see people who don't try to help and minding their own business at such times as disgusting)

i guess that's a flaw for me then but last time i didn't try to help someone i hated myself and i still hate myself for doing what i despise and being the type of person i despise and hate in that regard.


Well, one day you'll learn that some people don't want or need your help and that some people just ca't be helped. There's nothing wrong about doing good and helping others, but there are ways to do that that does not involve prying into other people's problems and/or putting yourself in danger. Please take this advice coming from someone who has worked for a nonprofit organization and done social work before. Sometimes the best you can do is to call on the proper authorities or services who would be better equipped and trained to deal with a particular situation.
Posted 7/11/16
I think the best way to make someone smile is to make them laugh, it's not intrusive and it lightens up the mood.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6AyaAqwzgIQ
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Don't feel sorry for her. Now this is assuming she would do this to herself. People who self infliction and boldly show it for others to see are simply asking for attention.

If she had covered those scars so nobody could see them, and you still saw a face of despair, you wouldn't even care, or you would, I don't know who you are, but the simple fact that if the infliction is not visable, she would simply be a normal sad looking girl.

People who self inflict are simply idiots, I don't care how depressed you think you are, hurting your own body isn't going to help anything, seriously. Now if someone else did that to her, well, we have a whole new bag of issues to deal with you can help people just for the sake of helping people. Like when I see someone stuck in the snow with their car, I don't ask if I can help them, I get behind the car and give their vehicle a nice smack to let them know to give it Gas, or if someone needs help carrying something, watching something, setting something up. Anyone can spare 10 to 15 minutes of their time, and that is plenty of time to help someone, but to talk to someone just because you think they are in need of help for reason you can't even understand, it is a waste of your breath my friend, just live and be happy for yourself.

As far as regrets, nope. Regretting is thinking about the past, a waste of time, because you can never relive that moment again, only to live another day and better your choices to fulfill your own life. People who look back on the past wishing they could have done better, just stop, please, go Fucking live your life and start appreciating what time you still have.
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Don't feel sorry for her. Now this is assuming she would do this to herself. People who self infliction and boldly show it for others to see are simply asking for attention.

If she had covered those scars so nobody could see them, and you still saw a face of despair, you wouldn't even care, or you would, I don't know who you are, but the simple fact that if the infliction is not visable, she would simply be a normal sad looking girl.

People who self inflict are simply idiots, I don't care how depressed you think you are, hurting your own body isn't going to help anything, seriously. Now if someone else did that to her, well, we have a whole new bag of issues to deal with you can help people just for the sake of helping people. Like when I see someone stuck in the snow with their car, I don't ask if I can help them, I get behind the car and give their vehicle a nice smack to let them know to give it Gas, or if someone needs help carrying something, watching something, setting something up. Anyone can spare 10 to 15 minutes of their time, and that is plenty of time to help someone, but to talk to someone just because you think they are in need of help for reason you can't even understand, it is a waste of your breath my friend, just live and be happy for yourself.

As far as regrets, nope. Regretting is thinking about the past, a waste of time, because you can never relive that moment again, only to live another day and better your choices to fulfill your own life. People who look back on the past wishing they could have done better, just stop, please, go Fucking live your life and start appreciating what time you still have.


Guess I'm an idiot I self inflict today via eating to cope and used to cut.

I never hid where I cut and I didn't do it for attention I did it because the pain helped me cope.
Most people I know who cut themselves don't hide it nor do they do it for attention they do it to cope.

Now some people do do it for attention however I would rather end up giving them attention then ignoring someone who isn't doing it for attention.

I could understand which is why I wanted to help as I could relate

If I didn't have my soda I would but cutting today I mean I still have the name scarred into my leg from that one time.

Humans we are all weird pain hurts us but some forms of it help us cope.



In my short life I have helped many people out who cut and are depressed most of them strangers...most of them didn't do it for attention given some did but most did not ...seeing those people happy is one of the best things.

Whether it be my friends I have helped calm down and cheered up when they were depressed (strangers at the time I just saw them being visibly upset) or people in real life I have always gone to help and try make them smile.

It doesn't always work and some people don't want your help which is something you need to respect however seeing a happy face or happiness on someone who is in despair is probably one of the best things you can see in life in my opinion.

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I don't like the idea of regret. Its just so unhelpful. When I do something that makes me think "I should have done something different there", instead of sitting on my hands and feeling sorry for myself I try to just make sure I don't do the same thing in the future. So no, I haven't done anything lately that I regret but as always I'm trying to grow as a person...
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