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Don't sweat it, because trust me- People are unhappy for all KINDS of reasons.
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byClear wrote:

I've been pondering this question for awhile, especially since always wanting more is really common for people. Do you think it's natural for someone to be unhappy because their life is good and they know that many people's lives aren't?

Kind of like someone with a miserable life realizing that they're the exception upon seeing a normal life. Someone with an exceptionally good life realizing that most of the world isn't as fortunate as them.

All answers welcomed, I'm very curious on what everyone thinks, I don't think it's possible to answer to this alone.


That's actually a very good virtue to have. Nothing wrong with it.
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Huh? It's very possible, that's the thread.
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No, it is not natural. It is a self-inflicted mental condition and a defence-mechanism. By what measure are you using to gauge whether another person's life is not good? And when you do decide on a screening method and start to identify those who are worse off than you, why do you feel unhappy? It's not your life. Do you believe it is wrong to be happy when other people have are having a hard time? Why? What possible obligations do you have to people you don't know?

Would you feel unhappy looking for Pokemon next to homeless shelter?

Why are you unhappy, truly? Is it a form of self-pity, to justify your standard of living by pretending to feel empathy? Or perhaps you're unhappy because those people you've identified cause you to feel anxiety or emotional distress? Because it makes you feel guilty?

"Don't fret over the things you cannot control." Yes and no. That kind of response is typically used as an excuse for inaction or to maintain the status quo. Oftentimes, there is actually various degrees of influence that can be exerted but most cannot be bothered or do not want to take the risk. Perhaps the unhappiness you speak of is in fact not unhappiness, but pangs of guilt and a sense of condescending helplessness.

Remember when your parents told you to clean your plate because there are lot of people out there who don't have enough to eat? That is a twisted fallacy and a form of behavioural manipulation. Who the fuck cares if other people don't have enough to eat? Your immediate concern is that you have enough to eat, isn't it?

Unless you want to argue that, contrary to their inherently selfish nature, people's emotional state should be continuously based on a comparison to others. Constantly fretting over the livelihoods of others around them.

On the other side of the coin, if those around you lived more or the less the same, would that make you happy? Why?

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It's possible for people to "feel bad" about anything they decide to fixate on, especially when they're surrounded by people who want them to feel bad and to feel guilty about everything. It's like a socially transmitted disease.
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byClear wrote:

I've been pondering this question for awhile, especially since always wanting more is really common for people. Do you think it's natural for someone to be unhappy because their life is good and they know that many people's lives aren't?

Kind of like someone with a miserable life realizing that they're the exception upon seeing a normal life. Someone with an exceptionally good life realizing that most of the world isn't as fortunate as them.

All answers welcomed, I'm very curious on what everyone thinks, I don't think it's possible to answer to this alone.


Well, it doesn't seem reasonable to feel unhappy. We're only well off because so many people worked hard to give us a good life. Now, we face the challenge of repaying that debt by doing the best we can to provide for ourselves, for those close to us, and to boost up our communities with anything extra. Even if, sometimes, all we can manage is to provide for ourselves, that's still being useful to the economy.

I went to some nice schools. Not everyone gets to go to these schools because of their circumstances in life. But, going to these schools isn't a vacation. I attended lectures, did my reading and re-reading of the books, completed homework projects, and I even agreed to help tutor fellow students. This was all for the privilege of doing some difficult, time-consuming jobs later on as an adult.

And if we're doing such a good job keeping up with our school, work, family, and other responsibilities, there's really no reason to be sad about it. Spreading our good cheer is actually the best thing we can do at that point. Stressing over comparisons is not constructive, whether it's envying someone who seems to have more, or pitying someone who seems to have less. Each of us faces unique challenges in our lives.

Just my two pennies worth of philosophy.
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