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When did you stalk me lmao --but hey, they never get rif of me, I'm always the one who officially gets rid of them on my terms.

It is funny to see grown ass men crying and begging, knowing it is their full fault. :P


I've been stalking you the whole time Of course you get rid of them in the end :P

I wonder how I would sound begging and crying, probably majestic, except for the crying part.
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I had some so story time.

Back when I was 18-19 I was dating this guy for a few months, it was fine as time passed he got more aggressive and would yell at me, even once threaten to hit me. One day at a park he was telling me he loves me and all this stuff saying he will not leave me. Then when it came time to drop me off home. At my house he tells me this" I have stopped loving you for months", he basically stated he was only in for the fun. 2-3 months after the breakup. He comes over to my house threatening me wanting the DS Lite back, that he had given me as a gift long ago. Soo ya.

Next story.

Around the age of 19-20 (I'm 20 now). I broke up with this guy months ago. It was fine, he was nice took me to fancy places, even took me to Knotts for our first date was fun and stuff, but as time passed he started to have too high of expections for me and was becomming more distant. He would be too focus on online things, he would complain about spending money on me. Even though he bought a 900 dollar gaming system. He would even expect that I knew about almost everything he knew about, and when I didn't it made me feel like an idiot. Then one day I was out with him, it was raining and we had got in a car accident. I had bruised up my leg and he got a slight burn mark from set bealt. I suffer from panick attacks at times/ anxiety. I was shaken up , and he did not once try to comfort me, he was more concern about his Fiat of a car and the police. As time pass and I was dropped home, I wanted a hug goodbye. Instead of hugging me goodbye he psychially pushed me away.. and with that, I ended it.

Soo ya sorry for semi-long stories?
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Let's see 1 particular relationship I was in was very emotionally abusive. The girl was 23 and let her mom control her life forcing her to breakup with me 2 months in however we kept dating secretly and this breakup shit happened 4 times and the first time hurt the second time I didn't care because I was emotionally drained but wasn't quite done so I started to sleep with another girl during the day then I would go see my girlfriend like I did everynight and sleep with her.
This girl put me through so much I wanted to hurt her so when her mom was around I said.

"Everynight you called your daughter and she said she was working late she was actually sleeping in my room because we just had sex earlier, you know she was a virgin before all this, oh and btw dear everynight we I screwed I had slept with a diffrent girl earlier that day. Enjoy your lives and fuck you both."

Btw I didn't cheat on both of these girls because the second girl I slept with knew I had a girlfriend she was actually in love with me and wanted to be with me regardless of the situation. I do feel a little bit bad about her though because there was a possibility of a relationship with her but it didn't happen. I do wonder why I didn't choose her instead in the end when I had the choice earlier on in the relationship.
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TrickedMJ wrote:


Yorutenchi wrote:


TrickedMJ wrote:

Since my post got deleted, I'll try to make it shorter.

My friend feels trapped by his current girlfriend. Anytime she doesn't like something she'll threaten to commit suicide and will cut herself and blame him for it. Once he was on his way to our friend's house and she told him to visit her at a park even though his mom told him to go straight to our friend's house(it was also late at night.) He said no and she treatened to kill herself if he didn't come right away. So he obviously disobeyed his mom for her and what not.She's that girl that's always like, "I love hims so much, he's the love of my life and all I will ever need." The moment they broke up she got with someone else and started saying the exact same things to that guy. After a few months they broke up and she got with my friend again and tried to pretend nothing happened. "It's my blank anniversary with my babe, I'm so glad we're together I'd never get with anyone else blah blah blah." Even now she occasionally pulls the suicide card and what not.

I truly feel he shouldn't have gotten back with her since she was the one who dumped him and he wouldn't be at fault, but he still feels trapped, Another note, they both turned 18 this year and this has been going on for a while.


Well we only have a shallow reading in on the situation but anyone who threatens self harm to get what they want most likely won't do it. Its also not his job to stop her from doing it. Its not just a red flag but like...a neon red flag that glows in the dark and blinks s.o.s. in morse code while the fabric of said flag is actually just microscopic loops in the shape of "NO". A little extreme but its as big as physical violence threats to the other person.

"If you don't do this I'll kill myself"
"If you don't do this I"ll kill you!" are almost equally bad.


Honestly, I'm not even sure what information would help you get a better reading but I'm also not sure what else I can disclose though I can easily ask. Other friends and I would tell him that he should leave and what not as well as that this is one of the biggest red flags but he always gets offended by it and is sort of in denial in a sense. Idk how to explain but he feels as if he should leave and he knows he made a mistake going back but he feels like he has to stay.

I'm just glad I'm not in that situation, nor will I be. I agree with what you sad at the end as well, about those two being almost as equally bad.

Yeah. No matter how hard it is you can't make someone leave an abusive relationship. That is part of what sucks about being a bystander. Some people leave because they are tired of trying to help you.
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Posted 8/29/16 , edited 8/29/16

TrickedMJ wrote:

I'm sorry for stalking you.

But yeah, seeing people crawl back after trying to get rid of you is always hilarious.



1stladyent wrote:
What!!!
When did you stalk me lmao --but hey, they never get rif of me, I'm always the one who officially gets rid of them on my terms.

It is funny to see grown ass men crying and begging, knowing it is their full fault. :P



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I've been stalking you the whole time Of course you get rid of them in the end :P

I wonder how I would sound begging and crying, probably majestic, except for the crying part.


Majestic??? How does one sound majestic while begging and crying?

EDIT: I'm too tired to fix the quote string.
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Your friend will wake up once he realizes that he is being controlled.
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This isn't my own personal experience but a friends...

A week or two after the first Avengers movie was released in theaters my friend invited me to watch one of the later screenings last minute. He didn't seem like his usual self and i asked him about it before watching the movie. We rarely hung out because we wen't to different colleges so I never pushed the matters of getting to know his relationships cause he tended not to stay in them too long anyway.

The girl he was seeing was a few weeks pregnant with his kid, according to him, he's been seeing her for awhile despite me never seeing her or him introducing me to her, he only referenced her by her name. Then he started explaining that the reason he kept it hidden was because it was with our senior economics High School teacher. Apparently they had an abnormal relationship since a month or two before our High School graduation (keep in mind that we were still recent high school graduates and college freshman at the time of watching the avengers). So it had been around 10 months that they had been seeing each other but only admitted to having feeling for each other around a month before we watched the movie. So intercourse and stuff happened however its rather short lived...

Turns out, She's been married for 6 years and her husband found out that she and my friend have been really close. I mean affair with a former student close.

So he turned to me not for advice but to vent his frustration and heartbreak by having me listen to him. He knew that what he'd done was REALLY messed up according to his morals but what he made him feel the most despair was that he was played. At the end of the day our teacher ended up simply aborting the baby and staying with her husband because my friend obviously has no money as a college freshman while her husband was a professor at the university my friend attended.

He ended up dropping out and threw away his goals along with his schooling and ended up working at a supermarket near our hometown. Just a real waste of potential thrown away because of a "relationship" he was genuinely serious about.

He's recovered since then but he has no plans of going back to school, he's recently claimed that he's thinking of starting a youtube channel and do more of what he really wanted to do but hasn't moved himself yet. But he's at least back on his feet since it was rather devastating to his self-integration towards relationships.
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Here's one.

I had a rather close friend in junior high and high school - we went to the same dance academy and we practically lived life like the stage was our home. She was about 2 years older than me so she had a little more experience with relationships. She got into a serious relationship in the second half of her senior year in high school with a guy I knew from the dance academy, and ended up pregnant.

I was the only person she told about her pregnancy, but when she started getting sick, her boyfriend found out. He didn't want her to stay sick because of the baby, so he told her to get rid of it. That idea stressed her out, but in the back of my mind, I thought it might have been a good idea, because she was well-known to be underweight.

By the end of her second trimester and transitioning into the third, she became hospitalized because her body couldn't handle it. The boyfriend was devastated at the thought of him being the reason why she stayed in the hospital. He dropped out of dance unofficially and started binge drinking and getting into trouble because he couldn't handle the emotional stress. When she was ok to have visitors, she would tell me that BF wanted to break up. She said she didn't want to break up, but she wouldn't stop him. She just wanted to know if he cared enough about the baby. He never gave her an answer.

7 and a half months later, baby had to come out. My friend was literally dying from the pregnancy complications. Her 90lb 5'5" body couldn't handle it anymore, she and the baby never made it. The boyfriend was one of the last people to find out about her passing. When he did, I heard he had drunk himself stupid and crashed his car into some shed or garage thing and also died.

I would categorize this as one of the worst relationship stories I've had to witness, because in the end, they died.
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Wow some of these stories are just wow. Im only 15 and Ive obviously never had a serious relationship but there was this one foreign exchange student. When she left I realized I would never see her again in my life and that kind of hurt.
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Omg that's so sad
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Damn, coming in this thread was a mistake.
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I had this one guy that I dated for a couple years, he was more and more possessive and controlling the longer I was with him. We had some pretty bad fights too, mostly instigated from his side. And heaven help if I was hanging out with friends, especially guy friends. He'd text me constantly throughout the day/evening or whatever 'are you still there?' 'why are you still there?' 'I miss you', etc. Took two years of that crap before I realized that I really should break up with him (and his racist and sexist speech didn't help, especially toward the end - he blamed it on being a chef but that stuff can stay in the kitchen, it doesn't need to come out in the rest of your life too).

I also had this one guy I dated for maybe a month last year. He was batshit insane, on one of the times we hung out I told him to turn down a backroad to get back to my house and it turned out the road was under construction. Instead of turning around and going the other way like a sane person, he got out of his car and destroyed one of the road cones. He didn't last much longer with me after that, but wasn't done with me when I broke up with him. He threatened suicide and then stalked me for months afterwards. A couple months ago he came back around and decided to doxx me online (it's been a year, and we dated for a month, mind you - also to add this guy is in his low 30's). My boyfriend currently (he and I have known each other almost half our lives) thought it was hilarious that the email he tried to doxx me with is my throwaway spam email that I use to give to places for coupons - the ex didn't even know me long enough to know any of my actual stuff. I laughed, changed the URLs of all my stuff I go on and my Steam name, blocked him from everything and took down anon comments on Tumblr, and haven't heard a peep since. People are nuts.
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I just don't see how you people end up with these jerks in the first place. It's unreal. Are there no good men left in the world?
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TrickedMJ wrote:


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I spent years with my partner who was abusive. Only physically once or twice out of the five years but really highly emotionally abusive. They cut me off from my family. They cut me off from my friends. Refused to get a job and constantly blamed me for everything wrong in our lives. They had borderline personality disorder diagnosed about 8 months before we broke up. I was just tried of everything being my fault and being screamed at five or six times a day. They would keep me up at unreasonable hours for no reason and the sleep deprivation was like torture.

If I wanted something it was always irresponsible. If they wanted something it was "just this once" or "I never get to get anything!" even though that was a lie. They dictated what we watched, when I got to hang out with other people (which btw was pretty much never and if I did they would constantly text me and make up bullshit reasons that I had to come back home immediately) ect. I won't get into any gritty details about certain things especially of the more... carnal nature and the mishaps that followed.

TBH it was just a really really really fucked up relationship where I lost most my friends and almost lost my family. I tried to kill myself twice and for a few years a day didn't go by that I didn't think about killing myself. I had convinced myself that it was all my fault that they were unahppy and that I deserved the abuse.

I've seen people with worse relationships. I've seen partners that have been raped or beaten. But this still hurt a lot.


I'm sorry, that must've truly sucked. When did you get out of that relationship and how have you been since then? Also, was this person abusive from the beginning or did it just happen out of nowhere, kind of like he was a different person? You obviously don't need to speak more about it if you don't want to. One more thing, there's always a worse relationship, though it doesn't mean yours wasn't bad at all.


Thanks. Been out of it for more than a year now. Doing a lot better..
It started out great. I thought they were the greatest thing since sliced bread. But after about a month of living together it started. Then it just got worse through the years. Kinda like being drowned in a pool that was filled up by a dripping faucet. You don't notice it getting worse till you look back after a long time. I think if anything good came out of it I'm not gonna be in a relationship like that again. I had bad self esteem and they took advantage of that. Thats how a lot of relationships go though.



It's good that you're doing better at least. I've never been in a relationship like that so I apologize for not being able to say too much about it. So I think you might've already answered my question in this post with, "You don't notice it getting worse" but was another reason you stayed because you thought it'd get better, was it hard to leave, or was you not noticing it getting bad the only reason? Again, I can't begin to comprehend that situation, so my bad if these are insensitive questions to you. And good, don't let anyone take advantage of you like that again, you deserve better. You gotta put yourself first and be confident in yourself.


Remember, just because you might have seen even worse relationships that fact does not diminish your pain. Pain is pain. There really is no bad, worse or better pain when one is suffering. It doesn't matter if one has a reason to be depressed such as being abused or if one is just clinically depressed, it's all the same. Pain is pain and your pain is very real and just as hard for you to handle as the pain people suffer in even worse relationships.

. I'm sorry you had to go through that. That was definitely NOT a healthy relationship...for either one of you. And while I have a hard time feeling sorry for the person who was abusive to you I can actually empathize a bit because I realize that likely they were in a lot of pain too. They just never learned to deal with that pain properly and took it out on you which is all kinds of messed up. I hope the person who was abusive towards you seeks help and will one day realize what he or she did to you. There's a LOT of reasons why I'm single. I have a lot of baggage and I always promised myself I would never bring anyone down with me. For the most part I've been successful with doing that. I would never be abusive mentally or physically to anyone but I do have my issues that may be hard for others to deal with so until I can resolve them well enough to function as a normal human being then I will avoid being in a relationship.

I'm also glad you're doing better. I would try to rekindle those friendships that you lost. Just be honest with them. If they're true friends they will understand and forgive you. If not then you're better off without them. There's a lot of messed up people in this world. Unfortunately they don't usually show their true colors until it's too late and your emotionally invested. Just don't settle ever again. You truly deserve the best. Everyone does. It doesn't matter what you look like, your education level, your income. None of that matters. You deserve to be in a happy, healthy relationship so don't settle for anything less. If things ever gets too bad for you then go talk to a professional. I'm sure there's a whole crap load of emotions involved with your pain. Everything from regret, shame, anger, disbelief, etc and it might do you some good to talk to someone. They may also be able to steer you in the right direction for the future and help you understand what it is about you that made you a target for this type of abuse. Not that you did anything wrong mind you but most abusive people are really good at zeroing in on people that are ripe for them to get away with abusing. Maybe you're just too kind? Or maybe you are just a very loyal person. It doesn't even have to be a bad thing. But too much of anything can be bad. Too much kindness can make one a doormat. Too much empathy can paralyze you.

Anyway, I hope that you find someone (if you haven't already) who will love and appreciate you for who you are. The good and the bad. One of my favorite quotes is from Marilyn Monroe which is: “I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.”

and she's so right. If someone can't love you at your worst then they definitely don't deserve you at your best. Find someone who will love every part of you equally.
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I just don't see how you people end up with these jerks in the first place. It's unreal. Are there no good men left in the world?


People tend to start out nice and they get more ridiculous the longer they're around. It all depends on the person. Also in a lot of abuse cases (mental/physical/whatever), it's people preying on others that have low or no self esteem. So you already have a girl/guy that feels like crap about themselves and like they don't do anything right, being told by a person they're with more and more directly that it's actually true , they really never do anything right and they should feel ashamed of themselves. It's a slow thing that spirals and then the abusee doesn't realize it until much later that they're in that sort of relationship. The first guy I described, he was fine the first few months or so. I was young and didn't know any better, had a family dynamic that I grew up with that was abusive to begin with and I didn't feel like I was a even halfway decent person. He preyed on that, but waited quite a while before starting it up. And then it was that slow spiral. A comment here, a reaction there. By the time I ended it he was like I described, where he would text constantly when I was out with anyone. Luckily I had at least some semblance of humanity and I broke up with him instead of what he was probably hoping for, that I'd just drop all my friends and never talk to anyone but him. That's usually where those situations go next.
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