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Post Reply Introverts - Parties, how do you handle them?
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52infinity wrote:

Jesus Christ did you co-write Romeo and Juliet or is this really how you talk oh great wizard?


Oh, I am not the Wizard.... That would be forum user TheAncientOne.


Me far more powerful then such lowliness, of course...


Indeed it is so...

The Master Speaks...
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TheGrandAlliance wrote:


52infinity wrote:

Jesus Christ did you co-write Romeo and Juliet or is this really how you talk oh great wizard?


Oh, I am not the Wizard.... That would be forum user TheAncientOne.


Me far more powerful then such lowliness, of course...


Indeed it is so...

The Master Speaks...


Uhm, ok...
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If it is with friends and other nerds, it's no sweat. Parties with friends are awesome.

Parties with strangers and family... depends on the party.

Social gathering kind of party. Hang in the corner of the house playing games with the younger ones. It's not like anybody of the age above 13 will give a crap about video games, anime, ect. It's always football or old person giberish.

Wild parties. There better be weed, or im walking straight to the comic book store, or just plain back home.
I can tollerate anything when im stoned, and nobody can tollerate me for extended time. it's a double win for me:D
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I was invited to a party ... and I went. Yes, a real party, not the birthday cake and balloons kind, but an adult party. Ugh.

The food was delicious, there were waiters serving drinks and dainty appetizers but I wasn't able to enjoy any of it. It felt awkward, weird, and I had to talk to people I barely know.

I literally walked up to my boss, talked about getting food and just walked away in mid conversation, the cringe was real:

Co worker: you should say hi to your boss
Me: he looks like he is busy talking to someone
Co worker: yeah but you should really say hi to your boss
Me: walks up and shakes boss man's hand
Boss: hey, you should really get a drink
Me: yeah I'm trying to get some food, it's so hard to find
Boss: ...
Me: ..... /walks away (oh god)

UGHHHh yyyyyyy did I do that???


Parties.



Your mistake was not going to the party, but betraying who you are by saying hello to your boss. Fuck that. Do what feels right to you. Give him a nod or something, when you get the chance... whatever... something. Or not. Then, mention later, honestly, that you aren't that social, and didn't feel comfortable approaching him at the party.

Me, I'm introvert, have been to a ton of parties, and have enjoyed many of them.

I grab a drink or food and sit down and relax. Stick to myself. I sometimes loosen up after a couple drinks, and sometimes I just sit there having brief conversations with people who stop by wherever I've planted myself. Don't like it? Don't invite me....because that's the only way I can enjoy a party. If I'm out where there's karaoke and dancing, don't even try to force me to do either, because I will not hesitate to tell you to fuck off.


Dude, this is such good advice! I feel like a lot of people who are part of the Crunchyroll community could benefit from reading this. Not to generalize but for the most part the average user here is not a shining extrovert. The external pressure to betray your natural instincts just causes more anxiety. It's ok to just keep to yourself as long as you aren't rude about it.
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I usually procure food and drink, find a comfortable corner to hang out in, and chat with whomever is in the vicinity.
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It's normally OK when I know someone there, then I'll probably just talk to them most of the time. But If I was on my own then I'd probably be on my phone and eat , I'm terrible with small talk, especially with random people. My worst nightmare is my phone running out of battery during these situations.
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I don't go to parties, heck I don't celebrate my own b day, but if I were to go to a party then you'd most likely find me at the food table.
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We don't go to parties or we go home early I guess.
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52infinity wrote:

Golly gee for a bunch of introverts ya sure are an opinionative bunch.
Here's a thought maybe get off your damb computer, stop overthinking things, and polish your social skills Christ I know autistic people who get on better who'd a thunk right?


Lol. I don't think people who posted replies here necessarily see themselves as introverts. I think the label itself is stupid. Some people just have less social skills than others. I have no problems socializing and genuinely enjoy speaking with and learning from strangers but most of the time, I find no interest in going to most parties or staying longer than I have to. I also easily lose interest in conversations that I find boring and find the quickest way to end it without being a dick. Doesn't mean I dislike them, I just have less tolerance for these things than most. Some people enjoy spending long hours together with friends, I don't.
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I'm not very social, but I don't go to many party's thrown by people that aren't already old friends, so I don't have much of a problem. Definitely had the awkward times, though, but when I realize everyone is so drunk they don't know what's going on, I stop caring. Because they definitely are.

I'm always the guy who was making a playlist or stepping out back to look at the stars. Sometimes it's nice if you can find another introvert and casually talk to them, even if you don't know them - because they're in your shoes already. It's nice to have common ground and that's something I don't have with most "WOOOO PARTY!!!" get loud and throw up types.
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52infinity wrote:

Golly gee for a bunch of introverts ya sure are an opinionative bunch.
Here's a thought maybe get off your damb computer, stop overthinking things, and polish your social skills Christ I know autistic people who get on better who'd a thunk right?


Lol. I don't think people who posted replies here necessarily see themselves as introverts. I think the label itself is stupid. Some people just have less social skills than others. I have no problems socializing and genuinely enjoy speaking with and learning from strangers but most of the time, I find no interest in going to most parties or staying longer than I have to. I also easily lose interest in conversations that I find boring and find the quickest way to end it without being a dick. Doesn't mean I dislike them, I just have less tolerance for these things than most. Some people enjoy spending long hours together with friends, I don't.


I just assumed that a thread about an introvert asking for advice on how to not be an introvert would have introverts in it I mean if not then why are you here?

I'm totally an introvert and I work everyday to intrain myself not to be so I appreciate you activitely engaging me. Studies have shown that social interaction is vital for your psychological well being which is the only reason i'm social even though I can't stomach people.

Also introvert, and sorry about fragmenting my paragraphs.
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I am not really an introvert at party. I danced and socialized when I want too. The things only get awkard when I can't talk cleary with someone I met at the party
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I never went to a real party. The last real party I went to was a birthday party in the 7th grade. I really hate parties so much
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Either I stay home or I tough it out as long as I can and then grab some friends and run off into the night.
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