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All depends where you live. In some places in Europe under age is anything under 14, in the USA it is under 18 (or 17 in some places).

My answer revolves around that.
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If the person(s) are fifteen and older, I don't usually bat an eye. Where I've grown up, it's uncommon for mid-teens to not already be sexually active with their peers.
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Define "underage". Because here in the UK, 16 is the age of consent, and sometimes I feel like even that may be a little young in some circumstances. Sure, you'll have mature people of that age, but you're still not even an adult, really. It's still very much in the realm of very questionable. So are we talking underage by American standards or other standards? Because if I consider even 16 to be shaky territory, I wouldn't venture any lower, even if it were legal.

Although I partially agree with the point that if it were legal, it would be the norm, so no one would care about these things, I still think there'll be that questionable look when you tell someone you're in a relationship with a twelve-year-old, when you're, say, thirty.

Sure, people mature at different rates, but for that very reason age of consent is very much a necessity. While it won't always be accurate, you at least need an average age to know when someone is roughly old enough for you to start messing around with.

But hey. Two mature people who know what they're doing? I won't judge.
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Considering I come from a country where it isn't legal, I find it hard to answer this question. But if I had to it would be something like this I guess.

If someone had grown up in a culture where it was legal, and there weren't any other countries that had laws against relations with under-aged people, people probably wouldn't think anything of it.

Although I think there is a grey area with current laws. I don't really see any issues if there is a 1 year or less gap (17 and 18 for example) and they had been already been in a relationship prior to the person turning 18.
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Define "underage". Because here in the UK, 16 is the age of consent, and sometimes I feel like even that may be a little young in some circumstances. Sure, you'll have mature people of that age, but you're still not even an adult, really. It's still very much in the realm of very questionable. So are we talking underage by American standards or other standards? Because if I consider even 16 to be shaky territory, I wouldn't venture any lower, even if it were legal.

Although I partially agree with the point that if it were legal, it would be the norm, so no one would care about these things, I still think there'll be that questionable look when you tell someone you're in a relationship with a twelve-year-old, when you're, say, thirty.

Sure, people mature at different rates, but for that very reason age of consent is very much a necessity. While it won't always be accurate, you at least need an average age to know when someone is roughly old enough for you to start messing around with.

But hey. Two mature people who know what they're doing? I won't judge.


Well my profile says Tampa Florida. Which is USA, which underaged is often a minor which is anyone under 18. Wish it was 16 lol it also depends on which state your in. But, under your circumstances of being in a different country just pick whatever age you define as "underaged" ^_^ it varies from country to country so yea
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Even in the case where it's legal, the maturity and experience gap gives me the willies. Perhaps it's just the cliche of some 30 year old dude stringing along a starry-eyed teen in love for the first time, but there's just too much potential for an unbalanced relationship.
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Even in the case where it's legal, the maturity and experience gap gives me the willies. Perhaps it's just the cliche of some 30 year old dude stringing along a starry-eyed teen in love for the first time, but there's just too much potential for an unbalanced relationship.

Lol! My life is a cliche then. It is an opinion tho so ^^ I have a question tho is it like. Hm... It it more of like a moral thing that gives you the cringe or?
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qwueri wrote:

Even in the case where it's legal, the maturity and experience gap gives me the willies. Perhaps it's just the cliche of some 30 year old dude stringing along a starry-eyed teen in love for the first time, but there's just too much potential for an unbalanced relationship.

Lol! My life is a cliche then. It is an opinion tho so ^^ I have a question tho is it like. Hm... It it more of like a moral thing that gives you the cringe or?


My comment is purely in the general sense, no offense intended. And sure, you can call it a moral thing. I don't think one or both parties is using the other/eachother will result in a healthy relationship. Especially when one carries much more experience on how to manipulate the other.
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Blackbutler3000 wrote:


qwueri wrote:

Even in the case where it's legal, the maturity and experience gap gives me the willies. Perhaps it's just the cliche of some 30 year old dude stringing along a starry-eyed teen in love for the first time, but there's just too much potential for an unbalanced relationship.

Lol! My life is a cliche then. It is an opinion tho so ^^ I have a question tho is it like. Hm... It it more of like a moral thing that gives you the cringe or?


My comment is purely in the general sense, no offense intended. And sure, you can call it a moral thing. I don't think one or both parties is using the other/eachother will result in a healthy relationship. Especially when one carries much more experience on how to manipulate the other.


Or more knowledge to make them at the same level of experience or at least more than what they had. And I'm not offended lol seeing how age gap is an issue for me every day I just would like to see what others are really thinking. So its much appreciated
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I think it's weird to assume that the older of the two is the one manipulating.
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My friend was 17 when she met her now husband who was 40 at the time. Now 10 years later, they had a daughter are still very happy. So I guess it is a case to case basis.
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I suppose it would depend upon their actual ages, a 20 year old dating a 15 year old I could allow as long as they don't do the "deed" but if it was a 35 year old dating a 15 year old I think I'd take an issue with it.

You can't control who you fall in love with but if they're underage you should play it safe and wait a bit, if you both love each other whats a few years.
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I think it would depend on a case by case basis personally, but seeing as Im barely overage myself I'm sure I would be okay with dating someone a year or two below 18. I think the main thing is maturity though
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Would you approve or be in a relationship in which the age gap consisted of someone "underaged" if it was legal?


Nope, wouldn't approve and wouldn't look kindly at the older party involved. There's a basic sense of morality/ethics that for most people should have them not look at anyone of a certain age (below 16-17) or at least not approach them in that way. As for it "being okay in the past" (seen it mentioned), people were creeps and pedo's, that doesn't reflect anything on current day. Inb4 the one thing I've seen mentioned elsewhere comes up: no I don't care if the person looks x-age or is developed a certain way, if they're a certain age then they're that age and you should back off (or rightly be referred to as a pedo). Once the age crosses 18 then it becomes a whatever floats your boat situation (though I will generally consider the older party as a creep with some exceptions).
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Would you approve or be in a relationship in which the age gap consisted of someone "underaged" if it was legal?


Nope, wouldn't approve and wouldn't look kindly at the older party involved. There's a basic sense of morality/ethics that for most people should have them not look at anyone of a certain age (below 16-17) or at least not approach them in that way. As for it "being okay in the past" (seen it mentioned), people were creeps and pedo's, that doesn't reflect anything on current day. Inb4 the one thing I've seen mentioned elsewhere comes up: no I don't care if the person looks x-age or is developed a certain way, if they're a certain age then they're that age and you should back off (or rightly be referred to as a pedo). Once the age crosses 18 then it becomes a whatever floats your boat situation (though I will generally consider the older party as a creep with some exceptions).


Well one, it was mentioned because at the time it was okay. As of now looking back onto that we would think its wrong, like you stated. In addition to that. Just because an older person wants to be with someone younger than 18 does not give a person the right to call them a pedo. A pedophile is someone who is sexuallly, keyword sexually, attracted to a minor. (Someone under 18) what I find funny is the mentality that, oh no they're a minor? How dare you love them. But the second they turn 18 even though nothing else has changed its date whoever you want because you're an "adult". But I do suppose that's just society nowadays.
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