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Is there a point to being nice to people online anymore?
Posted 7/18/16

XxDarkSasuxX wrote:


rinrakuu wrote:


Hrafna wrote:

Anymore? We were originally never nice to people online. We just didn't care to talk about real life issues; We were on the internet to escape real life issues. In this day and age, everyone we tried to escape from is found on the internet, so much that we, who originally sought out the internet to escape you, are returning to real life.


We?You? Excuse me, who the fuck are you, the borg? Come to assimilate me? Ok, lets say thats everybody, so what, and how does that counter my argument in any way shape or form?

1. I'm 99% sure what he said flew by you.

2. Back in the day, or so I've heard, people were pretty big assholes on the internet. Makes me look like a pretty princess in comparison.


Without confidence, where would we be? And so what? It is only more underground and insidious,
Posted 7/18/16

XxDarkSasuxX wrote:


rinrakuu wrote:


Hrafna wrote:

Anymore? We were originally never nice to people online. We just didn't care to talk about real life issues; We were on the internet to escape real life issues. In this day and age, everyone we tried to escape from is found on the internet, so much that we, who originally sought out the internet to escape you, are returning to real life.


We?You? Excuse me, who the fuck are you, the borg? Come to assimilate me? Ok, lets say thats everybody, so what, and how does that counter my argument in any way shape or form?

1. I'm 99% sure what he said flew by you.

2. Back in the day, or so I've heard, people were pretty big assholes on the internet. Makes me look like a pretty princess in comparison.


I am sure I understood it to a fine point, just not agreeing anything has gotten better or worse, if not more shady af. rule applies to all and its the sad part. if I scare him back to his wife, well, ok, that is what to me that hes creeping here instead of in their bed :/ ok, no.
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Posted 7/18/16

rinrakuu wrote:

I am sure I understood it to a fine point, just not agreeing anything has gotten better or worse, if not more shady af. rule applies to all and its the sad part. if I scare him back to his wife, well, ok, that is what to me that hes creeping here instead of in their bed :/ ok, no.

I wouldn't say it's gotten better or worse, either. Just way more heavily populated.

I humbly salute those that have the patience to be nice to the idiot masses that populate the internet. I certainly can't be.
Posted 7/18/16
There is never really a point in treating online people well because 1) you most likely won't see them in person 2) because you won't see them in person, treating them well and requiring a "point" would mean you're expecting something in exchange.

There's only so much they or you can do to or for them anyway.
Posted 7/18/16 , edited 7/18/16

XxDarkSasuxX wrote:


rinrakuu wrote:

I am sure I understood it to a fine point, just not agreeing anything has gotten better or worse, if not more shady af. rule applies to all and its the sad part. if I scare him back to his wife, well, ok, that is what to me that hes creeping here instead of in their bed :/ ok, no.

I wouldn't say it's gotten better or worse, either. Just way more heavily populated.

I humbly salute those that have the patience to be nice to the idiot masses that populate the internet. I certainly can't be.


I love your sarcasm, lol. I'd say its more a willing kind of ignorance to numb everyday or something. I haven't made up my mind about it yet, and I'm not immune.
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Posted 7/18/16

rinrakuu wrote:


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meh I'm not wasting my time on assholes, got better shit to do. I give nice people the time of day.

so yeah the point is to enjoy other nice peoples company. and if you're pleasant back, it works out well.






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Posted 7/18/16

rinrakuu wrote:
So how do you feel about being nice to those who don't appreciate it-- I don't really care now, I'm nice to those that are nice back and if someone isn't trying then I don't want to, lol. ~

Is it even worth being nice anymore if ppl prejudge you for it. I've seen how being a dick pays more and less considered to be fake than trying to be nice, so I guess I'll be a dick these days.

Acting like a jerk/douche/dick may be convenient but does not seem to be compatible with productive discussions. The reason why behaving like an ass seems to work well on the internet is because there is a lack of tangible consequence. Got a nasty reputation? Who cares - people will probably forget in a week or two. Got banned? Close your account, start anew with a different IP. Being nice takes effort and consideration, whereas an ass-hat can say whatever the hell they want, feel good about it, then dismiss everything.

While I would not go so far as to say being a dick is the opposite of being fake, it often feels that way because the statements sound more casual as though it was an interchange between individuals who don't give a fuck and never want to make things too serious because it's the internet. Nobody said you can't be a dick and also be nice at the same time - it's all quite subjective.

Still, the line between being a total dickhead and a troll is a thin one. Not everyone can differentiate between the two and a one wrong step can lead to a strong backlash.

Also, expecting others to appreciate your supposedly nice behaviour is a bit selfish and naive - hell, I'm guilty of it. To be fair, being nice can be a way of avoiding pointless confrontation in the internet. As many others have stated, maybe it's best to simply find a balance that suits you.
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Posted 7/18/16

jakolentu2015 wrote:

. . . whereas an ass-hat can say whatever the hell they want, feel good about it, then dismiss everything. . .

What's the problem?
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Posted 7/18/16

rinrakuu wrote:

According to Hrafna, everyone does. *shrug* That seems to be why I'm ganged up on my thread as if its a red herring when its not. can't be nice to fakes or creeps and come out dignity intact. Unless you are stupid. >:c

(caveat: get off your high horses, holier-than-thous, there are no nice people, as they say the road most traveled is the road to hell. )

Hah, must be nice, I don't even seem to have much time for sleep these days.

In any case, like I implied, I try not to pick fights more out of practicality (or laziness) than an innate sense of kindness or saintliness.

Being mean isn't going to make them into less of a mentally deficient pustule of genetic failure. So, if getting banned or encouraging them to act even more irritating is the most I can expect to accomplish, why put in the effort?

People are actually ganging up on you in here? I'm too lazy to read the entire thread (case in point).
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Posted 7/18/16
Don't be nicer or meaner than you are, the internet is the only place left to truly be yourself.
When you log out and enter the real world again, you will have to put on the act because you don't have the luxury of blocking people you don't want to acknowledge.
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Posted 7/18/16

Sir_jamesalot wrote:

Don't be nicer or meaner than you are, the internet is the only place left to truly be yourself.
When you log out and enter the real world again, you will have to put on the act because you don't have the luxury of blocking people you don't want to acknowledge.


Very true, a lot of people seem to think it's a good thing to be mean on here but in reality that probably only makes them sad, I think most people have a desire to be nice to people but then at the same time being too nice to people can be an issue as well. For me personally it's difficult to know how nice or mean I am as a person because I am so used to putting an act on in real life.
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Posted 7/18/16

missgezky wrote:


Sir_jamesalot wrote:

Don't be nicer or meaner than you are, the internet is the only place left to truly be yourself.
When you log out and enter the real world again, you will have to put on the act because you don't have the luxury of blocking people you don't want to acknowledge.


Very true, a lot of people seem to think it's a good thing to be mean on here but in reality that probably only makes them sad, I think most people have a desire to be nice to people but then at the same time being too nice to people can be an issue as well. For me personally it's difficult to know how nice or mean I am as a person because I am so used to putting an act on in real life.


There's no such thing as being too nice or too polite. It's appropriate in all situations if you ask me. Being a coward or a doormat is not the equivalent to mercy and respect.
Posted 7/18/16

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rinrakuu wrote:

According to Hrafna, everyone does. *shrug* That seems to be why I'm ganged up on my thread as if its a red herring when its not. can't be nice to fakes or creeps and come out dignity intact. Unless you are stupid. >:c

(caveat: get off your high horses, holier-than-thous, there are no nice people, as they say the road most traveled is the road to hell. )

Hah, must be nice, I don't even seem to have much time for sleep these days.

In any case, like I implied, I try not to pick fights more out of practicality (or laziness) than an innate sense of kindness or saintliness.

Being mean isn't going to make them into less of a mentally deficient pustule of genetic failure. So, if getting banned or encouraging them to act even more irritating is the most I can expect to accomplish, why put in the effort?

People are actually ganging up on you in here? I'm too lazy to read the entire thread (case in point).


How lazy. :P


Sir_jamesalot wrote:

Don't be nicer or meaner than you are, the internet is the only place left to truly be yourself.
When you log out and enter the real world again, you will have to put on the act because you don't have the luxury of blocking people you don't want to acknowledge.


Actually, you have it backwards. I'm good at telling people I don't like irl to fuck off. I like it very much


missgezky wrote:


Sir_jamesalot wrote:

Don't be nicer or meaner than you are, the internet is the only place left to truly be yourself.
When you log out and enter the real world again, you will have to put on the act because you don't have the luxury of blocking people you don't want to acknowledge.


Very true, a lot of people seem to think it's a good thing to be mean on here but in reality that probably only makes them sad, I think most people have a desire to be nice to people but then at the same time being too nice to people can be an issue as well. For me personally it's difficult to know how nice or mean I am as a person because I am so used to putting an act on in real life.


Tbh I'm quite robust with the fuck offs and wdyd and kys's. Shrug. Its fun.
Posted 7/18/16

PeripheralVisionary wrote:


missgezky wrote:


Sir_jamesalot wrote:

Don't be nicer or meaner than you are, the internet is the only place left to truly be yourself.
When you log out and enter the real world again, you will have to put on the act because you don't have the luxury of blocking people you don't want to acknowledge.


Very true, a lot of people seem to think it's a good thing to be mean on here but in reality that probably only makes them sad, I think most people have a desire to be nice to people but then at the same time being too nice to people can be an issue as well. For me personally it's difficult to know how nice or mean I am as a person because I am so used to putting an act on in real life.


There's no such thing as being too nice or too polite. It's appropriate in all situations if you ask me. Being a coward or a doormat is not the equivalent to mercy and respect.


Says the masochist.
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Posted 7/18/16

PeripheralVisionary wrote:


missgezky wrote:


Sir_jamesalot wrote:

Don't be nicer or meaner than you are, the internet is the only place left to truly be yourself.
When you log out and enter the real world again, you will have to put on the act because you don't have the luxury of blocking people you don't want to acknowledge.


Very true, a lot of people seem to think it's a good thing to be mean on here but in reality that probably only makes them sad, I think most people have a desire to be nice to people but then at the same time being too nice to people can be an issue as well. For me personally it's difficult to know how nice or mean I am as a person because I am so used to putting an act on in real life.


There's no such thing as being too nice or too polite. It's appropriate in all situations if you ask me. Being a coward or a doormat is not the equivalent to mercy and respect.


There is such as thing as pretending to be nicer than you are.
I think once you pass that point, it becomes part of an alternative motive to manipulate someone into liking you more so than the altruistic motive of being nice in general. Not everyone has the same ideals or the same capacity for being nice so your millage will vary.
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