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Posted 8/10/16 , edited 8/10/16

stars201 wrote:

Monogamy will work for me


Didn't you say you'd cheat on Luffy with Ace?


I think when people say "everyone cheats" what they're really saying is they cheat and are trying to justify it by accusing everyone else of doing it too, the problem here is it's still not an excuse for betrayal.
And it's incorrect.

I think monogamy is best because I appreciate self sacrifice and go without something of a lesser priority.
There's no doubt that it's a manipulative sort of relationship based on accessibility and limiting someone to get their needs from only one person, but it's also something I'm willing to do in return. In my perspective the end result is a true symbiosis that does work so long as both parties are willing to put effort into a relationship and I expect nothing less from someone that treats it seriously.
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I prefer monogamy, though I have some polyamorous friends, and that seems to work for them.
I have been cheated on, but when it occurred, I believe our relationship had already reached the breaking point. That was just the final nail in the coffin, so to speak.
That relationship ended, and I've now been happily married for a few years and couldn't be happier. But marriage does require work. It's not all bliss and joy like some make it out to be. It has its moments though.
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Posted 8/10/16 , edited 8/10/16

Sir_jamesalot wrote:


stars201 wrote:

Monogamy will work for me


Didn't you say you'd cheat on Luffy with Ace?


I think when people say "everyone cheats" what they're really saying is they cheat and are trying to justify it by accusing everyone else of doing it too, the problem here is it's still not an excuse for betrayal.
And it's incorrect.

I think monogamy is best because I appreciate self sacrifice and go without something of a lesser priority.
There's no doubt that it's a manipulative sort of relationship based on accessibility and limiting someone to get their needs from only one person, but it's also something I'm willing to do in return. In my perspective the end result is a true symbiosis that does work so long as both parties are willing to put effort into a relationship and I expect nothing less from someone that treats it seriously.


Oh, so the article writers have cheated themselves, and justify it?
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Posted 8/10/16 , edited 8/10/16
Monogamy can work if the people involved want it work. It's the same for polygamy. Most polygamy arrangements tend to be a man with many wives though polyandry does exist. It's just rare now.
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Yes it works and i would never be in a relationship that isn't monogamous
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Velvet_Crowe wrote:

An old boyfriend wanted to have another girlfriend, now I'm bi so I didn't say no right away but I wanted to talk to the girl first to see if we got a long.
Boyfriend then said never mind then he proceeded to cheat on me with the girl and well I hate it when people do that, makes me feel like I'm not good enough for them.


*hug* :c that sucks i'm sorry you shouldn't have had to deal with a shitty guy like that
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People that are into the trend of polyamorous relationships don't seem prepared for when they're old. I cannot help but judge them as people who think little further than today and tomorrow.

Feel free to correct me, but I just find it humorous to think this shit works when you're 45+, let alone over 60.



That's a lot of years to spend alone.

Monogamy is the way to go, even if it takes multiple attempts.
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Sir_jamesalot wrote:


stars201 wrote:

Monogamy will work for me


Didn't you say you'd cheat on Luffy with Ace?


I'd never do that

People who cheat are scum
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Due you want stds your call? example Charlie Sheen what goes around comes around.
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Posted 8/10/16 , edited 8/10/16

ItsMai wrote:

Not everyone cheats. Only 1/3 of the population does, the other 1/3 gets cheated upon. The remaining 1/3 doesn't even get the chance to cheat.

Kidding aside, I'm for monogamy. But of course I respect the fact that other cultures have polygamy. In the southern part of my country it's allowed. My only concern is this: If a guy can have more than one wife, why can't women have more than one husband


It would end in a blood bath and death everywhere. Women are more forgiving or focus on passive aggression.
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Everyone does not cheat, that's just a excuse that cheaters use.

My last relationship was a monogamous relationship and I never cheated, I had the chance as others had shown interest but I don't play those games. I don't understand cheaters. If they don't care about the person they are with why the hell are they with them? They could just stay single and do whoever.

I am in a open relationship now and it is great but its not for everyone. You have to trust and be confident in the relationship. If you have trust issues or think they might replace you it wont work.

Whats best and works for someone depends on that person. I can do either, as long as the person I am with is happy I am happy, that is all that matters
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My mom has been in a great relationship with her boyfriend for 16 years
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Hrafna wrote:

So long as people who are "for polygamy" are honest enough to admit that they have emotional issues, who am I to mock them, slap my forehead, and say "Doh!" on their behalf. Failing to recognize where ones issues stem from is not an excuse to advocate dumb shit.


I don't see how loving more then one person means they have emotional issues?
I often read books where the main character loves two people and it tears them apart because they ''Can only pick one'' It would be so much simpler if they just picked both.
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It can and in some cases it does
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