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Posted 8/7/16

Ryulightorb wrote:

I'm a pessimist of course it would be negative and i'm lazy that usually goes hand in hand with depression ;)


It seems you just care too much about what people might think or say so you don't bother. And no, it doesn't. Unless it's the bed-ridden kind of depression.
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Posted 8/7/16

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Ryulightorb wrote:

I'm a pessimist of course it would be negative and i'm lazy that usually goes hand in hand with depression ;)


It seems you just care too much about what people might think or say so you don't bother. And no, it doesn't. Unless it's the bed-ridden kind of depression.


It's the suicidal type of depression and i do care what others think and say i have tried all my life to not but i can never seem to get it right.

After being bullied all my life and made to feel self conscious it's kind of hard not to care what others think of me.

I knew of a guy with the same Disability as me who wore a tophat everywhere it looked so silly...i have alot of respect for him because he was able to ignore what others think of him and express himself.
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Posted 8/7/16 , edited 8/7/16
A relationship is built on trust. If you really question her motive behind her wearing revealing clothing maybe you don't trust her anymore? People can wear what they want, if your girlfriend went to the beach with her friends while you weren't there with a bikini would it be inappropriate? I'm not sure how your girlfriend acts but it is pretty hot out so revealing clothing is normal or very thin clothing.
Posted 8/7/16

Ryulightorb wrote:

It's the suicidal type of depression and i do care what others think and say i have tried all my life to not but i can never seem to get it right.

After being bullied all my life and made to feel self conscious it's kind of hard not to care what others think of me.

I knew of a guy with the same Disability as me who wore a tophat everywhere it looked so silly...i have alot of respect for him because he was able to ignore what others think of him and express himself.


I'm not a psychiatrist or anything, but I'm pretty sure you should be institutionalized if that's the type of depression you have. I knew someone who was and they had to be on suicide watch.

Also, wearing a tophat is not silly at all. I've seen people wear flashier things. I just think you've internalized too much what people have said or might say that it has skewed your own view to the point that you'd rather just avoid finding out if that's the way things really are.
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Posted 8/7/16

Rinrinrinn wrote:


Ryulightorb wrote:

It's the suicidal type of depression and i do care what others think and say i have tried all my life to not but i can never seem to get it right.

After being bullied all my life and made to feel self conscious it's kind of hard not to care what others think of me.

I knew of a guy with the same Disability as me who wore a tophat everywhere it looked so silly...i have alot of respect for him because he was able to ignore what others think of him and express himself.


I'm not a psychiatrist or anything, but I'm pretty sure you should be institutionalized if that's the type of depression you have. I knew someone who was and they had to be on suicide watch.

Also, wearing a tophat is not silly at all. I've seen people wear flashier things. I just think you've internalized too much what people have said or might say that it has skewed your own view to the point that you'd rather just avoid finding out if that's the way things really are.


Well seeing as i have tried to jump out of a car and crash it with my father and me in it..tried to overdose etc i would say i am suicidal.

Maybe but i just want to be seen as someone others don't dislike or hate people hate weird things....
Posted 8/7/16

Ryulightorb wrote:

Well seeing as i have tried to jump out of a car and crash it with my father and me in it..tried to overdose etc i would say i am suicidal.

Maybe but i just want to be seen as someone others don't dislike or hate people hate weird things....


That's nothing to take lightly, but like I said, I'm not a psychiatrist so I guess you're fine just doing what you do and having multiple opportunities to try and commit suicide. *shrug*

People don't hate weird things. They want to BE weird because weird is different and unique. So far from what I can see, you're your own worst enemy. You seem to be the first to put yourself down and that's something you need to address on your own.

Anywho, the thread's topic is getting derailed so I'll end here. Good luck.
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Posted 8/7/16

Rinrinrinn wrote:


Ryulightorb wrote:

Well seeing as i have tried to jump out of a car and crash it with my father and me in it..tried to overdose etc i would say i am suicidal.

Maybe but i just want to be seen as someone others don't dislike or hate people hate weird things....


That's nothing to take lightly, but like I said, I'm not a psychiatrist so I guess you're fine just doing what you do and having multiple opportunities to try and commit suicide. *shrug*

People don't hate weird things. They want to BE weird because weird is different and unique. So far from what I can see, you're your own worst enemy. You seem to be the first to put yourself down and that's something you need to address on your own.

Anywho, the thread's topic is getting derailed so I'll end here. Good luck.



I guess and yeah probably for the best xD
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???? Regardless of what you do, men will always look. It doesn't matter if you're with someone, or married, men will always look. That's why women need to keep their men in line.
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It's their body they can wear what they like. You have a relationship with the person, you do not own them or their body. Of course I'll comment on something if I dislike it and offer suggestions but that's my limit. I'd get the same in return. It's their prerogative what they choose to wear. I wouldn't really care what a potential boyfriend wears when I'm not around. That'd be his own personal business.
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As long as they don't dress like fuckin Fugo Then it's A-okay. Dudes got holes in his suit. Not even the good kind.
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Posted 8/7/16 , edited 8/7/16

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I'll wear what I want thx


This.
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Yeah, I don't understand OP logic
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Posted 8/7/16 , edited 8/7/16

Rinrinrinn wrote:

Here's a good article that supports what I have mentioned earlier:

Who Do We Dress Up For — Other Women, Men Or Ourselves? The Great Debate

As much as people say that they dress for themselves, it's really not as simple as that. We dress to communicate. This is why we don't care for walking around in our underwear at home nor do we care to get changed on days we don't go out and meet other people. It's because there's really no reason for it. No one will see. No one will say anything. But when we go out, we want to make a statement. We want people to notice us and to have a certain impression of us. We wear what we want others to see us as. So a girl in a relationship going out in an outfit put together to attract male attention cannot say she doesn't want attention. That's total bullshit. As I've said, we all know what we want to achieve when we get dressed. Even using the excuse of an outfit giving confidence is pretty silly because it's really not the outfit that gives confidence, but the attention and response it gets from its target audience.

P.S. I actually find it pretty funny when girls get defensive over how they dress and use the "I can wear whatever I want" statement. I mean... yeah, that's totally true. You can wear whatever you want to wear, but that doesn't mean people should like it. If you can wear whatever you want, then people can also say whatever they want about what you wear. That kind of freedom of expression goes both ways unfortunately.

I'll go ahead and debunk this accounting with an anecdote of my own.

I don't. I wear full black for my own personal reasons. It's not to look cool to strangers; it's definitely not to keep cool in the south; and it's not to fit in with a certain crowd.

And you are exactly right. People have commented on my style. They make depression comments as much as they ask "aren't you hot?". And they are just as free to ask such questions and make such judgements as I am to continue wearing what I like to wear.
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Posted 8/7/16 , edited 8/7/16
Some people are mad in this forum.
Sorry not sorry that your fashion "statements" don't appeal to everyone
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Posted 8/7/16
Honestly, wear whatever they want.

However, I will add one caveat: I think caring about your appearance and taking care of yourself is a good trait, not something to be obsessed with but dressing well exudes confidence. Unfortunately a large amount of skimpy clothing is not what I would call fashionable whatsoever.
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