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Post Reply How Would you feel if your SoulMates Gender was wrong?
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Posted 10/18/16 , edited 10/18/16

Em0SceneStabr wrote:


pandrasb wrote:

hahahaha there's no such thing as soul mates.



Hypothetically



it depends what you want out of a relationship. I want kids(not adopt), and I want sex. If I can't have both I'm out. I'm not aroused by the male body at all, so sex wouldn't be an option (cuz my dick wouldn't get hard). Just something about the female body that's just...




So out of respect for my soul mate I'd end it.
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both gender can be a soulmate !
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meh
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Everyone thinks they found their soul mate until they are together every day for a decade or two.


found mine well mines
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I'm bisexual and I don't do transgender sorry best be comfortable in your own skin.
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No one hiding their gender from me for a whole year is my soul mate
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I'd end the romantic relationship to stay as friends


Same.

Given the OPs scernario and not being bisexual myself I could not see it working out
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I'd be quite angry if it was a whole year and I somehow didn't find it out. They lied to me about something so important for such a long time. I don't think I could stay with them in a romantic and intimate way. At that point I doubt we would be able to stay as friends, we'd both be heartbroken. If it was like a month, it'd wouldn't be such a big deal.

If they were full transgender or w/e and had a sex change, I might be able to get over it, but I really want a kid in the future, a full biological child - adoption isn't quite the same.
When I date someone, it's with the intention that it will develop into a serious relationship and move into marriage and having a child. If they don't want either, or can't, and they knew beforehand about it, it'd probably be a deal breaker.

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So basically if you like someone and they turned out to be trap? I'd end the relationship for not being forthcoming with that information.
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If they're the wrong gender, then they're not a soulmate.
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Considering soul mates do not exist....

Also, this kind of bullshit thread is just the kind of double standard nonsense you hear when dealing with stupid people who happen to support homosexuality. Not that I don't, but that I'm not stupid.

If you are homosexual, you just are. You aren't going to magically turn straight. Any compatible partner is also going to be of your preference and also homosexual.

And straight people can't turn gay. They can't and aren't. No amount of hypothetical situations is going to change that.

My heterosexual nature has just as much to do with not wanting a penis in or around my mouth or butt. Also, I find male features such as narrow hips, heavy upper torsos, and other male features unattractive. That AND penises.

So, if you think you're a heterosexual who's being progressive by saying you'd be okay with such things, no you aren't. No, see you're actually just a complete moron who just accidentally discovered they are bi.

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They would be instantly dumped for being completely untrustworthy. If I've been dating someone for a year and they hadn't told me the truth in all that time, no way I could trust them after that.
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My soulmate is my preferred gender, no getting around that.
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If my partner turned out to be a trans woman then I don't see the issue, I'm still dating a woman, and she probably didn't tell me because she was scared that I'd reject her or hurt her and she just wanted me to see her for who she is as a person. Punishing people for being honest after they lie is a great way to make them keep lying. I'd be uncomfortable if she didn't tell me and I found out on my own, but if she comes to me to tell me beforehand I wouldn't be that upset. So what if she's got a dick? Gender =/= Sex, mother nature will screw with you, and yeah I'm not particularly interested in that kind of genitalia but sex isn't everything you know. If, like you said, I love her dearly then I guess I should start reading up on new positions; and if it does turn out that's really not for me then we'll cross that bridge when we get to it. I understand that for some people that kind of sex might make them uncomfortable, but I think the least one can do is be understanding and break up respectfully if it matters that much to you.

However if my partner turned out to be a trans man that might be a little more complicated for me. I don't have any interest in dating men and I don't find them attractive, but I think I would at least try it out with him. However, if he changes too much I can see it not working out, I like other feminine women particularly because they're more open with their feelings, butch girls are a little more reserved but I went on a date with one once and it was like dating a man and I didn't really like it at all, she acted like a gentleman, even paid for my tickets, but she was hard to talk to and just too reserved. So if my partner turned out to be a trans man I'd be hopeful and optimistic in trying something new but I wouldn't be surprised if it didn't work out.
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HolyDrumstick wrote:

Considering soul mates do not exist....

Also, this kind of bullshit thread is just the kind of double standard nonsense you hear when dealing with stupid people who happen to be homosexual.

If you are homosexual, you just are. You aren't going to magically turn straight. Any compatible partner is also going to be of your preference and also homosexual.

And straight people can't turn gay. They can't and aren't. No amount of hypothetical situations is going to change that.

My heterosexual nature has just as much to do with not wanting a penis in or around my mouth or butt. Also, I find male features such as narrow hips, heavy upper torsos, and other male features unattractive. That AND penises.

So, if you think you're a heterosexual who's being progressive by saying you'd be okay with such things, no you aren't. No, see you're actually just a complete moron who just accidentally discovered they are bi.


Curious.

I happen to be physically attracted to the same sex. However, I wouldn't be caught dead romantically involved with someone of the same sex because I find their nature--founded on evolutional sexual strategies--repulsive.

I guess that goes back to: Would you define sexuality on lust or love? Not all physical intimacy necessitates there be an emotional bond after all.

If one adheres to the idea that male and females are distinctly different, not just in physical characteristics, then my position is comprehensible. If not, then it sounds like lunacy.

If was already romantically involved with someone and they just happened to have the other parts, then it wouldn't be a problem as their behavior had already been ruled out--which makes them an exception rather than rule. It would make things a curious matter about their neurology+biology....

Certainly my position is an unorthodox one, but for practical matters 'heterosexual' works just fine. Perhaps you would label me 'bisexual'. Regardless, labels summarize rather than constrain our thinking.

Getting off point it's not as clear cut all the time. Although I will agree that the nature of the question does look a lot like a progressive shit test.

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