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I caught myself discussing this topic, so I figured I'd make a topic for it as well. We're well aware of male competition, but how aware are you of female competition? Females, unlike males, have a tendency to prefer more nonviolent strategies. Females tend to threaten with social isolation--keep in mind that for the social animal, isolation often led to death or significantly lowered chances for reproduction. Females also tend to be derogatory towards competitors in order to decrease their perceived value (increasing her own in doing so). This is why "slut-shaming" is much more profound among women than among men. Such strategies underlay the gossiping and catty behavior women are well known for.

So, women, what's your experience with female competition? Men, what have you witnessed of it?

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Only in movies...my best friend's wedding.
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I have witness the psychically damage women do to each other. Which I say is worst than physical violence the some men do. Now I have witness physical violence done by women. All I have to say is when men fight they is a certain code but with women there is no code.
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HAHAHAHAHA women tend to be more strategic when fighting. We tend to calculate each of our every move.
It's like playing chess in real life. lol.
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...I'm not entirely certain that I can remember any women, much less the petty squabbling that they engage in as a form of one-upmanship in order to allocate themselves the best breeding material, or more valuable mate.
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I do not possess any experience in this field. My social life has been void of prolonged interaction with more than one woman at a time. One reason for that would be the fact that I am an MTF transgender person, but I never went out of my way to seek female friendships. I'd say I am not a particularly social being.
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My girlfriend gets overly hostile to any other girl we happen to meet while playing games and it's kind of annoying.
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Well for starters, women are too emotional and shizz. Thus, there are so many misunderstandings and unnecessary issues being argued among women.


I'll admit, as I'm also female--- how we deal with problems is different from men.


Let's put it this way:

When two men comes down to a disagreement, they can exchange profanity while talking, throw a bit some cuss here and there then just result to physical contact. Usually after exerting all their efforts to conquer the fight, they'll cool off for some time (may take a few days or so) and they'll be friends again. (Not all tho but that happens for some)

But when women fight or have a disagreement, (again not ALL LADIES) there'll be countless exchange of name-calling, cussing and have repressed anger and maybe a little cat fight... or two or more cat fights, and it can be vicious. HAHAHAHA

It takes a while for us to heal, understand and give in but it will always depend on the situation.



But I guess it really depends on one's attitude on how to deal and resolve conflicts and issues. You can try to be the better person in a situation or circumstance. If it's not worth the argument, then don't waste your time and energy on it.



Just my opinion.
Again, not saying ALL.
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Yea it's pretty sad actually, but then I forget that I live in a city where women would gladly try to lay you out. Women here have no problem getting violent where I am. They weren't raised to be like these scheming, plotting whores who take to face book calling people out. If they see you on the streets, you better back it up.

You get older, you find out real quick words only go so far with most people, isolation is just weakness. It all started with a fight to the death, and it slowly became a battle of words, but in all reality can we not say that words have killed people as well?

I guess I never really surrounded myself with social competition. I usually spent my time around passive individuals who weren't so loud when it came to being social. I couldn't tell you how it works now, people like to talk behind others backs, people like to label others, people like to insult and ridicule. It's just entertainment at this point.
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2D girls are the best
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...I'm not entirely certain that I can remember any women, much less the petty squabbling that they engage in as a form of one-upmanship in order to allocate themselves the best breeding material, or more valuable mate.


You're not understanding--evolutionary explanation is for why matters are the way they not and not how they operate in the proximate. Humans have sex to reproduce and spread genes but that does not mean we actively think about that when we do, nor is it the individual motivation. The explanation is simply why such behaviors are more common to females over males--it was beneficial.

Never witnessing any catty behavior would be quite the feat.

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Outside of sports... I think I had 3 instances:

1. This girl (friend) started lightly insulting my appearance whilst she asked others wasn't she better (than me) in that aspect.

2. (Unbeknownst to me at the time) One of my best friends (at the time) crushed on every other guy, and it so happened that a few of those she crushed on liked me. (I'm assuming she found out due to misunderstanding seeing as we both essentially have the same name). She then started to sabotage my relationship w/ by then bf, and started rumours about me. We worked things out, but unfortunately it was never the same.

3. This girl at work I'd never talked to (nor need to, seeing as we just don't need to interact) started openly mocking me w/ her friends, and basically ignoring me but looking/glaring at me all the time too. Given that I'd done nothing (i was new), and as far as I know have not just had people dislike me out of nowhere, was fairly confused, but thought I was being overly self-conscious. Then one day as I was going through a door, and her out the other way, she stands right in front of me and stares down at me. (There's another door right next to it btw.. i wasn't in her way). All I could think of was how highschool it was of her... or even primitive.. behaviour of a 'lower'/less evolved lifeform for sure. Then several times after that, she made it very clear she did dislike me.
And since there aren't many females in the industry already (and the company), she's kinda isolated me from all the females and several guys of her/our age range. But whatever
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Thread needs more girl-on-girl... conflict.... ya.... conflict
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Yea it's pretty sad actually, but then I forget that I live in a city where women would gladly try to lay you out. Women here have no problem getting violent where I am. They weren't raised to be like these scheming, plotting whores who take to face book calling people out. If they see you on the streets, you better back it up.

You get older, you find out real quick words only go so far with most people, isolation is just weakness. It all started with a fight to the death, and it slowly became a battle of words, but in all reality can we not say that words have killed people as well?

I guess I never really surrounded myself with social competition. I usually spent my time around passive individuals who weren't so loud when it came to being social. I couldn't tell you how it works now, people like to talk behind others backs, people like to label others, people like to insult and ridicule. It's just entertainment at this point.


Female aggression is actually quite interesting.

In the case of female-female aggression its more commonly motivated by threats to reputation--especially insinuations of promiscuity. Questioning infidelity as well as competition for high status mates are likely to bring out the female aggressor. Although, obviously, violent behavior is more common within certain environments versus others. It's multi-factored.

I never spent time around people, which is why I have such an active interest in understanding the behavior of others. I do not intrinsically comprehend it. I think it's quite interesting--entertaining at times as well.

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