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I want to be a writer but I can't go any longer without a job and the creative process (I mean like world building, character and plot planning) is very draining so I am concerned I won't find the time to work on it once I've gotten a job...
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Nalaniel wrote:

My parents. They would disown me and leave me on the street if I were to attempt to transition. They are of the opinion that transgender people are mentally ill and need to be made "normal".



Sometimes you have to do what's right for you and everyone else be damned. I don't know how old you are so that could paly a huge role too. Obviously if you're underage there's not much you can do and my advice would be to just bide your time until you're an adult and can get out on your own. Then I would just let them go if they can't understand and love you for who you really are. I know that's hard and everyone wants the love and acceptance of their parents but you shouldn't have to pretend to be someone else to gain that love and acceptance. They should love you for who you really are. They should love the good as well as the bad. If they're not capable of doing that then screw them. Go find some other people who will be kind to you and love you for who you really are. My mom didn't stop loving me because I was clinically depressed nor did she disown me when I became a hard core drug addict. She loved me and stood by me. She was always on my side and that's how a good parent should be. Not to say one should be an enabler or anything but she always loved me. Through the good and the bad.

You might also be surprised. Sure it may take them a while but most parents I think would eventually come around. You're their baby and they've been through a lot with you. Your mom bore you inside of her then went through pain to bring you into this world. Your parents sacrificed, loved and cherished you (hopefully) so something like this should only be a minor roadblock to them. If they truly love you then they will get over it and come around. If not then maybe you're better off without them? You need to do what you need to do for your sanity and happiness. If that means letting them go then so be it. If you're not 18 or whatever the legal age may be where you live then I'd wait for that and then give them an ultimatum once you're old enough. Sorry, didn't check your profile or anything before responding. Have you actually tried talking to them about this or do you just assume they'd hate you? Even the most die hard conservatives have come around when they have children who are gay, bi or transgender. Hopefully yours will too. Best of luck to you. I hope you will be able to just be yourself and find some happiness in this world. It won't be easy at times but nothing in life ever is.
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I am not willing to take the risk. My life would start falling apart if my parents disowned me right now. I will be moving to Germany soon and hope to start college there. If my parents weren't accepting, I couldn't do that. I would need to find myself new housing and I don't think I would be mentally prepared for that. My parents have stated multiple times that trans and gay people aren't normal. They think it's okay to make fun of them. My father has also said that he would beat sense into me if I turned out to be that way. Pretty scary statement, if you ask me. Besides, in Croatia it's accepted to hate on people like that. They don't see anything wrong with that.

I know that I would be better off without them, but I am completely financially dependent on them. They manage all the finances, even the 450 Euro I recently won in a competition. Please don't tell me that I should get the police or anyone like that involved. I can't do that. I don't have the mental support necessary to go through that. I have no real friends. Everyone I talk to frequently is an online friend that I will never meet. Whatever option I choose, the outcome is temporary misery and suffering. I am not old enough to come up with something better.
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TheDustyForest wrote:

I want to be a writer but I can't go any longer without a job and the creative process (I mean like world building, character and plot planning) is very draining so I am concerned I won't find the time to work on it once I've gotten a job...


this is how i am feeling as well.
i wish i could just live a life off of writing, but even after you complete a novel the chances of you making a good profit off of them for a career are so, so slim.
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