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What do long distance relationships lack that in person relationships have?
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Posted 7/21/16 , edited 7/21/16

stars201 wrote:
Long distance relationships are not for me
then... how close?
Posted 7/21/16
Relationships seem like a joke to me.
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Long distance is not my thing. I like it more up-close and personal. You know. Actually enjoying eachother. However if the relationship is right the distance nor time matters. Sounds weird, but in a good relationship you can be alone together without problems for extended periods of time
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Only physicality the least important part imo
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missgezky wrote:

Of course no one would prefer a long distance relationship over regular one but you seem to be forgetting a very crucial element to a relationship - the person you are with. LDRs are difficult, but they are only temporary. You put yourself in an LDR because to you the other person is worth waiting for, not because you are convinced you will remain together and apart.


TIL I'm no one

Some of us prefer LDRs I find physical touch etc to be tiring etc for the most part I prefer LDRs to being close irl.

i have had the chance to pick close relationships over ldr and I picked LDR.

Physical touch is nice sometimes sure but it can be too much.

Anyhow for the first year or so I would ideally date someone in a ldr
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Humans are social creatures, and telecommunication merely grants us the illusion of social interaction. To rationalize that long distance relationships is a better choice because you're emotionally unstable, is but an excuse to not improve your situation, and your emotional state.


Depends on the person really some humans are less social and have different needs and wants
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10/10 Long distance relationships are problematic. 9.5/10 Long distance relationships end in failure.

It's like living in New York but having a slice of cheesecake in San Francisco. You love that slice, but you can't eat it. You're inevitably going to find another slice of cake to fill that void. Whether you wanna be a sleaze and eat cheesecake or be loyal and eat chocolate cake, you're still gonna end eating a different slice of cake. Or you can go on a diet and not eat any cake till you go back to San Francisco. I personally like to enjoy my life though.


To be fair it's the same with any relationship
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Easier to develop a emotional connection because it's easier to tell people things personal or otherwise wihthout being face to face.
Posted 7/21/16 , edited 7/21/16

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missgezky wrote:

Of course no one would prefer a long distance relationship over regular one but you seem to be forgetting a very crucial element to a relationship - the person you are with. LDRs are difficult, but they are only temporary. You put yourself in an LDR because to you the other person is worth waiting for, not because you are convinced you will remain together and apart.


TIL I'm no one

Some of us prefer LDRs I find physical touch etc to be tiring etc for the most part I prefer LDRs to being close irl.

i have had the chance to pick close relationships over ldr and I picked LDR.

Physical touch is nice sometimes sure but it can be too much.

Anyhow for the first year or so I would ideally date someone in a ldr


[ By what this person is saying I think he may be a virgin just giving my idea based on his answers.]
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Ryulightorb wrote:


missgezky wrote:

Of course no one would prefer a long distance relationship over regular one but you seem to be forgetting a very crucial element to a relationship - the person you are with. LDRs are difficult, but they are only temporary. You put yourself in an LDR because to you the other person is worth waiting for, not because you are convinced you will remain together and apart.


TIL I'm no one

Some of us prefer LDRs I find physical touch etc to be tiring etc for the most part I prefer LDRs to being close irl.

i have had the chance to pick close relationships over ldr and I picked LDR.

Physical touch is nice sometimes sure but it can be too much.

Anyhow for the first year or so I would ideally date someone in a ldr


I didn't realise anyone would prefer to be in an LDR, but if you do then that's your choice, nothing wrong with that
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Posted 7/21/16 , edited 7/21/16

L7D wrote:


Ryulightorb wrote:


missgezky wrote:

Of course no one would prefer a long distance relationship over regular one but you seem to be forgetting a very crucial element to a relationship - the person you are with. LDRs are difficult, but they are only temporary. You put yourself in an LDR because to you the other person is worth waiting for, not because you are convinced you will remain together and apart.


TIL I'm no one

Some of us prefer LDRs I find physical touch etc to be tiring etc for the most part I prefer LDRs to being close irl.

i have had the chance to pick close relationships over ldr and I picked LDR.

Physical touch is nice sometimes sure but it can be too much.

Anyhow for the first year or so I would ideally date someone in a ldr


[ By what this person is saying I think he may be a virgin just giving my idea based on his answers.]




I'm autistic I hate touch in general :P
Also I have a nearly nonexistent sex drive sex doesn't interest me
I don't rely or use body language so that's not an issue either
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Posted 7/21/16

missgezky wrote:


Ryulightorb wrote:


missgezky wrote:

Of course no one would prefer a long distance relationship over regular one but you seem to be forgetting a very crucial element to a relationship - the person you are with. LDRs are difficult, but they are only temporary. You put yourself in an LDR because to you the other person is worth waiting for, not because you are convinced you will remain together and apart.


TIL I'm no one

Some of us prefer LDRs I find physical touch etc to be tiring etc for the most part I prefer LDRs to being close irl.

i have had the chance to pick close relationships over ldr and I picked LDR.

Physical touch is nice sometimes sure but it can be too much.

Anyhow for the first year or so I would ideally date someone in a ldr


I didn't realise anyone would prefer to be in an LDR, but if you do then that's your choice, nothing wrong with that


Well mostly for the first year or so my reasoning would take a few pages so i won't bother with details XD
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Well, I am currently in a long distance relationship but it wasn't always that way. I met my current girlfriend in high school but now that my family moved to a new city and I went to college, we were forced to make our relationship long distance. I really do miss seeing her every day and talking to her face-to-face but we've been able to make it worth for two years. We text every day (we can't video chat because her wifi isn't good enough for it) and one of us goes to visit the other for about a week at a time at various points in the year.

It certainly feels different than meeting someone online and dating them without seeing them face to face because when I got into my long distance relationship, we already had that emotional connection from when we were living in the same town. Do I miss living close to her? Yes, but I am very happy that we're able to make it work regardless of the barrier between us.
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Posted 7/21/16 , edited 7/21/16
I've been in long distance relationships in the past and must say what their missing is subjective to what you're looking for. If it's the cuddles, feeling up and sex then it's missing a lot. If it's touching base, talking and sharing your day with someone you could see yourself spending your future life with then it's not missing anything...for now. Eventually it will be and one or both of you will decide either it's more important to be together or it just won't work out. As others have pointed out, as long as trust and love aren't missing you have a good chance of succeeding. If either is missing it just may be too much.

As for your second question, when I was younger I ended up in a long distance relationship for almost 2 years. We both preferred it due to neither of us wanting to be fully uprooted from our lives but we were happy to know when we got home each night or woke up each morning the other one would be on Skype waiting for us to call. Sometimes there are factors that won't make a shorter distance relationship work that make a long distance relationship worthwhile, in our case it was she not wanting to uproot her children after a fairly recent divorce and me not wanting to close down the business I had that had just begun to take off off the ground. It didn't stop us from talking a few times a day and seeing each other occasionally though.
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