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someone reported this, really?
what, can't handle hearing the truth?

fat acceptance is pointless, I don't really care that much what one's body looks like personally, but people should not try and justify being the size of a landwhale and claim it as being healthy, whilst simultaneously putting down fit or skinnier people in attempt to compensate for their own lousy self esteem.

i'm a 'skinnyfat' girl who had an eating disorder at one point in my life, they have the audacity to put anorexic and bulimic women down in addition to naturally thinner women, who are literally suffering from a mental disorder that warps their self-perception. if that's not scummy, i don't know what is. hell, for some of these 'proudly fat' women, they themselves may be a sufferer of an overeating disorder, even, coupled with an equally warped form of perception as to what's healthy and what isn't. it's sadly hypocritical and ironic.
Putting down anorexic and bulimic women is exactly the opposite of what the fat acceptance movement is about because it assume that fat people can't be anorexic or bulimic...hypocritical and ironic in many ways.


Lots of Dumblr posts, especially things on the most notable 'fat acceptance' blog there, "This is Thin Privilege", will still claim that thin anorexic or bulimic women are suffering "less" because they are not fat, will devalue people's mental disorder if it doesn't fit their view of what they consider to be 'marginalization'.

Kind of like how petulant children who pretend to have six comorbid personality disorders to seek attention will delegitimize people who speak out against their actions that increase stigma against those with actual personality disorders, many of those dissenters actually diagnosed with personality disorders themselves who are being stigmatized by children's misunderstanding of what actually categorizes them for the criteria of such disorders, which, by the way, usually don't become prominent until most people's mid-teens, so a thirteen year old claiming to have it except in a very rare case is laughably sad.

Like I'm really sick of the mental illness related stigmatization that I have to be perceived as an abusive pitiful monster who'll never better because of some children who crave attention, at least in those aspects i am adamantly against this whole 'anyone who doesn't want to be a victim for being actually part of a margin is obviously evil and faking, and must be socially slaughtered' witch hunt mentality. it's nothing more than archaic burnings at the stake being transferred over to a modern setting.

Being indifferent to these forcible left extremist movements makes you a dissenter by default, and you'll still get hell for it, speaking against them gets you hell, and even agreeing with them can get you hell. There is no winning with ninnies who're so unsatisfied in their quest to try and 'right' the world's alleged 'wrongs' through hypocrisy, lies and extremism and their own self esteem that they constantly feel like they have to seek validation from people by whining.
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Meh, a byproduct of this new politically correct and feministic new generation that's spawned. Inb4 the US government makes it illegal to call someone fat. It's just a matter of time till people won't be allowed to say anything offensive without being sued or having to pay a large fine, I wouldn't be surprised if fat people were given similar rights as transgender people do in New York City http://www.snopes.com/transgender-pronouns-fine-nyc/
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No excuse for fat people.

Fat people= people who pretty much consider their lifestyle disposable income, and being lazy.

I understand. We get old, our metabolism changes..... ok..... but I'm not eating 12 Fucking hot dogs in one sitting combined with a bag of smarties and a side of grease.

Sure, everybody loves to eat sweets, but it shouldn't be eaten on a daylee.

Oh but food helps me cope..... oh you poor thing, here let me just get you some more cake sweety.

I love to eat, but I also love to stay in shape, what's so hard about doing that? Enjoy the spice of life, but learn to even it out, respect your body, because you only got one.

Whatever, businesses, corporations , they love fat people. Come to MC dicks and try our 100% non beef product, come on down to burger King and stuff your face with a whopper, you don't even have to cook big boy. Oh they love fat people, because they spend moneh, lots and lots of moneh to help feed and grow that corporation, because laziness is profit, and you can Fucking take that to the bank sir.


Wtf someone reported it.
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we shouldn't accept it but we shouldn't bit a dick to people.

I'm technically Obese so what i work out daily and i eat as little as i can and my BMI is still above Obese.

I have a stress problem where i eat to cope and have looked for alternate methods for 10 years with tons of therapy etc.


I shouldn't be treated like shit for trying to deal with my life the best way i can and at the very moment im choosing to hurt myself instead of hurting others (oh my one other coping method is actually hurting people so yeah i kind of don't do that)

Not saying fat people should be accepted however some of the insults and shit people say is just pathetic people like that are bullies and don't deserve to be happy
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Ryulightorb wrote:

we shouldn't accept it but we shouldn't bit a dick to people.

I'm technically Obese so what i work out daily and i eat as little as i can and my BMI is still above Obese.

I have a stress problem where i eat to cope and have looked for alternate methods for 10 years with tons of therapy etc.


I shouldn't be treated like shit for trying to deal with my life the best way i can and at the very moment im choosing to hurt myself instead of hurting others (oh my one other coping method is actually hurting people so yeah i kind of don't do that)

Not saying fat people should be accepted however some of the insults and shit people say is just pathetic people like that are bullies and don't deserve to be happy :P


I agree.

We shouldnt be dicks to people.
But we should encourage a more healthier lifestyle.
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Humms wrote:

No excuse for fat people.

Fat people= people who pretty much consider their lifestyle disposable income, and being lazy.

I understand. We get old, our metabolism changes..... ok..... but I'm not eating 12 Fucking hot dogs in one sitting combined with a bag of smarties and a side of grease.

Sure, everybody loves to eat sweets, but it shouldn't be eaten on a daylee.

Oh but food helps me cope..... oh you poor thing, here let me just get you some more cake sweety.

I love to eat, but I also love to stay in shape, what's so hard about doing that? Enjoy the spice of life, but learn to even it out, respect your body, because you only got one.

Whatever, businesses, corporations , they love fat people. Come to MC dicks and try our 100% non beef product, come on down to burger King and stuff your face with a whopper, you don't even have to cook big boy. Oh they love fat people, because they spend moneh, lots and lots of moneh to help feed and grow that corporation, because laziness is profit, and you can Fucking take that to the bank sir.


I'm obsese and my lifestyle is around me coping with stress which eating is the only way in 10 years i have found.

Lazy? I work out 1-2 hours a day what do you do infact i'm more physically active then most people i have met who are fit.

You don't understand eating as a coping mechanism but that's fine would you rather i take my stress out on you causing physical harm to you to cope instead ^^ because hurting others is my other coping mechanism however i prefer not to go down that path.

You sound like an awful person and i'm sorry for whoever marrys you or whoever is your friend
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Ryulightorb wrote:

we shouldn't accept it but we shouldn't bit a dick to people.

I'm technically Obese so what i work out daily and i eat as little as i can and my BMI is still above Obese.

I have a stress problem where i eat to cope and have looked for alternate methods for 10 years with tons of therapy etc.


I shouldn't be treated like shit for trying to deal with my life the best way i can and at the very moment im choosing to hurt myself instead of hurting others (oh my one other coping method is actually hurting people so yeah i kind of don't do that)

Not saying fat people should be accepted however some of the insults and shit people say is just pathetic people like that are bullies and don't deserve to be happy :P


I agree.

We shouldnt be dicks to people.
But we should encourage a more healthier lifestyle.


Agreed
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This is a topic fairly personal. Not that I am fat, in fact I am rather underweight.


My ex-girlfriend has diabetes and was overweight. Now that was still okay for me, but my parents did not approve, at all. And pretty much devastated her. And that was the end of our relationship too. We stayed as friends, at least.


But I have no hate for fat people. Not that I really think "it's great that you're fat", but it is your life and I know not enough of you to be your judge.


Secondly, it is your body. And what you choose to do with it, well that is your decision.
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Not giving someone abuse/grief or being horrid to someone because of their weight is one thing. However, expecting society to view obesity as normal or anything approaching acceptable is an entirely different issue.
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I don't think it is right to body shame anyone, fat, thin, short or tall, hairless or hirsute. Respect everyone all around unless they purposely do something to you to withdraw general respect.
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I understand there are health issues with being obese, but unless the person is someone close to you whom you really care about, then it's really none of your business to say anything to them. It's their body and their life. It's not your concern. Unless they're actually advocating their lifestyle and telling people they should eat what they eat and do what they do, I don't see anything to bitch about. Dumb skinny people do it and no one ever complains this much about skinny people advocating dumb diets and skinny teas.

I just don't understand where people get the idea that they have a right to tell someone else to be ashamed of the way they look. Seriously, what the fuck?

I've always been very skinny. I never weighed over 105 lbs and has always been your typical petite Asian girl. BUT... after I turned 18, my body started to change. I was eating the same foods I've always eaten and the same amount I've always eaten, but my hips got wider and my thighs got thicker and I pretty much began to round out in general. At first I was pretty happy that I finally had boobs. I went from an A cup to a C. But when it became extremely difficult to find pants that fit me just right, I started becoming insecure about my body. I've always worn size 0/1 pants. I had to throw away all my old pants and just stopped wearing pants in general. I wore loose A-line dresses and skirts to hide my hips and thighs. It didn't really help that my family and everyone else who knew me before kept telling me that I've gotten fat. I developed an eating disorder where I'd go back and forth between starving myself in front of other people and then binging on food when no one was around. Of course that didn't help. It just made me gain more weight back which just made me more insecure.

It was my bf at the time who really helped me get through it. He made me feel beautiful and sexy no matter what and helped me block out everyone else and for a time I stopped thinking about dieting or anything else like that and life was okay. When he broke up with me and started going out with someone else, I fell into depression. I stopped eating and started going to the gym 3-4 hours a day, 7 days a week because exercising made me feel good and helped fend off the depression. I'd eat maybe once a day and just stay locked up in my room for the rest of the time that I wasn't in school or at the gym. I started losing a bunch of weight and people were complimenting me and asking me what my secret was. Can you believe that? I was sick and people were telling me that whatever I was doing was good because I was losing weight and that was their idea of me being healthy. How fucking stupid can people really be? I was sick and they were encouraging me when in reality I needed help because I was slowly trying to kill myself. The only person who noticed that something was wrong was one of my professors whom I was pretty close to. He noticed that I was missing classes and submitting mediocre work which was not normal. He pulled me aside one day to ask me what was wrong and suggested that I see someone. I scheduled an appointment with the school counselor but changed my mind at the last minute. I figured that it was something I needed to figure out for myself and that's what I did.

I can't say I'm 100% okay with my body now, but I've gotten better at blocking out the fat / weight gain comments. I eat pretty healthy but I kind of hate going to the gym now because it triggers negative ideas from when I was exercising for the wrong reasons. I just walk in the park or do Zumba or other workouts at home now. I still don't wear pants and have a bad habit of constantly pulling and adjusting my clothes when I'm out because I always feel a bit insecure.

I'm sorry for the really long post, but I think it's important for people to understand that something as simple as telling someone they've gained weight or that they're fat does have an impact on their body image, especially when it's coming from a loved one. When the people who are supposed to accept you the most are the ones putting you down, it's really difficult to not feel like shit. That's why I think that if you don't have anything nice to say to someone about the way they look, then you're better off not saying anything at all because you have no fucking clue what they can be going through or what your comment can do to them.

It's really not about advocating unhealthy lifestyles or being fat or anything like that. It's just about being decent human beings and giving other people the right to be confident and happy with their own bodies.

For reference, here's a pic I took this morning while in the middle of cleaning my apartment (so sorry for my messy room and appearance):


P.S. My family still says I'm fat and should go on a diet.
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Rinrinrinn wrote:

I understand there are health issues with being obese, but unless the person is someone close to you whom you really care about, then it's really none of your business to say anything to them. It's their body and their life. It's not your concern. Unless they're actually advocating their lifestyle and telling people they should eat what they eat and do what they do, I don't see anything to bitch about. Dumb skinny people do it and no one ever complains this much about skinny people advocating dumb diets and skinny teas.

I just don't understand where people get the idea that they have a right to tell someone else to be ashamed of the way they look. Seriously, what the fuck?

I've always been very skinny. I never weighed over 105 lbs and has always been your typical petite Asian girl. BUT... after I turned 18, my body started to change. I was eating the same foods I've always eaten and the same amount I've always eaten, but my hips got wider and my thighs got thicker and I pretty much began to round out in general. At first I was pretty happy that I finally had boobs. I went from an A cup to a C. But when it became extremely difficult to find pants that fit me just right, I started becoming insecure about my body. I've always worn size 0/1 pants. I had to throw away all my old pants and just stopped wearing pants in general. I wore loose A-line dresses and skirts to hide my hips and thighs. It didn't really help that my family and everyone else who knew me before kept telling me that I've gotten fat. I developed an eating disorder where I'd go back and forth between starving myself in front of other people and then binging on food when no one was around. Of course that didn't help. It just made me gain more weight back which just made me more insecure.

It was my bf at the time who really helped me get through it. He made me feel beautiful and sexy no matter what and helped me block out everyone else and for a time I stopped thinking about dieting or anything else like that and life was okay. When he broke up with me and started going out with someone else, I fell into depression. I stopped eating and started going to the gym 3-4 hours a day, 7 days a week because exercising made me feel good and helped fend off the depression. I'd eat maybe once a day and just stay locked up in my room for the rest of the time that I wasn't in school or at the gym. I started losing a bunch of weight and people were complimenting me and asking me what my secret was. Can you believe that? I was sick and people were telling me that whatever I was doing was good because I was losing weight and that was their idea of me being healthy. How fucking stupid can people really be? I was sick and they were encouraging me when in reality I needed help because I was slowly trying to kill myself. The only person who noticed that something was wrong was one of my professors whom I was pretty close to. He noticed that I was missing classes and submitting mediocre work which was not normal. He pulled me aside one day to ask me what was wrong and suggested that I see someone. I scheduled an appointment with the school counselor but changed my mind at the last minute. I figured that it was something I needed to figure out for myself and that's what I did.

I can't say I'm 100% okay with my body now, but I've gotten better at blocking out the fat / weight gain comments. I eat pretty healthy but I kind of hate going to the gym now because it triggers negative ideas from when I was exercising for the wrong reasons. I just walk in the park or do Zumba or other workouts at home now. I still don't wear pants and have a bad habit of constantly pulling and adjusting my clothes when I'm out because I always feel a bit insecure.

I'm sorry for the really long post, but I think it's important for people to understand that something as simple as telling someone they've gained weight or that they're fat does have an impact on their body image, especially when it's coming from a loved one. When the people who are supposed to accept you the most are the ones putting you down, it's really difficult to not feel like shit. That's why I think that if you don't have anything nice to say to someone about the way they look, then you're better off not saying anything at all because you have no fucking clue what they can be going through or what your comment can do to them.

It's really not about advocating unhealthy lifestyles or being fat or anything like that. It's just about being decent human beings and giving other people the right to be confident and happy with their own bodies.

For reference, here's a pic I took this morning while in the middle of cleaning my apartment (so sorry for my messy room and appearance):


P.S. My family still says I'm fat and should go on a diet.


I dont see that as fat.

I agree that we should not be dicks to people about it.
But i dont want to encourage "Fat Pride" either.
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Rinrinrinn wrote:

For reference, here's a pic I took this morning while in the middle of cleaning my apartment (so sorry for my messy room and appearance):


P.S. My family still says I'm fat and should go on a diet.

You're beautiful, marry me.
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Jophar_Vorin wrote:
I dont see that as fat.

I agree that we should not be dicks to people about it.
But i dont want to encourage "Fat Pride" either.


I guess based on Asian standards, I am.

I think Fat "Pride" or even Skinny "Pride" is silly. One should be proud for who they are, not what they look like.


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You're beautiful, marry me. :D


Oh stop... I know I said I'm insecure, but you don't have to flatter me.
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