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If you liked someone, but they didn't like you back, would you still continue trying to win their heart?
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Posted 8/6/16 , edited 8/6/16

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My affection does not yield to my own greed, it requires nothing in return. Naturally, it makes sense to wish for mutual feelings, but my fondness of another means I put their happiness before my own, whether it means I am in the picture or not. I am not a pushover, however, and will not stand for someone who realises this about me and decides to abuse it. Anyone who would attempt to do so would lose most value in my eyes.

I will not outwardly give chase, because I believe anyone that is worth while will make their own decision and would not be so easily influenced by simple persistence. My consideration and care are not so simple, and anyone that focuses on superficialities will likely not be able to appreciate me as a partner, and it would simply not work out anyway.

I neither run away or chase, because I refuse to be a stress on someone I like. Instead, I am steadfast and offer my support if desired. This either leads to my desired outcome or my romantic fixation running thin and naturally turning more into a friendship level of care. When done this way, neither party is hurt. Giving chase can lead to feelings of guilt of the receiving party, and giving up can lead to the receiving party feeling they are of low value, and I refuse to make someone I care for feel either of these ways.


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Hmmm.. Yeah your right.


Of course I am, I'm TrickedMJ
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Jophar_Vorin wrote:

Hmmm.. Yeah your right.


Of course I am, I'm TrickedMJ


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My affection does not yield to my own greed, it requires nothing in return. Naturally, it makes sense to wish for mutual feelings, but my fondness of another means I put their happiness before my own, whether it means I am in the picture or not. I am not a pushover, however, and will not stand for someone who realises this about me and decides to abuse it. Anyone who would attempt to do so would lose most value in my eyes.

I will not outwardly give chase, because I believe anyone that is worth while will make their own decision and would not be so easily influenced by simple persistence. My consideration and care are not so simple, and anyone that focuses on superficialities will likely not be able to appreciate me as a partner, and it would simply not work out anyway.

I neither run away or chase, because I refuse to be a stress on someone I like. Instead, I am steadfast and offer my support if desired. This either leads to my desired outcome or my romantic fixation running thin and naturally turning more into a friendship level of care. When done this way, neither party is hurt. Giving chase can lead to feelings of guilt of the receiving party, and giving up can lead to the receiving party feeling they are of low value, and I refuse to make someone I care for feel either of these ways.


Such a good person, though unfortunately the feeling of guilt can still spread no matter how hard you try make things work out for both parties. Of course it's not always gonna be that way.
Posted 8/6/16 , edited 8/6/16

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Some of them, yes. Some are also a few years older than me. While a lot of them regret this if it happens to them some say things along the line of, "No, I don't feel like it was a waste of money, I bought it because I love her/him, that's all there is to it." Though I can't be like that, because again, it'll take a while just for me to want to spend anything on you. If we break up after I do spend money like that on you I will be upset and it will feel like a waste.


On the topic of money now I've also come to realise that I've also spent quite a bit sum on my girl friends - who are just what they are - friends who are girls... I also hate it when I ask them out and the whole friendship breaks off and it's like my money has been spent, the moment and memory was enjoyed... But the people are no longer there or the same and just a buttload of sadness ............ xD
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unfortunately the feeling of guilt can still spread no matter how hard you try make things work out for both parties. Of course it's not always gonna be that way.


I would do the best I can, that's the point. My extremely tough nature would surely help one from feeling guilty in my case.
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On the topic of money now I've also come to realise that I've also spent quite a bit sum on my girl friends - who are just what they are - friends who are girls... I also hate it when I ask them out and the whole friendship breaks off and it's like my money has been spent, the moment and memory was enjoyed... But the people are no longer there or the same and just a buttload of sadness ............ xD





Do you end up asking most of your friends out? Also, I hope you're not giving them money to increase your chances of getting a girl, that's bad thing, at least in my eyes, everyone's different though. There's nothing wrong with spending money on friends though just because you're friends as long as you expect nothing back, you could end up disappointed. I buy games and let friends download them from or just sometimes buy them their own games and other things. It's not a common thing but it happens.
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TrickedMJ wrote:

unfortunately the feeling of guilt can still spread no matter how hard you try make things work out for both parties. Of course it's not always gonna be that way.


I would do the best I can, that's the point. My extremely tough nature would surely help one from feeling guilty in my case.


Hmm. At least you'd be trying your hardest to not put those feelings on others. A lot of people would just like to ensure they're the only ones who don't end up hurt.
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No I don't...... I don't know if you can relate to me, but high school brings everybody closer together - So I could be doing group work more often during history (example) with my friend who I also attend classes with for other subjects too.... It's that sort of daily connection that draws me to them. Upon first meeting I make it a habit to keep meals away between me and the girl since I've been known to "lead people on" and in my earlier years that gave me a really bad reputation. Eventually; gifts on appropriate occasions (usually snacks-candy), transport fees (taxi or bus) and etc get in the way. I remember Valentine's Day probably being the worst one... I don't think I overdo it but since I've got an older sibling -- she's kind of smacked into me the sort of manners I should put on display when I'm courting a girl... lol
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No I don't...... I don't know if you can relate to me, but high school brings everybody closer together - So I could be doing group work more often during history (example) with my friend who I also attend classes with for other subjects too.... It's that sort of daily connection that draws me to them. Upon first meeting I make it a habit to keep meals away between me and the girl since I've been known to "lead people on" and in my earlier years that gave me a really bad reputation. Eventually; gifts on appropriate occasions (usually consumerables), transport fees (taxi or bus) and etc get in the way. I remember Valentine's Day probably being the worst one... I don't think I overdo it but since I've got an older sibling -- she's kind of smacked into me the sort of manners I should put on display when I'm courting a girl... lol





My apologies, was just curious because I've met plenty of people our age who do those types of things. Most people at every high school I've been to make me not want to have any connections with them, though I do know what it feels like to have good connections with others though I wouldn't necessarily say I'm drawn towards them. How old were when you gained that bad reputation? If I may know of course.
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can't force someone you yandere, but you can't turn your feelings off either so i'd stop trying, but it doesn't mean i'm instantly over them.
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When I was 12 -- I was into the over-emotional, head-banging, mascara-wearing girls... Lesson learnt.

Also I think the quoting button on forum posts isn't working for me right now. Sorry.
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i like lurking here, wish I had something to say but i dont back to lurking..


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