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Post Reply Do you hold back your personality in front of family and friends?
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Posted 10/24/16
Sigh, I try to be awesome instead
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No, what people see is me at home and in public if they like it, great! If they don't, whatever. Not gonna change who I am for a person or people as someone said in a earlier comment, too much work and not enough time for it.
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Yes, I do agree that I hold some of my personality back when im with family. In perticular, I hold back some of my "free-er" speech, and keep it more civilised, and less F-bombing. However, there are some of my personality that I won't change for anybody, such as my spontatious "do what I want because I can" attitude, or my competitive streak when playing games. Most definately, I will never hold back wanting to talk about contriversal topics. If people can't constantly question stuff, especially in this day and age where infomation changes so quickly, then they are gunna get lead along like sheep. Last I checked, we are humans, not walking balls of fluff with most of our inteligence bred out of us to make us easier to control.

Or are we?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ob3AeSsHIfc
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Posted 10/24/16
Family yes, freinds well they tread lightly.
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24 / F / Johnstown, PA, USA
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Yes. Expressing any measure of self-restraint shouldn't be considered tantamount to being "fake," "changing who you are," or some sort of "self-betrayal." There are extremes on either side of this proverbial see-saw. On one corner, you run the risk of being a wilting flower who allows everyone to walk over him. On the other hand, a refusal to back down may lead someone to being the person who runs rough-shod over the aforementioned flower without the slightest care.
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24 / M / CAN, ON
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Not really, but I do have this other world about me that not a lot of people really know about

When the time comes I won't be so shy about opening up entirely, it's more about me than it is what my actual personality is. That's really idiotic to say, but I feel that what I am is shown to people, but what I stand by is a whole new beast others have yet to experience
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Definitely do. When I grew up I was taught to behave, keep your mouth shut and obey your parents. If I did try to speak, or voice my opinions or concerns I usually got ignored. With my friends or dating someone I'm a totally different person I'll get loud, and find myself smiling and laughing about everything.

So like two different people. This is probably why I'm far more attached to my friends and relationships far more than my own family. Everyone's family is different, and I'm sure there are far more strict ones than mine was.
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Family? Nope.
(Though if aunts, uncles, cousins and the like are included, yes. I hold back.)
Friends? Mostly, yes.
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15 / M / California
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Not for my family, that is about the only time I actually be myself.
For my friends, totally.
Posted 10/24/16
A feeling that often arises as one grows up. To be seen more in families with overbearing parents whose actions tend to make the child feel constrained while growing up, so the "true" gets hidden merely as a measure to avoid an overbearing scrutiny from parental units or other stick up their ass adult types.

Part of not having to do this is feeling perfectly comfortable in one's own skin, confident in who you are, pros and cons with good awareness of both the light and dark within oneself.

That doesnt mean I go dropping f bombs around my 95 year old gram, though - part of wisdom is the ability to "carry oneself like a roman while in rome," but not attach to "attributes which make one a roman."
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Posted 10/24/16
the complete opposite, just in front of people I don't know
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Posted 10/24/16
sort of. primarily around my sister she is somewhat stupid or very ignorant though that doesn't excuse her from being sexist. and when ever i try and explain to her this she goes lalala men's day everyday lalala
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19 / M / オランダ Holland
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Posted 10/24/16
Yeah I do too, they don't know who I am and that's okay.
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18 / F / United States
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Posted 10/26/16
Family, yes. All the time. Except for my mom. I trust her with everything.

And I only have one friend, so I can't really hide from her. We wouldn't have a true friendship.
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23 / M / Richmond, Indiana
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Sometimes, yes
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