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I dont
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PrinceJudar wrote:

What's not to value? I'm a successful and attractive as fuck.



Maybe I hadn't always seen it that way. However--so what if I was eccentric? So what if I was friendless? So fuckin' what if I was wired up a bit disorderly?

I used to desire what everyone else had as if it was air to my lungs. It took time to realize that I couldn't--and that was okay. Doing things my way was what helped me realize my own worth.


Damn I needa learn how to do this!
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Humms wrote:

I actually value myself.

I don't know who wouldn't value their own life.

Anger? Why? Anger slowly kills you. Those who don't value themselves are just lazy, and I thought I was lazy

Anyone can have an interesting idea, but what good is an idea when only you can see it.

And besides, if you are still breathing, that's worth something to me, it just takes time to fully value something.


As someone who doesn't value themselves, there's so much no in this comment. Cringe. But thanks for trying to be nice.


Nice?

Being nice doesn't solve the problem of not valuing yourself.

If you haven't figured out your worth, then don't look at my comment as being wrong, because someone who says they don't value themselves has no clue about what is right and wrong
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Nice?

Being nice doesn't solve the problem of not valuing yourself.

If you haven't figured out your worth, then don't look at my comment as being wrong, because someone who says they don't value themselves has no clue about what is right and wrong


And your basing this on.......?

I judge humans on a case by case basis. There are some people who, even if they deserve hapiness, have valid reasons to lack value in themselves. Id never wish it on another human being but, i have very valid reasons not to value myself.

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I'm 21 and employed in a decent job for my first job, I can think seriously about what I want to do with my life whilst earning money and building a decent CV, my life's just beginning and I already value myself highly, only thing in my life that's missing is a beautiful girlfriend
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as worthless
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PrinceJudar wrote:

What's not to value? I'm a successful and attractive as fuck.



Maybe I hadn't always seen it that way. However--so what if I was eccentric? So what if I was friendless? So fuckin' what if I was wired up a bit disorderly?

I used to desire what everyone else had as if it was air to my lungs. It took time to realize that I couldn't--and that was okay. Doing things my way was what helped me realize my own worth.


Attractive is subjective tho but successful objectively you are
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Im the kind of person who has all kinds of hidden talents, leaves everybody wondering about her and then surprises them
I value myself beyond all others
though i have many doubts
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What have I accomplished? Nothing really. My ideas? Others probably done it before. I always value the fact that I can come up with interesting ideas. One that could be revolutionary and probably worth millions of dollars and might be top secret. It just seems nothing of mine really matters apart from status and wealth. How do you guys value yourself? Before I know it I'm overweight, stuck with a programming job, and earning average salary with a few friends to talk to. But I got tons of anger, I'm saying the Angry Bird TNT type of anger for me to be stuck in this situation. But you only got one life, what can I say.


A better question to ask yourself is what do I hope to accomplish. In terms of sheer physical anything then I'm sorely lacking. I don't have the greatest job nor did I go and get a higher education (although there's still time for that even if I am approaching middle age) when I was younger. Status and wealth ONLY matter if you allow them to matter. Stop worrying about what others think is great and think about what you want out of life. It's your life. If you are unhappy about your weight then try to do something about it. Make an effort. Success and failure aren't as important as just trying and trust me, you can do it. It might not be easy but you can do it. It will be a bit harder since you have a job where you sit all day but if you're determined enough then it's possible. Remember that weight gain ONLY happens
when what you consume is greater than your diet plus exercise. If you burn more calories then you take in then you lose weight. It's a very simple ratio but insanely hard to do. I am a really skinny person and I lost a good chunk of my weight due to medical reasons but before then I had gotten a bit bigger due to those same medical problems and being unable to work or move around much. I ended being robbed by some slow a@# punk that normally I should have been able to catch but I ended up busting my large butt on a curb instead, skinning my leg and arms up. I was pissed as well as embarrassed so I started walking constantly and ended up losing twenty pounds as a result. Of course then I got sick and lost another forty pounds which sucked but that's not the point. The guy who robbed me was caught and charged for theft plus other crimes he'd committed so that was cool. I hurt so bad doing all that walking but I didn't ever want to be in a position like that again. Plus I really wanted to lose some weight. I guess the moral here is be very careful what you ask for. You just may get it in spades.

And you're right. You've only got this one life so why be unhappy about it? Why not live it to the fullest? Do you want to come up with some groundbreaking idea that will make you a lot of money or is that what you feel that others would like you to do? What do you truly want? I can tell you what I want out of life. I just want to help someone, anyone. It doesn't even have to be on a large level. I thought for years why am I here and what do I want out of life and eventually came to the conclusion that I just want to be here to say a kind word to someone who may need it that particular job. Have I been successful so far? I'd like to think so. It's hard to tell because most people are strangers and there's no follow up but I think I've cheered a few people up here and there and that's enough for me. At the very least I've tried and again that's enough for me. That's not saying I don't want to add to it and don't want more. I definitely don't want to just settle with who I am now. I want to be better and I want to do more. I want to get a better job. I want to be in better shape (quit smoking lol) and I would like to have more shiny things that I can enjoy while I'm here. That's going to take more effort on my part though and I'm working on it.

Just think about what is it that you love? Maybe you were meant to write a book. Or maybe you were meant to come up with some really cheap and easy to use app that will end up being loved by the masses. Who knows. Only you do. I sort of wish I was a programmer. I know it's probably boring but that's a pretty nice skill to have so don't take that away from yourself even if it's not something you want to do. You earned that. Whether it was through education or you were self taught that's something to be proud of and something that many of us can't do even though we'd like to. And if you're unhappy about it then work on your weight a bit. Don't kill yourself and don't deny yourself the things you enjoy but just start slowly. There are plenty of large people who are healthy, way more healthy than my two pack a day self is. If you're happy with who you are and are instead worried about other people's image of you then don't. You're the one who has to live your life so don't worry about what others think.

Anyway, I'm rooting for you. Happiness can be really elusive to some of us. It just means we have to work at it a little bit harder at it is all. Just find what makes you happy. What you want to do? What you can live with? Why settle? What can I do to get the most out of each and every day? You may not even need a new career. It could be something as simple as camping with friends, reading good books, enjoying more time out, having a pet. Who knows. Only you will know. Good luck to you.

Edit: After all that I never answered your question. I value my potential highly. I don't always value myself that highly but I do value the potential I have as high just like I value the potential others have equally as high, heck maybe even more so if they don't do stupid stuff like I did and have a clearer path ahead of them. Sometimes I have a hard time placing value on myself because my brain is a big fat traitor but I'm working on it. I can't say I'm happy every day but who with a massive chemical imbalance is right? lol. I do think I have a lot of value simply as a human being though even if that value may never been seen or felt by the masses. I'd rather make small ripples in the pool than a big splash because even if they can no longer been seen or felt they will still continue on forever touching everything in their path. Being kind to others is sort of like that. One can literally change the world one person at a time.
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fredreload wrote:

What have I accomplished? Nothing really. My ideas? Others probably done it before. I always value the fact that I can come up with interesting ideas. One that could be revolutionary and probably worth millions of dollars and might be top secret. It just seems nothing of mine really matters apart from status and wealth. How do you guys value yourself? Before I know it I'm overweight, stuck with a programming job, and earning average salary with a few friends to talk to. But I got tons of anger, I'm saying the Angry Bird TNT type of anger for me to be stuck in this situation. But you only got one life, what can I say.


A better question to ask yourself is what do I hope to accomplish. In terms of sheer physical anything then I'm sorely lacking. I don't have the greatest job nor did I go and get a higher education (although there's still time for that even if I am approaching middle age) when I was younger. Status and wealth ONLY matter if you allow them to matter. Stop worrying about what others think is great and think about what you want out of life. It's your life. If you are unhappy about your weight then try to do something about it. Make an effort. Success and failure aren't as important as just trying and trust me, you can do it. It might not be easy but you can do it. It will be a bit harder since you have a job where you sit all day but if you're determined enough then it's possible. Remember that weight gain ONLY happens
when what you consume is greater than your diet plus exercise. If you burn more calories then you take in then you lose weight. It's a very simple ratio but insanely hard to do. I am a really skinny person and I lost a good chunk of my weight due to medical reasons but before then I had gotten a bit bigger due to those same medical problems and being unable to work or move around much. I ended being robbed by some slow a@# punk that normally I should have been able to catch but I ended up busting my large butt on a curb instead, skinning my leg and arms up. I was pissed as well as embarrassed so I started walking constantly and ended up losing twenty pounds as a result. Of course then I got sick and lost another forty pounds which sucked but that's not the point. The guy who robbed me was caught and charged for theft plus other crimes he'd committed so that was cool. I hurt so bad doing all that walking but I didn't ever want to be in a position like that again. Plus I really wanted to lose some weight. I guess the moral here is be very careful what you ask for. You just may get it in spades.

And you're right. You've only got this one life so why be unhappy about it? Why not live it to the fullest? Do you want to come up with some groundbreaking idea that will make you a lot of money or is that what you feel that others would like you to do? What do you truly want? I can tell you what I want out of life. I just want to help someone, anyone. It doesn't even have to be on a large level. I thought for years why am I here and what do I want out of life and eventually came to the conclusion that I just want to be here to say a kind word to someone who may need it that particular job. Have I been successful so far? I'd like to think so. It's hard to tell because most people are strangers and there's no follow up but I think I've cheered a few people up here and there and that's enough for me. At the very least I've tried and again that's enough for me. That's not saying I don't want to add to it and don't want more. I definitely don't want to just settle with who I am now. I want to be better and I want to do more. I want to get a better job. I want to be in better shape (quit smoking lol) and I would like to have more shiny things that I can enjoy while I'm here. That's going to take more effort on my part though and I'm working on it.

Just think about what is it that you love? Maybe you were meant to write a book. Or maybe you were meant to come up with some really cheap and easy to use app that will end up being loved by the masses. Who knows. Only you do. I sort of wish I was a programmer. I know it's probably boring but that's a pretty nice skill to have so don't take that away from yourself even if it's not something you want to do. You earned that. Whether it was through education or you were self taught that's something to be proud of and something that many of us can't do even though we'd like to. And if you're unhappy about it then work on your weight a bit. Don't kill yourself and don't deny yourself the things you enjoy but just start slowly. There are plenty of large people who are healthy, way more healthy than my two pack a day self is. If you're happy with who you are and are instead worried about other people's image of you then don't. You're the one who has to live your life so don't worry about what others think.

Anyway, I'm rooting for you. Happiness can be really elusive to some of us. It just means we have to work at it a little bit harder at it is all. Just find what makes you happy. What you want to do? What you can live with? Why settle? What can I do to get the most out of each and every day? You may not even need a new career. It could be something as simple as camping with friends, reading good books, enjoying more time out, having a pet. Who knows. Only you will know. Good luck to you.

Edit: After all that I never answered your question. I value my potential highly. I don't always value myself that highly but I do value the potential I have as high just like I value the potential others have equally as high, heck maybe even more so if they don't do stupid stuff like I did and have a clearer path ahead of them. Sometimes I have a hard time placing value on myself because my brain is a big fat traitor but I'm working on it. I can't say I'm happy every day but who with a massive chemical imbalance is right? lol. I do think I have a lot of value simply as a human being though even if that value may never been seen or felt by the masses. I'd rather make small ripples in the pool than a big splash because even if they can no longer been seen or felt they will still continue on forever touching everything in their path. Being kind to others is sort of like that. One can literally change the world one person at a time.


Thanks bro!

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Nice?

Being nice doesn't solve the problem of not valuing yourself.

If you haven't figured out your worth, then don't look at my comment as being wrong, because someone who says they don't value themselves has no clue about what is right and wrong


And your basing this on.......?

I judge humans on a case by case basis. There are some people who, even if they deserve hapiness, have valid reasons to lack value in themselves. Id never wish it on another human being but, i have very valid reasons not to value myself.



oh now I get it, sorry, you are right. I just corrected myself.

You actually just said you have a valid reason to not value yourself -_-

You have no right to judge when you yourself haven't even accepted yourself. On a case to case basis, what's that? Watching the news, watching a video online, playing games?

Kids today. Nobody deserves happiness, because there are those who think their life is worthless when they can freely access the Internet to write about their life, when there are others who have nothing yet value their life.

We find happiness.
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