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Post Reply Introverts - Parties, how do you handle them?
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TheGrandAlliance wrote:

If you are smarter then them, don't let them "outplay" you in life. Just think if it like Sword Art Online, or something.


I genuinely have no idea what you mean by this.

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UnRavel1 wrote:


TheGrandAlliance wrote:

If you are smarter then them, don't let them "outplay" you in life. Just think if it like Sword Art Online, or something.


I genuinely have no idea what you mean by this.




Okay, without going into a big /walloftext once again... don't hate your life and want to kill yourself, simply because extroverted people "are having all the fun". Or are able to do/"succeed" at things you cannot.

"Knowing fully who you are, and of your 'extrovert rival'; you need not worry about the outcomes of 100 battles." Or, something like that.


In other words, if you know to whom you are parting with "likes to drink" or whatever, come up with a strategy beforehand. Don't show up at the party and "not know what you want to do". Maybe figure out something you like to drink yourself (in moderation), a subject matter your drunk friend wants to talk about (girls), and pretty soon you will be in control of the party. Think of the party, like writing a script to slice of life anime or something. Be the author.



Personally, I don't associate with either introvert/extrovert title, because I can handle both situations. Being at a party, is simply a test of "situational awareness", like an action game. Know who is gonna be there, what they are likely to behave as, then you can have strategy for a good time. The "party meta", as it were.


In the example of SAO... that entire show was basically how a bunch of introverted people hiding inside a Full Dive game came together, and thus became more extroverted (especially of Season 2). Remeber the main female in S2 "was scared of everything IRL" at first? The show is sort of a guide to life, if you will. Perhaps, why that show so popular in the first place.

If you need the long-form explanation of this, it will be a /walloftext otherwise...
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UnRavel1 wrote:


TheGrandAlliance wrote:

If you are smarter then them, don't let them "outplay" you in life. Just think if it like Sword Art Online, or something.


I genuinely have no idea what you mean by this.



I think he means to focus on someone they're trying to protect.
Seduce them.
Kill them.

Make sure you equip some protag/plot armor first, though.
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The moral of this thread is


you can't trust the system, man
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I think he means to focus on someone they're trying to protect.
Seduce them.
Kill them.

Make sure you equip some protag/plot armor first, though.



Holy ******* shit, Post of the Month Award, right here. Of the year, even. Couldn't say it better, myself.


#GGWP



Sogno- wrote:

you can't trust the system, man


Read above.
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I was invited to a party ... and I went. Yes, a real party, not the birthday cake and balloons kind, but an adult party. Ugh.

The food was delicious, there were waiters serving drinks and dainty appetizers but I wasn't able to enjoy any of it. It felt awkward, weird, and I had to talk to people I barely know.

I literally walked up to my boss, talked about getting food and just walked away in mid conversation, the cringe was real:

Co worker: you should say hi to your boss
Me: he looks like he is busy talking to someone
Co worker: yeah but you should really say hi to your boss
Me: walks up and shakes boss man's hand
Boss: hey, you should really get a drink
Me: yeah I'm trying to get some food, it's so hard to find
Boss: ...
Me: ..... /walks away (oh god)

UGHHHh yyyyyyy did I do that???


Parties.



Your boss knows what's up. "Get a drink" He himself knows parties are a drag and are better when tipsy. I usually just hit up the bar have a couple and that just loosens me up and I start talking to people randomly about random things.
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Your boss knows what's up. "Get a drink" He himself knows parties are a drag and are better when tipsy. I usually just hit up the bar have a couple and that just loosens me up and I start talking to people randomly about random things.


Key point, indeed. I know some here may have "an aversion to alcohol", but make no mistake... A miracle liquid, indeed. Just know your limits, beforehand. Or it will not end well.

Perhaps, 30oz of beer alcohol 5%== should be your target, I think.
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Posted 10/22/16

TheGrandAlliance wrote:


EmperorGanishka wrote:

Your boss knows what's up. "Get a drink" He himself knows parties are a drag and are better when tipsy. I usually just hit up the bar have a couple and that just loosens me up and I start talking to people randomly about random things.


Key point, indeed. I know some here may have "an aversion to alcohol", but make no mistake... A miracle liquid, indeed. Just know your limits, beforehand. Or it will not end well.

Perhaps, 30oz of beer alcohol 5%== should be your target, I think.


The trick is to eat something before you head over to the bar. Usually at parties there are platters and finger food already there so get a little plate and start eating up then head over to the bar get yourself a beer and just relax then in no time you'd have racked up 3-4 beers and had visited the bog (toilet) at least once and helped yourself to more food. You can now AT YOUR OWN RISK go for some cocktails but if you're not much of a drinker just stick to beer and space them out of the duration and about 2 hours from time if you want you can have a cocktail. By the time you leave the alcohol should wear off slowly (this is pretty much my routine for parties which I don't really want to be at but don't want to disrespect the host)
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I'll tell ya once I get invited to one and go
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just get drunk yo

wait.. last time i did that i still haven't recovered

well fkme
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Bryaugh wrote:

I'm curious what does an extrovert get out of the experience?


"Fun": A concept lost on introverts. The idea of social partying is simply interacting; how you interact or WTF u are doing doesn't matter. Just being together (not alone) is the objective.


Why? Probably evolutionary reasons that favor group survival. But no matter...


This part kind of annoys me.

I stand-up jet-ski, I play basketball, football, bowling, and other sports. Of course videogames and anime...

I have tons of fun, and I do so mostly by myself. Parties are generally an annoyance. Talking about random stupid shit is not fun. I don't care about your kids, job, or life. Just like you don't care I'm learning to do backflips on a jetski.

Thats not me feeling I'm better or above other people, it's me just wanting to do my own thing and not be bothered. I have a great job, great hobbies and things I enjoy, absolutely no stress. I can't think of a better life.
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The worst is when you're with a friend and run into one of or a group of their friends and you just awkwardly sit/stand there completely silent feeling like a third wheel all of a sudden.

And alcohol can help. I rarely drink, and even when I do I doubt whether I've ever even gotten fully tipsy, but it helps when you're out and bored/stressed.


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I don't hate these gatherings but I have to be 1) in the mood for them 2) not exceed my limit. I pass up on 9/10 of them anyway.

There are things that really annoy me about these gatherings such as people giggling like idiots talking about dumb things, accompanied by valley girl accent. If it's a party with family and close friends, there's also going to be a lot of Tag-lish (tagalog english in really whiny valley girl accent; KILL ME). In these situations, right after the first drink, I usually just slowly back away or make up some shit like "I gotta be somewhere early tomorrow" or "I have to feed/walk my dogs".

Even when it's only amongst a group of friends, I'm usually the first one itching to go home. I don't dislike them, I just prefer to be elsewhere after a while. When I meet new people, I generally just try to be pleasant. I usually go with my girlfriend anyway so most of the time we end up in a corner somewhere with a drink and talking about when the fuck should we go back home or get out and head someplace else.
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Posted 10/23/16 , edited 10/23/16

1800STFU wrote:

This part kind of annoys me.


LoL, chalk one up on the /condescension board of mine. We haven't the pleasure of meeting yet; my writing style appears to be somewhat off putting to the ones who fail to understand the sub-text. It is done in the interest of combining largest amount of information into a small space. To avoid big /walloftext that no one wants to read anyway.

Well, you gettin' one now.


Personally, as I have stated here on other threads and elsewise, I consider everythingness to be an illusion. Furthermore, the concept of "introvert" and "extrovert" is somewhat lost on me... What is that? In the interest of entertaining this thread, I would propose that the so-called differences between the two may be closer then it appears.

"Fun", in the context of a social party, is generally considered by the "extrovert" to be spending time with others. Conversely, "introverts" prefer to go solo. This is the conventional definition of the terms. However, in reality, both sides want the same thing. Both are simply looking for some sort of "fulfillment of purpose". That is, they don't want to feel like they are "wasting time".

The problem is, the introvert doesn't know what the "fun" of the party is, because they see things only from the solo perspective. Alternatively, an extrovert doesn't know what the "fun" of engaging a solo activity is either. This lack of understanding only exists because each side fails to consider "how the other side feels".

If you are in a room with a bunch of extroverts, you must understand how they feel if you wish to interact with them. You don't have to like anything they do; but if you wish to do something useful and not flair about, it is so. The converse is also true. It is therefore this ability of sorts, that transcends the intro/extro divide.


What I am saying is, all you need to do is to put your life "in third person mode". Consider your current predicament (the party) as a level in a dating sim game. Is the party boring for you perhaps? Yes, but remember the mission; in the case of the game, the "sex" of course. However, in many cases, the mission of any party is to earn respect of others. Else, simply enjoying "life" by advancing your understanding of the universe. Even if an introvert finds a party "useless"; in reality, everything there could be considered in isolation, interesting. The room, the atmosphere thereof ; the taste of the food, the appearance of the guests. Their idle chatter. Everything, is indeed but a fantastical journey for the "enlightened introvert".

In other words, the "solo" activity of achieving a higher understanding of humanity, is the reason an introvert has to go to a party. You want to know why people do what they do: That is "your fun". And since only yourself can participate in that exploration, you have turned an otherwise "extroverted" activity into one that is personalized introverted for yourself.

However, as I stated in the post of mine you quoted, the usual introvert "don't get it". They instead take a short-sided approach and ask themselves "What do I get from it?". Indeed, the true way they fail to see is, "What *don't I get out of it?".


The world is filled with wonders... to close oneself up to the world, is to close ownself entirly, it is so...
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Golly gee for a bunch of introverts ya sure are an opinionative bunch.
Here's a thought maybe get off your damb computer, stop overthinking things, and polish your social skills Christ I know autistic people who get on better who'd a thunk right?
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