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We just moved into a downstairs apartment. the tenants above have a school age child. he looks to be around 10 or 9. the kid runs and stumps and jumps constantly like a wild animal - strike that. on nature shows wild animals are mostly calm. other first floor tenants in the complex have complained on tenants with noisy kids living above them.

so here's the question.Should people with kids age 1 to 13 be allowed to rent 2nd and 3rd floor apartment (any floor above the 1st floor).

my answer is no.

What's yours?


i used to have neighbors that would have loud sex everyday and blast music 24/7. and if it wasn't that they would be outside at night while i'm trying to sleep drinking and partying loud...good thing that was 2 years ago :)
I feel your pain
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Whoever owns the apartments gets to decide that.
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carmensakura07 wrote: Can kids get annoying?
Absolutely.
even adults?!
*takes TV on full sound*
*calls for a late party in their room which is right next to your bedroom*
(also don't eat those gloves)
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Your neighbors' kids being obnoxious doesn't mean other children and their parents must pay the price, much less, be rendered homeless. Let's trade out your neighbors for drunks and druggies, just for the sake of comparison.


The earlier post about apartments lacking proper sound insulation is an interesting point.
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My answer is yes they should. It is not up to you to get to decide who gets to live where and limiting who can and cannot live in certain places is a much more worrying problem than a noisy kid would ever be. Limiting others freedom is rarely a good thing. Frist it starts with the second floor then it's no apartments whatsoever and then it's duplexes and finally let's just round all the little snot nosed monsters up and put them in their own little encampment so we don't have to deal with them. See where this is headed? Once you start placing arbitrary rules on one's freedom it can snowball downhill quite fast. You may not care if they live on the first floor opposed to the second but the next person might. Then the next person says no duplexes while the third says no kids in houses. Limit limit limits. Just what we need more limitations.

I get it's annoying. I grew up in apartments and even the best of kids get noisy sometimes. I know we used to even though we knew we weren't supposed to stomp around and make a lot of noise. Looking at it from the other point of view it sucked to always have to walk around on eggshells. It would have been nice if on Christmas morning we could just tear through the apartment in a mad dash to see what Santa left us under the tree instead of having to tip toe because we don't want to annoy our neighbors. Kids are kids.

Have you even tried talking to them? Has anyone who lives there? You mention others complaining but have you'll actually spoke to the tenants face to face? If not then they may not even realize there's a problem. I find it quite annoying when people complain about someone and yet never say anything to that person. You can't expect ANYONE to ever correct a mistake if you never tell them about that mistake. But even if you'll have talked to them it may not help. Some kids are just noisy. Maybe he/she has ADD, maybe they're just hyperactive. Maybe they dislike the people below them so they stomp around on purpose. Talk to them, deal with it or move to a different unit are pretty much your only choices here. I would try to talk with them about it. More than once if need be. Be nice to them though and try to be understanding. Maybe they're jerks or maybe they jus thave their hands full working two jobs and trying to raise noisy kids. Being nice instead of approaching someone while angry usually works a lot better. Good luck to you.
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It's the main reason why I hate little kids.
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If they or you aren't moving soon, your best course is to get friendly with your neighbors. After a few meetings, you can then bring up about the kid making noise.
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The thing is there is a way to live in a child free environment if you're able and willing to pay top price for it. There's child free complexes, homes with acres between the next neighbour, gated communities ect. You can also pay for child free air travel via first class or even go as far as rent your own plane so you're not using public transport.
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I have mixed feelings about it. First, that is one of the greatest deterrents to living in an apartment complex, but if that is the sort of housing that suits your needs, you'll have to put up with noise from neighbors (and not just from children--shouting, loud music, slamming doors, etc.) The lack of soundproofing in the structure isn't a valid reason to disqualify someone for housing. If you have a problem with the noise, the best thing to do is talk to your upstairs neighbors about it.

Having worked in rental maintenance, however, I'd also say that irresponsible people with children and pets shouldn't be allowed to rent at all . Children can be assholes--I've had my hand slammed in a door, been run into by pedal carts on more than one occasion, screamed at for not letting them play with my power tools, etc. Some of them draw on walls, pee on carpet, and leave food and Legos (parents should know about that last one) everywhere! You can't really blame the children, though, when it's really the parents who leave the apartment such a mess and don't curb their childrens' attitudes or take care of their abundance of energy.


tkayt wrote:

The thing is there is a way to live in a child free environment if you're able and willing to pay top price for it. There's child free complexes, homes with acres between the next neighbour, gated communities ect. You can also pay for child free air travel via first class or even go as far as rent your own plane so you're not using public transport.


Location is key more than cost. If the only homes available in the area where you work or need to live, for whatever reason, are apartments, then it is an apartment that you will get. I own a home simply because it is cheaper where I live, but I have no need to move out of the rural area, either. There is a massive cost difference, though, between living in a podunk town in Kansas and living in a suburb of Los Angeles---like a 90% difference.
Posted 9/18/16 , edited 9/18/16
When I was younger myself and my brother were on the 3rd floor and we did the same thing. After the neighbors complained to management and they complained to my parents we got our asses beat. We didn't do that anymore
I think they're fine just need to be disciplined a little
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Velvet_Crowe wrote:

When I was younger myself and my brother were on the 3rd floor and we did the same thing. After the neighbors complained to management and they complained to my parents we got our asses beat. We didn't do that anymore
I think they're fine just need to be disciplined a little


Which in today's world, will not happen to their little special angels, because they suffer from being a snowflake.
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That is why I searched for an apartment with a vacancy on the top level (2nd floor in my case). I'm a quiet person and I try to walk silently so as to not disturb the 1st floor residents. I never had any complaints from them. Perhaps you can confront the parents of the 2nd floor kid and hopefully they are decent people and maybe they can explain to their kid that he shouldn't stomp. I would say 80% of the time they will just get upset with you and slam the door on your face (if they even answer it). 10% of the time they will listen to your complaint, but do nothing about it. 10% of the time they will actually try to do something about it. Unfortunately, most apartment residents don't care if they are being a bother to you or other residents, they somehow feel you should just deal with it. I would confront them first rather than complain to the management because then they will feel a sense that they deserve to get revenge and make your live worse. When management delivers complaints to residents, they usually get angry toward the management and every resident around them thinking any one of you may have complained. It may not be a fun experience, but confronting them first is probably the best option. Don't go up there and make demands, be calm and ask if you can get a minute of their time to discuss what is going on. I would explain that you hear loud bangs coming from this unit and ask if they could walk a little gentler. Do so in a way that doesn't cause them to feel disrespected or being yelled at. People take situations like these better if they feel the person delivering the message is calm and not making any demands or threats. If someone came to me and said my TV was too loud or something, I would apologize and turn it to a level where we are both happy (we all know we typically have TV on louder than it needs to be).

TL;DR Version: See if you can confront them in a calm manner without making demands to see if you can come to a common ground.
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When the kid goes outside, follow him around banging a couple pots together.
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First never blame the children, then the issue is not that people should be allowed or not. The problem is the building and those who made it, if its a clearly a family building it would be made of concrete, building of plywood or wood planks are meant to adulthood. I have live in the first floor a family build all my life and never got that issue since sound can not pass that much concrete (unless taking a direct hit from something)
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First never blame the children, then the issue is not that people should be allowed or not. The problem is the building and those who made it, if its a clearly a family building it would be made of concrete, building of plywood or wood planks are meant to adulthood. I have live in the first floor a family build all my life and never got that issue since sound can not pass that much concrete (unless taking a direct hit from something)


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