Time Seems to Have Stopped For Me
Posted 8/7/16
Lately, for the last 2 weeks or so, I've been stuck in a slump. I can't seem to find enjoyment in doing anything that I normally find enjoyment in (playing video games and watching anime mainly). If it's relevant, I'm 19 years old and currently a college student on summer break. Even when I'm playing video games with friends and there's no apparent reason for me to be sad, it eventually gets to the point that I'm just mindlessly moving my hands on the mouse and keyboard and my eyes feel dried out and lifeless. I've been going to the gym (not a Pokemon gym) everyday for as long as I can remember and it does take my mind off of the bleakness of my daily routines and actually relieves some stress for me. I guess you could say that going to the gym is one of those things I can always find enjoyment in. But lately, when I go to the gym I've been having the same bored expression on my face as when I play video games and I'm just mindlessly moving my body through the exercises. Most of the time when I'm at home (I don't go out often besides to go to the gym) after watching some anime and playing video games, I surf the net a little. I watch some YouTube videos, check my social media, and such. And eventually, I just start to cycle between and refresh YouTube and my social media. I don't exactly know why I do this (maybe hoping something new pops up when I refresh the page). And eventually, I just sit in my chair for a while just looking out the window. Then I decide to lay down and go on my phone (to cycle through my social media again ironically lol).
I don't know if it's a direct contributor or it just amplifies the negative emotions from my slump, but the recent Re:zero episodes and Nisekoi chapters have made me somewhat "sad" I guess (idk). But I wouldn't go so far as to say that certain anime and manga are the reason for this slump of mine; only adds on to what I'm feeling.

I looked up some stuff online and apparently what I'm experiencing is known as a type of depression?


Anhedonia - not finding pleasure in things you normally take pleasure in - is a symptom of depression.

When depressed, you will also be reluctant to start things, and won’t find things appealing.

This sets up a nasty vicious cycle where ‘life feels bleak’ -> ‘nothing sounds fun’ -> do nothing -> don’t have fun -> ‘Hey I’m not having fun, life really is pretty bleak right now’ -> More depressed.

The way to break that cycle is to do things that you enjoy. Doing things solely for the sake of having fun is an important part of handling depression. Not only does it keep you from getting more depressed, but it can make you go ‘Hey I’m having a really nice day’ and give you bouncy energy to do productive things with.

I get so focused on all the things that need doing that I forget that when depressed, doing things solely because they’re fun is the practical thing to do if I want to get thing done.

There is a difference between procrastination and having trouble activating. If there’s a thing you need to do and you know you aren’t going to be able to do it now, do something fun, and afterwards you will have better odds of actually doing the thing.


I even consulted a close friend (who also plays video games and watches anime all day) and he said to also do things that are fun for me and make me happy, or try something new for a change of pace, like go somewhere and experience something new. I told him that if I really wanted to try something new I probably could. I have enough money in my account to literally buy a plane ticket and fly somewhere far away if I wanted to. But we both agreed that wasn't a realistic idea and my parents would probably wonder where I was. I even tried going for a drive recently to take my mind off of things. I just hopped on the highway and went straight for 20 minutes then turned back and went home. I guess that helped ease my mind for a bit, but it didn't help significantly.

As for hanging out with some friends and asking them to introduce me to new experiences, I don't really have close friends anymore. Ever since I graduated high school I haven't been staying in touch with people I was close with.

Anyway, that's my little story. Any help or advice would be appreciated.
3588 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
29 / F / Chicagoland ~
Offline
Posted 8/7/16
I get like that sometimes, it's good to get out of the house and do something new when that happens. Even if it's something you tend to avoid (personally bike riding usually works for me even though I tend to hate exercise normally).
135470 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
M / USA
Offline
Posted 8/7/16
2 weeks? That's nothing.
Posted 8/7/16 , edited 8/7/16
Still thinking about your lover, aren't you?

... I think it's normal and not something you should quickly conclude is depression or anything like that... If you have to - consult a therapist.
33341 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
26 / M / Socal
Online
Posted 8/7/16
I've never suffered from depression, and last time I talked about it on CR way back when I first joined I got into trouble by the PC/feels police. (other forumers, not mods)
Since it's been years I'ma try another crack at it.

maybe you need a hobby or something you find meaning in doing.
Posted 8/7/16 , edited 8/7/16


You're depressed. Seek out others and find yourself.
Posted 8/7/16 , edited 8/7/16
Anhedonia - not finding pleasure in things you normally take pleasure in - is a symptom of depression.

^ describes me perfectly

Now I'm just here as a hollow human
24251 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
27 / M
Offline
Posted 8/7/16 , edited 8/9/16
Explore the depths of your depravity to find out who you really are and what you really like.
37126 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
Offline
Posted 8/8/16 , edited 8/8/16
You need something new.

Make a list of everything you normally do.

Now make a list of some new things you want to try.

Now completely stop doing everything on the first list for at least a week (except exercise ) and start doing things on the second list.

Best case scenario you find something new to enjoy. Worst case scenario you start to miss your old hobbies and they seem fun again.

It's not depression unless it goes on for some time, despite efforts to correct it. Even so it's normal to feel depressed from time to time. Your mind is telling you something isn't working. Time to make changes.
3262 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
32 / Somewhere...
Offline
Posted 8/8/16 , edited 8/8/16
Agree that finding something new to do would be wonderful for you. Sounds like you're in a rut, and there's no need to stay there. This is common. Be adventurous, and good luck!
30236 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
It doesn't matter.
Offline
Posted 8/8/16
Do stuff anyway.
18906 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
46 / F / Reston, VA, USA
Offline
Posted 8/8/16
29118 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
83 / F / Bite the pillow.
Offline
Posted 8/8/16 , edited 8/8/16

MysticGon wrote:

Explore the depths of your depravity to find out who you really are and what you really like.

This is the most logical answer.
Sailor Candy Moderator
200584 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
28
Offline
Posted 22 days ago
OP Nuked.
You must be logged in to post.