First  Prev  1  2  3  4  5  6  Next  Last
Post Reply Introverts - Parties, how do you handle them?
342 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
30 / M / Azeroth
Offline
Posted 10/22/16 , edited 10/25/16

zelking wrote:
I'm a really nice person, and I'm not trying to be rude. But I had no intention of introvert vs. extrovert, I was only stating what I felt. Though I do respect your opinion, and I also agree with what you said.


Ahh I forget I am talking to the Twitter Generation.... Let me restate.

I was not making an evaluation comparison (which one is better), simply making an observational comparison based upon the posts in this thread. There are differences between introverts and extroverts, and simply stating them for the record is not or should not be considered inherently "discriminatory".


Nor, as during such discourse, did I imply that you were attempting to infer. So you need not worry yourself.


Once again, my writting style in today's times falsely suggests a /condescension . But no matter...
9778 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
24 / F / Johnstown, PA, USA
Online
Posted 10/22/16
Suck it up and try and make the best of it. Doesn't mean I'd be very sociable (I mostly stick to myself), but I try and be polite on the rare occasion that I do talk. Fortunately, despite being introverted, I'm not especially awkward when actually talking to people.


Despite what a few people have said: the guy is your boss. It doesn't matter if you're introverted or not, ignoring him at a work-related party wouldn't have been a good idea. It's kind of like showing up at a birthday party and not saying jack to the guy having the party. Only, at a work party, ignoring your boss reflects upon your occupation and could result in you being fired. You said "hello." You tried. Good job. Having said that; just walking up to your boss when he was talking to someone else, at the behest of a coworker, and then flopping at conversation.... That was pretty embarrassing. You'll live, though.


11700 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
35 / M / UK
Offline
Posted 10/22/16 , edited 10/22/16
Generally I avoid parties.

If it is an occasion I can't get out of my coping mechanism is to latch onto a group containing someone I know and listen to the conversation. I then nod or smile at the places that seem appropriate and contribute a few words when asked a direct question. After half an hour to an hour (when people are starting to get sozzled) I quietly slip away. If anyone comments on me leaving early I provide an excuse about having to catch a train or having agreed to meet a member of my family. Everyone who knows me knows I don't drink alcohol, so the usual expectation that you will remain until mildly or incredibly drunk doesn't apply.

Noisy parties are really great for providing cover. When someone engages you in conversation cup a hand round your ear and lean towards them slightly as if you are having trouble hearing them. Any pauses or awkward replies in the conversation can then be put down to mishearing what was said.
Sogno- 
45684 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
Online
Posted 10/22/16
uh... i dont go to parties
342 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
30 / M / Azeroth
Offline
Posted 10/22/16

Sogno- wrote:

uh... i dont go to parties


+1 to that...... But more of a result of "social isolation", if anything.
Posted 10/22/16 , edited 10/22/16
I've never been to one

But I doubt I'll enjoy it especially if I don't know half the people attending
342 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
30 / M / Azeroth
Offline
Posted 10/22/16
The moral of this thread is, we all need to get together and have a party. Then everything be fine.


#missionaccomplished
246 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
F
Offline
Posted 10/22/16
Never been to an "adult party" and don't plan on it if all they do is drink. But I will go to other parties that don't drink. Usually I just sit off in the corner by myself and don't talk unless someone talks to me first. I just sit and listen to peoples stories while munching on food if available.
37966 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
M
Offline
Posted 10/22/16
I usually refuse to go to a parties of people I don't know. Why do I need to talk with people who I hardly see again.
342 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
30 / M / Azeroth
Offline
Posted 10/22/16

twintiger12 wrote:Why do I need to talk with people who I hardly see again.


Because you can.


And, because you can learn a truckload. Each individual encounter marginally not make a difference; the totality of such does. You talk to one dude, learn one thing, another and another thing. They add up over time.


Think of it like lvl grinding. Killing 1 monster isn't gonna get u to lvl cap. Killing a ton will. In this case, if you wish to "lvl up your social EXP", you have to start in the noob zones of course.
20644 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
Offline
Posted 10/22/16
I'm curious what does an extrovert get out of the experience? And what kind of behavior from people would be intolerable, and what's enjoyable?
342 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
30 / M / Azeroth
Offline
Posted 10/22/16

Bryaugh wrote:

I'm curious what does an extrovert get out of the experience?


"Fun": A concept lost on introverts. The idea of social partying is simply interacting; how you interact or WTF u are doing doesn't matter. Just being together (not alone) is the objective.


Why? Probably evolutionary reasons that favor group survival. But no matter...
Posted 10/22/16
Sickness excuse comes in handy during these times...

I don't go because I know I would feel awkward and bored...
7267 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
19 / M
Offline
Posted 10/22/16 , edited 10/22/16
Parties? I've never been to one. Ever. It's not a part of my lifestyle, it doesn't interest me, I know that I wouldn't enjoy it. I also hate loud atmospheres, I prefer the quiet environment. I don't dance or sing. I'm also a non-alcoholic, so I avoid those types of social situations that presents alcohol like the plague because I tend to think it breeds stupidity in groups. If I ever find myself in a party scenario, I'd probably just be the guy that sits in the corner and doesn't engage anybody, even if it's my own family gatherings, I tend to keep to myself. If it's just one person that actually cares about anything I'm saying, and is able to think on the same level of depth that I do, I can handle talking to them. I may or may not be interested in them or not depending on what kind of person they are, so in that situation, I would probably just talk until they lose interest, or until I lose interest and just leave. If no one talks to me, and I'm just sitting there bored, I would just leave.

Even if we were doing something I was remotely interested in, I'd be too uncomfortable being in such close proximity with so many sweaty bodies. I need my personal space.
342 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
30 / M / Azeroth
Offline
Posted 10/22/16 , edited 10/25/16
Meh, all you guys need to get out and enjoy life more. Just because the people around you "are lesser peons" (which they are, of course) and hard to "relate" to doesn't mean u can not have some (evil) fun in messin around with them. If you are smarter then them, don't let them "outplay" you in life. Just think if it like Sword Art Online, or something.


Suggest reading the classic "Sun Tzu The Art of War", good guide indeed...
First  Prev  1  2  3  4  5  6  Next  Last
You must be logged in to post.