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Class of 2002. I can still remember sitting dead still in class when our principal gave us all the first news of the World Trade Center being hit. Everyone was so dazed, I can't remember if school let out early that day or not. We all got home to the news of the second plane hitting the towers, the Pentagon, the crash in Pennsylvania, and reality took an Escher-warped turn.
I first talked to Air Force recruiters,, but things didn't seem to progress too well, so I engaged the USMC recruiters. April of 2003, I end up on the yellow footprints in front of Receiving, MCRD Parris Island.
August of 2003, I get a "Convenience of Government" bus ticket back home after a broken foot and heat injury following the foot. Never made it through, but I'll never regret it.
Few things can replace a memory like saluting your nation's colors in uniform on Independence Day.
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FlyinDumpling wrote:


FreshTofu wrote:

Studied accounting my first two years of college. It was easy, but I hated it so I told my parents that I wanted to change majors. Stepdad got pissed (accounting was his idea) and told me that if I changed it he would cut me off. Up until that point I was fairly dependent upon his support. Everything I ever had growing up was from him. Car, tuition, just random cash to do stuff. I was spoiled growing up. My only job that I really had was a short stint in retail which I gave up on after a few weeks (I mean why bother when the stepdad can just hook me up with some cash whenever I wanted to do something) and teaching martial arts, which I loved so I stuck with it, but that sure as heck wasn't gonna pay the bills if he decided to cut me off.

Anyway, things weren't going well at home, the whole me wanting to change majors deal didn't help so I sorta impulse joined the Army. Partly because serving would cover my tuition for school for whatever I wanted to study, it'd also put a roof over my head and partly because things at home were getting worse. Despite the fact that he supported me financially, he was always very verbally abusive and sometimes physically. I thought that going away for college would make it better, but the holidays and breaks I spent at home while school wasn't in session were rough.

I don't regret my decision to join the Army. I learned how to do things on my own. I wasn't that spoiled kid anymore. I felt as if everything I got, the awards, the promotions, all that good stuff was because I worked hard and earned it. I even finished up my undergraduate degree while serving so now if I choose to pursue my Masters or go for another BA, the tuition will be covered. I'm no longer serving, actually got out about a year ago and am now working in the corporate world, but I won't forget the friendships I made, the people I met and the places I've been. It wasn't all great. Deploying is never fun, losing friends just breaks your heart, but there are many wonderful times that I had, which shaped me into the adult that I am today. It's not for everyone. But it worked out for me.
did your relationship with your stepdad ever improved?


It did for a bit. I really think living 2000+ miles away and only seeing him for a week or two during the holidays helped. It allowed me to only see him at his best, but in the end I saw him for what he truly was - a bad person. There are a handful of people in my life that mean the absolute world to me. Two of them are sharing a home with that monster and that's my little sister and my mother. To my knowledge since I've been gone, he hasn't laid a hand on either one of them, but the sick and cruel things that he says to them, words that you say to someone if you truly want to just emotionally hurt them, made me lose faith in him as a human being.

One night last fall I get a call from my sister, crying cause' of something he said to her. My sister plays soccer and she's damn good at it. A Varsity starter since her freshmen year. Well, practices and games will keep ya after school for a bit. She normally wouldn't get home until 6, sometimes 7pm. Stepdad didn't like that and so he tells her he doesn't want her playing anymore. He could've just gone the overprotective route and been like, "I don't like you coming home late blah blah blah", but nope, he instead goes with the "Why even bother? It's a waste of time, you're not even good anyway, I never see you score any goals" (she's a defensive player... not her job to score goals) and to me that struck a nerve, cause' for one, that's my baby sister and I can't stand to hear her cry, two like my mother, my sister is a very happy go lucky kinda girl, it takes A LOT for something to get to her and three, that's almost exactly what he said to me over 12 years ago when I was running track in high school. He just had to whip out the old playbook of cruel and terrible things that you could say to a teenage girl. Like, well it didn't really work on the first kid, but maybe this time around it will. I saw more of the same directed at my mother when I came to visit earlier this year and that's when I lost it. For the first time in my life I finally raised my voice at him. It felt good. Since that day, he's apparently calmed down quite a bit, but that could also be my sister and mother sugar coating things since I'm not around to see it for myself.

The one thing that gives me comfort is that my sister only has one more year left in that house before she leaves for college and my mother at least from what I can tell is just settling. I think she's just too used to the material comfort. Weekend trips, nice clothes, big house, I get the feeling she thinks that a divorce would be too much of a hassle. It also seems like everything he says and does nowadays is just white noise to her. Like, she doesn't care unless it's something directed at my sister, then momma bear gets angry.

Anyway, sorry that my response turned into a short novel. I hope we can get back to the topic at hand. Also, thanks for those who served and for those who plan to serve. It's not for everyone and I know that in some countries, you don't have a choice, but it's definitely what you make of it.
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To Pay for school and get work experience.
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No choice here, Drafted in 1970.

I ended up really enjoyin the training Even survival tranin with Green Beret got to go on 1 week of the 2 week annual training to.

I missed going V-nam by 6 names and instead went to Seoul, Korea for 18 months.

Made lots of memories there and in Japan.

NO REGRETS AT ALL!
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