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Posted 9/21/16
Yeah that happen to me at some jobs I had don't know why it was just not compatible co workers lol you can sense the nagativity of people lol
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I can think of some people in middle school, lots of them. Since then, not really other than an ex-boss who was hell bent on getting me fired for some reason from the moment she met me.
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Posted 9/21/16

YayForKittens wrote:

I recently met someone at my work who seems to really dislike me for no particular reason at all. Luckily I have since moved on to a different department and don't run into him anymore.

Was curious to know if this has happened to anyone here. Has anyone hated you for literally no reason at all?


Something similar happened to me very recently.

Actually several people hate me for some reason or other, and so I was moved to an entirely different branch and division because of their flooding hatred for me. A bit of a setback in my plans, but it's nice to know who really hates you.
Posted 9/21/16
Yes, I'm told I have a negative vibe to me or that I'm hard to approach
Because of this, it rubbed people off the wrong way
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Posted 9/21/16
Dislike and hate aren't the same thing. Now that that's out of the way; how much do you actually know about the person? He may very well not dislike you as much as you think and/or simply be an asshole who doesn't harbor any particular feelings towards you. Besides, if it is you that he honestly dislikes, there undoubtedly is a reason-- You just don't know it. It could be anything, trivial or otherwise.



As for me; there are people who dislike me, but never without cause. I don't usually care to know what they are, however.



This reminds me of a situation that had occurred at my mother's work place. There was a coworker who was giving my mother crap for almost two years, presumably because the woman saw Mom as a threat to her position. One day, the woman broke down crying and told Mom that she had been going through a lot of hardships, and was taking it out on my mother and other workers. My mother and her have been on good terms ever since.
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When I transferred to a new high school sophomore year 1962-era it was late enough to where the only place that would have me was BCC (Baltimore City College....3rd oldest continuous operating high school in the country at the time). The high school I left as a freshman had 356 total students and I knew everyone, had a great social life, C-average. This gargantuan place had 3500, all guys (2 schools left in "Ballmer" yet to go coed). I had lived in this city before as a child and knew how clannish and reserved the area was then. So, with zero to only a handful of friends plus acquaintances for the 3 years to come my grades rose steadily because there was nothing else to do but study hard, excel, earn that college scholarship, get the f out. In my senior year because I carried such a workload I get shunted into certain classes that were populated by the future malcontents: JDs, car thieves, under-achievers, no-achievers versus the next generation of doctor, lawyer, professional wannabes that I theoretically enjoyed as buddies 2 years previous in this hallowed institution of public education.

I had excellent grades because I worked my ass off. I had less than 5 friends to socialize with in that large metropolitan area. Certain people in these lower-level classes hated my guts because I and 1 other student were affecting the class grade curve. In this school 60 out of 100 percent was a passable grade (D-). These folks were staring at a possible 55 instead of a 60 which equaled to flunking versus passing. Not a good thing when you're a under-achieving senior now is it? Though I never got hit or punched out I did receive many threats, via verbal and hand-delivered missives. I had to be selective which school corridors to use during certain class periods entering or exiting.

One teacher even tried to transfer me out of her foreign language class to a better suited area of learning but all my electives couldn't be shuffled so it wasn't possible ( I had an A- average with her, the remaining students had D's and F's). These students were especially upset because this teacher couldn't lowball the learning curve to accommodate them.

That was then. Now that I'm a fossil it is so freeing to not have to maintain a facade or seek approval lest I be fired, beaten up, or whatever. I can live out my days not giving a damn what others think as long as I don't violate the laws or their rights as individuals.
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yes
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Not really, I always aim to make a good first impression and it works, if I don't think a good first impression is possible I relax, go with the flow and they'll take interest in me, don't have to actually become friends to get along with someone, acquaintance or work colleague is just fine
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This happens to me often. Or, rather than for no reason, for a reason that's flimsy at best.

I know I'm pretty unpopular at work, despite being alone on the graveyard shift. Why do so many people dislike me despite having had almost zero contact with me? My boss says I come off as unapproachable, smug, or superior... yet agrees I am very polite and professional. I find that difficult to reconcile. The limited face time I get with my co-workers I don't ask about their personal lives, or waste time with idle conversation - it's work, I'm busy! So... I'm not unfriendly, but I don't go out of my way to be friendly, and I guess that's enough.

Another time I was at a bar and some drunkard who was nearly a stranger asked me if I liked him. I barely knew him, had no particular feelings about him, so I said no. He wasn't happy about that. Cussed me out pretty good before knocking my drink over. So I shrugged and sat somewhere else. Then as I got up to leave he approached me, calling me a c**t repeatedly and asking why I wasn't arguing when he kept calling me a worthless c**nt. I said I didn't care. He grabbed me by the throat and held me against a wall, casting yet more aspersions meant to attack my manliness for not fighting back. I just stood there until he got bored and left. Notably, nobody tried to help or call the police. Nice crowd. So that guy apparently hated my guts, either for my indifference or indifference he mistook for something worse.

Sorry for the ramble, people are strange. You probably committed some trivial offense that exists only in his mind.
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Yes there'd be those who dislike. It's impossible to please everyone all the time. That's life.

There was on classmate in school who made it clear she disliked me before I ever tried to talk to her. I didn't understand it since I had done nothing to her but I just kept my distance when I saw how she looked at me. Years later when we're both grown and in a different country, she bumps into my sis and they get chatting. She sent an apology via sis. It turned out it had absolutely nothing to do with me. She was stressed, with a lot on her mind and was trying to keep up what she thought was a cool image.

I've had a few that I wasn't pleased to interact with because they bore a resemblance to others who turned out to be terrible people. That has nothing to do with how these new people really are. These feelings are unconscious at first until I realise why I don't like someone I don't know. After that I work out if its worth my time and energy to get to know the new people.
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Posted 9/22/16
People usually don't hate for NO reason. Usually there's some reason even if it's something stupid, petty and ridiculous. It may be that he just doesn't like how you look or how you act or how you walk. Who knows. It could be the exact opposite. Maybe this person actually likes you but is unable to tell you for whatever reason and so they treat you like crap out of frustration.

And yes I've had people dislike me but it's usually for some reason even if it's not a real good reason. I tend to go out of my way to be SUPER DUPER nice to these people. Like OMGoosh HOW ARE YOoooOOOU DOING TODAAAAY! Awesome! (even when they give me a bad answer)ISN'T IT A GREAT DAY! Type of nice. Hell that annoys pretty much anyone but especially someone who hates you.
Posted 9/22/16
The worlds not perfect move on I don't waste my time on haters.
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That one kid at school. Then I made sure they knew I don't care, and it triggered them.
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Posted 9/22/16
yeah, it's very common. many people don't care for logic and do everything based on feeling.
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Posted 9/22/16
Nope. Surprisingly everyone liked being around me. Not like in a charismatic way, like if you had to work with me, or if you just talked to me for a minute, you know just hanged out or chilled.

It's this certain energy I have I guess. There might be a couple guys who hate me because their girl always seem to find me interesting. No that's not me being cocky, these are things I observe over the course of my life.

But I don't do anything! I'm an introvert so It's not my fault don't get all defensive buddy geez
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