First  Prev  1  2  3  Next  Last
Post Reply after how long do you ask to be "official" in dating?
18798 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
22 / F
Online
Posted 9/11/16
?
Posted 9/11/16
A year or so
28685 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
22 / M / United States
Offline
Posted 9/11/16
That's a tricky question. I personally haven't been in a relationship since my high school days, so I don't think I can offer much insight here.

Great topic though.
10654 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
Online
Posted 9/11/16
I really missed out on the whole "we are dating but it's not 'dating' dating" thing by being old, so I don't know.
Posted 9/11/16
I've always wondered how other people perceive this. All the times I've been in a relationship the guy asks me if I can be his girlfriend. So I wonder that too
Posted 9/11/16
I agree with stars201 a year or longer.
2139 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
Offline
Posted 9/11/16
Depends really. Like if you cram that get to know you stage in and such. Then it could be earlier but I'm depends really. My last bf we knew each other for a year then dated for like 3 years. Then a mess happened but yea XD is say most would take a year
8268 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
37 / M / SW Ontario, Canada
Online
Posted 9/11/16

gornotck wrote:

I really missed out on the whole "we are dating but it's not 'dating' dating" thing by being old, so I don't know.


Yeah, I'm just sort of confused by this topic as well.

8876 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
Offline
Posted 9/11/16 , edited 9/11/16
Lemme guess, you're together and you've been going out for a few months but your S.O. hasn't officially called you his/her girlfriend. That even though you're in a relationship, you want to be acknowledged as his/her lover. One of those it's not that you aren't, you are official but would feel better being told kinda things. Basically you've got an unanswered question you're mind has insecure feelings about, even though you are aware of you're status.

Some subconscious mind bull****, where you need be told a password to feel 100% secure about something.

edit: Sounded a bit rude, i apologize. I've also been in the particular situation above too
18798 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
22 / F
Online
Posted 9/11/16

Corper wrote:

Lemme guess, you're together and you've been going out for a few months but your S.O. hasn't officially called you his/her girlfriend. That even though you're in a relationship, you want to be acknowledged as his/her lover. One of those it's not that you aren't, you are official but would feel better being told kinda things. Basically you've got an unanswered question you're mind has insecure feelings about, even though you are aware of you're status.

Some subconscious mind bull****, where you need be told a password to feel 100% secure about something.


cant tell if this is supposed to be condescending or not
8876 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
Offline
Posted 9/11/16 , edited 9/11/16

redokami wrote:


Corper wrote:

Lemme guess, you're together and you've been going out for a few months but your S.O. hasn't officially called you his/her girlfriend. That even though you're in a relationship, you want to be acknowledged as his/her lover. One of those it's not that you aren't, you are official but would feel better being told kinda things. Basically you've got an unanswered question you're mind has insecure feelings about, even though you are aware of you're status.

Some subconscious mind bull****, where you need be told a password to feel 100% secure about something.


cant tell if this is supposed to be condescending or not


Totally fine. I'm not taking a jab, i've been there lol. Sounded a little dick'ish i suppose, my bad
18913 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
22 / F / Canada
Offline
Posted 9/11/16
same, a year or so
4583 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
24 / Decemberunderground
Offline
Posted 9/11/16 , edited 9/11/16
I think it's normal after a few dates you usually just assume your datng and if they are seeing someone else then does that mean they are cheating or you should have just told them you are "officially" dating. I dunno I never really considered it I mean I've cheated in previous relationships but only after the love had long since been gone.
I think it's just normal to assume after a second or 3rd date you're officially dating.

The only time this ever really became close tot hat was after I broke up with someone and we ending up having sex anyway she asked if I wanted to date her or have her as a friend with benefits
Banned
21034 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
20 / M / Bundaberg, Queens...
Offline
Posted 9/11/16 , edited 9/11/16
As soon as I ask them out.

I have never asked a girl out to not be officially dating.
I would never ask someone to be my girlfriend if it was not official.
19603 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
25 / M / NYC Metro Area
Offline
Posted 9/11/16
Idk, I've never waited more than 2 months. I may go out on dates with women, but until it's official I have no expectations that it's something exclusive. I'd never wait a year, seems too long to try to figure out if you want to be with someone or not.
First  Prev  1  2  3  Next  Last
You must be logged in to post.