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^ same sentiments
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Not being the only girl. Also, it would kill me to know that he's still uncertain about me and doesn't know what he wants to do with me.
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Sheynaa wrote:

Losing him would be the worst


Same here, I've just experienced losing someone I loved, it was the worst feeling I'm still trying to get over it and move on.
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Being cucked.
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Yes me too is very hard
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Being ditched again out of the blue would be super lame
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AnimeAddictANN69 wrote:

if you are in a relationship and you have fear ? maybe it's not the right one for you.. find someone else..


Pretty much, this.

I've lost an ex-fiancé once upon a time. It was terrible and heart-breaking. One thing I learned quickly was that I couldn't impose any of the fears from that experience onto a new relationship - it simply puts unnecessary stress on a relationship that's only just beginning. If you go into a relationship with these fears, that's one thing. If you continuously have these fears while being in the relationship - it might just not be the relationship for you.

Insecure? Figure out what makes you insecure around the person you care for.
Fear of being lied to? Wonder if they've given you any reason to have this fear and, if not, figure out why you're afraid of someone lying to you when there's no real justification for it.

If you can't work out the root cause and the fear is consuming you while you're in a relationship with a person - it might be that you're not really ready for a relationship. It requires trust, understanding, compassion, and a balance between two people. The moment one of these fears begin to consume you is the moment you're starting to fall down a slippery slope.
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Drifting apart before break up,kills me inside.
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Posted 1/25/17
Being cheated on or being with a partner who is actively looking for someone while being in a relationship with you. Meaning, they don't want to end the relationship until they found someone else who is "secure" enough to move on with. So, they won't leave you for someone who it's really too late and they've developed a bond with another person. You don't even get a chance to fight for your relationship or even become aware that you're losing your partner because they're not letting you on about it, since they don't want to lose you if they can't find anyone else.
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Being expected to change who I am or what I do to suite someone else's wants. I'm fundamentally selfish like that.
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quietglasses wrote:

Being cheated on.


i think so too.
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Posted 1/26/17
Being held back. I don't like feeling restricted. It's the reason I'm afraid of commitment lol.
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Being cheated on. Which has happened to me.
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insecure about your partner loyalty
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Posted 1/26/17

ninjitsuko wrote:


AnimeAddictANN69 wrote:

if you are in a relationship and you have fear ? maybe it's not the right one for you.. find someone else..


Pretty much, this.

I've lost an ex-fiancé once upon a time. It was terrible and heart-breaking. One thing I learned quickly was that I couldn't impose any of the fears from that experience onto a new relationship - it simply puts unnecessary stress on a relationship that's only just beginning. If you go into a relationship with these fears, that's one thing. If you continuously have these fears while being in the relationship - it might just not be the relationship for you.

Insecure? Figure out what makes you insecure around the person you care for.
Fear of being lied to? Wonder if they've given you any reason to have this fear and, if not, figure out why you're afraid of someone lying to you when there's no real justification for it.

If you can't work out the root cause and the fear is consuming you while you're in a relationship with a person - it might be that you're not really ready for a relationship. It requires trust, understanding, compassion, and a balance between two people. The moment one of these fears begin to consume you is the moment you're starting to fall down a slippery slope.


some people no matter who they are with will always have fear tho.
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