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Post Reply Is it possible to be unhappy because you feel like everything is too good for you?
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Posted 7/20/16
I've been pondering this question for awhile, especially since always wanting more is really common for people. Do you think it's natural for someone to be unhappy because their life is good and they know that many people's lives aren't?

Kind of like someone with a miserable life realizing that they're the exception upon seeing a normal life. Someone with an exceptionally good life realizing that most of the world isn't as fortunate as them.

All answers welcomed, I'm very curious on what everyone thinks, I don't think it's possible to answer to this alone.
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There is no reason to be unhappy over what you have no power to change.
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Don't be too sad. Don't worry about what you can't help until you can help it. Give to charity if it makes you feel better.
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I feel like there is a level of sympathy and that can put someone in the "dumps". It shows that on some level, you are a good person. I don't think it is wrong to feel that way, I do too sometimes.
Posted 7/20/16
Sounds like a typical symptom of depression/anxiety, tbh. The constant dread, fear, and self-loathing. You feel like everything could go tumbling down at any second.

Don't let it bother you too much. Just try to be happy that everything is going your way for once.
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I think it's very normal to be sad about others' unhappiness and also to have empathy for others.

But if you let it ruin your own life then there might be a problem.
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Warning. I am about to go all "quotatious" on this thread.


If there’s a remedy when trouble strikes,
What reason is there for dejection?
And if there is no help for it,
What use is there in being glum?


- Shantideva, Nalanda University



For every ailment under the sun
There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it;
If there be none, never mind it.


- W.W. Bartley


Grant yourself the courage to change what must be or can be altered, the serenity to accept what cannot be helped, and the insight to know the difference. Up to you to take it or leave it.
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Quite frankly there are many people in the world that will never be happy, because it is not in their nature to be happy. Some people will always be unhappy regardless of the circumstances.
Posted 7/20/16
I feel the same as you

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The way I feel is that I'm very depressed but I can't help but feel like it's just me being retarded because I have a lot of things others don't have. It's really depressing to know that even your depression isn't earned.
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Posted 7/20/16
Hell no. Plenty grateful that I wasn't born in some slum or third world country. Would be even more grateful if I had more.

Feeling bad for someone strictly because "they don't have it as good as you" actually comes off as condescending. Unless you're willing to share that wealth with them, that is. Because, you know, they can't eat with someone's pity.
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Posted 7/20/16
Happy 17th birthday!
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It's very possible, and it will happen multiple times to most people I think. Often times we all become to enveloped in the idea that we all need to be happy all the time, or that being sad is in some way "wrong". We will accuse others of being depressed over "first world problems", and not appreciating what we have (and be accused ourselves). We will feel guilty over being depressed when others have so little. The important thing to remember is that saddens is not a character flaw, it's a natural human response to many things.

Don't try to hard to fight it when you feel sad for any reason, just know that we all find ourselves there regularly. From my own experience, I have often been depressed by the nature of things despite the fact that my life has been filled with more wealth than most kings throughout history. Instead of concerning yourself with the validity of your feelings, rather attempt to understand that it's all part of getting to know yourself. Take the time to feel sad, be equally committed to feeling joy when it comes, and attempt to be kind to others feeling the same way without trying to "correct" their sadness.

If you ever need someone to bounce your thoughts off of, feel free to send me a message. I would also recommend checking out the youtube channel "The School of Life", as they often touch on topics very similar to the question you posed.

tl;dr

Yep, a very possible and natural human response.
Posted 7/20/16 , edited 7/20/16
It is normal to feel sad upon realizing that there are so many people who are less fortunate. Help them whenever you are in a position to help. My goal is to become so rich and successful so I can help many people. Feeling sorry for them is well and good but without positive acts to help them, your pity is useless. Actually don't pity them. Have compassion instead.
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Posted 7/20/16
Time to get a job and pay bills.
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