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Posted 9/18/16
Backstory of events that played out this week (Warning has f-words and long story. Please give me some advice though)
This happened this week over a course of 4 days. Monday a friend found out i liked this girl in my history class. He then went up to her in his math class. And said "Hi, i have a shy friend who has a crush on you. In your history class" (fuck up number 1). She said to him that shes open to relationships. He then told me this over lunch on Monday. She found out it was me, as its very obvious as there is only like 4 other guys in that class. I'm basically the only shy-est one there. Tuesday i decide to ask for her number as i would like to get to know her better. At the end of school i ask (stuttering a bit as i am a very introverted person), she says yes and i gave her my phone she puts in her number. As soon as i get home i decided to text her. Saying hi and she responds, we have a pretty nice conversation. As i mainly asked the questions to continue the conversation. I was truly loving the conversation. She stated earlier in the convo that she has work that afternoon. then after i said "ah, that's cool." in response to a answer. She didn't reply for a couple hours. I thought hey shes at work. Fast forward to Wednesday. No response, so idiotic me sends "hi good morning." (2nd Fuck up) Day goes by and its lunch. I see her in the library and im headed there anyways. So i say "hi whats up." She said "Hi" and then ran off. I then find out from some other friends, she was crying in her class before lunch. So stupid me, then texts "Hey are you ok, i heard from some friends that you were feeling sad. i know we dont know each other well, but i here if you want to talk" (3rd Fuck yup). She doesnt reply till the end of school. She txted "No thanks, i have best friends to talk to." My reply was "alrighty that makes sense, hop everything gets better." And i also sent "i apologize for my awkwardness" (4th fuck up).
Second half- tried talking to her, unable to. Texted her at work saying "hi whats up." She replys with "i cant talk, hanging out with nic tonight." (Sorta bitchy reponse) i talk with gavin with what i shoukd reply with. I wanted to say "ok cool have fun."Gavin made me send "alright ill leave you alone, im out. Thanks hope it was great destorying my feelings." (Another fuck up). She replies with "okay? Hes my best friend, i dont know you well." I then apologize and tell the truth of how i was following friends ideas and not my own. She responds with "okay, just so you know im not intrested in you anyways." I lastly say "alrighty, thats only fair. Im sorry it played out like this and hope you have a good weekend."
** i have seen and understand my mistakes. I have learned from them. But i still have feelings for this girl and hope i could recover this and still have a realtionship. Everyone keeps telling me to move on and/or abstain from any form of contact with her. Btw im a very anti-social shy person. I have a hard time talking to people. Let alone girls. Please tell me what you think i should do/how to procced on monday at school (history class is gonna be a very awkward exp. on monday)
Posted 9/18/16
Yeaaaaah, take the people's advice and move on. Not much more to be done for this tbh
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Alrighty thank you. Ill try
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I'd say take their advice and move on. From the sounds of it she wasn't just wasn't interested and it probably wasn't the result of anything you said, try not to beat yourself up about it or let it decrease your confidence, there are many more girls out there!
Posted 9/18/16
I agree with the top two ^
Moving on sounds like the best course of plan here.
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Others may be right in this situation but if you like her at least try making amends with her. Apologize for the mistakes you know you made, let her know your feelings (be honest) and give her her space (let her decide where she wants to go next, she'll tell you one way or the other). If she is interested in you she'll take your apology and think about your situation, if not then it'll at least build a bridge toward her understanding the situation was not some sort of joke played on her and maybe give you some sort of friendship in the future but that'll be her decision to make.
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Yeah all indicators of a red flag move on and ignore her and get yourself a good girl that one sounds horrible if she acting that way to you , yeah lots of girls in high school and when you get out lots more lol
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neugenx wrote:

Others may be right in this situation but if you like her at least try making amends with her. Apologize for the mistakes you know you made, let her know your feelings (be honest) and give her her space (let her decide where she wants to go next, she'll tell you one way or the other). If she is interested in you she'll take your apology and think about your situation, if not then it'll at least build a bridge toward her understanding the situation was not some sort of joke played on her and maybe give you some sort of friendship in the future but that'll be her decision to make.

I already apologized in that text. Thats what i ment when i sent im sorry at the end. About how i told the truth. Thank you everyone

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Posted 9/18/16

Kronosxthextitan wrote:


neugenx wrote:

Others may be right in this situation but if you like her at least try making amends with her. Apologize for the mistakes you know you made, let her know your feelings (be honest) and give her her space (let her decide where she wants to go next, she'll tell you one way or the other). If she is interested in you she'll take your apology and think about your situation, if not then it'll at least build a bridge toward her understanding the situation was not some sort of joke played on her and maybe give you some sort of friendship in the future but that'll be her decision to make.

I already apologized in that text. Thats what i ment when i sent im sorry at the end. Thank you tho



Oh k, gotcha. Sorry, man. Hope things work out the best for you.
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Posted 9/18/16

neugenx wrote:


Kronosxthextitan wrote:


neugenx wrote:

Others may be right in this situation but if you like her at least try making amends with her. Apologize for the mistakes you know you made, let her know your feelings (be honest) and give her her space (let her decide where she wants to go next, she'll tell you one way or the other). If she is interested in you she'll take your apology and think about your situation, if not then it'll at least build a bridge toward her understanding the situation was not some sort of joke played on her and maybe give you some sort of friendship in the future but that'll be her decision to make.

I already apologized in that text. Thats what i ment when i sent im sorry at the end. Thank you tho



Oh k, gotcha. Sorry, man. Hope things work out the best for you.

Its ok. Thanks :)
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Omg this is so sad. I'd say fuck it and move on. That's what I do ^^ I'd go into that class with my head high and show them that I could care less. One of the biggest things you'll learn.. Is to not let people see that they get to you. Move on I'm sure there are plenty of nice people, well girls in your case. That would love to date you, get to know you, etc. 7 billion people on this earth. One of them isn't interested? oh well ^^ I think its great you just told her what was up instead of hiding. Better to know how it would go telling that person how you feel than never knowing. Now that you know you can move on and stop wasting time on some girl who isn't interested ^_^
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Omg this is so sad. I'd say fuck it and move on. That's what I do ^^ I'd go into that class with my head high and show them that I could care less. One of the biggest things you'll learn.. Is to not let people see that they get to you. Move on I'm sure there are plenty of nice people, well girls in your case. That would love to date you, get to know you, etc. 7 billion people on this earth. One of them isn't interested? oh well ^^ I think its great you just told her what was up instead of hiding. Better to know how it would go telling that person how you feel than never knowing. Now that you know you can move on and stop wasting time on some girl who isn't interested ^_^

Thank you very much. I really needed to hear that :). Im gonna try to be me and move on. It still stings and im finding it hard to get her out of my mind time to time. I hope i can find another person to build a relationship with.
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Blackbutler3000 wrote:

Omg this is so sad. I'd say fuck it and move on. That's what I do ^^ I'd go into that class with my head high and show them that I could care less. One of the biggest things you'll learn.. Is to not let people see that they get to you. Move on I'm sure there are plenty of nice people, well girls in your case. That would love to date you, get to know you, etc. 7 billion people on this earth. One of them isn't interested? oh well ^^ I think its great you just told her what was up instead of hiding. Better to know how it would go telling that person how you feel than never knowing. Now that you know you can move on and stop wasting time on some girl who isn't interested ^_^

Thank you very much. I really needed to hear that :). Im gonna try to be me and move on. It still stings and im finding it hard to get her out of my mind time to time. I hope i can find another person to build a relationship with.


Yes it will always hurt at first, we can't tell you to stop feeling. But we can tell you it'll be better to move on. I'm always here like always. #NoLife XD but yea. Inbox me if you want ^_^ or if you wanna talk. Sometimes its actually better to tell a complete stranger how you feel because you get insight on an opinion that's non biased.
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Posted 9/19/16 , edited 9/19/16
Take romantic relationship advise on a forum that mostly consists of kids who who don't have the best social skills with a grain of salt. And add some paragraphs when you write.
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Take romantic relationship advise on a forum that mostly consists of kids who who don't have the best social skills with a grain of salt. And add some paragraphs when you write.


How about you try reading and realizing these "kids" actually have legitment advice and know what they're talking about. Just a suggestion tho
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