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Title Correction: As a writer, do you suffer from low self esteem and anxiety?


I do. I am always worried my stories are not good enough and suck terribly. When I post my story on a writing site, I think was it the right move. I know I am not the greatest writer in the world but it is hard to have faith in my writing abilities. I am terrible at showing not telling, my tenses are screwy, my grammar and syntax is bad, and I can't edit it for some odd reason. Plus I am never able to get past chapter five. Whenever I get criticism on my rough draft, I get so annoyed because I wish I was better. I refuse to reread my work because I'll just get upset at my faults. Maybe I am too hard on myself but I can not stop. I just want my writing to be already perfect. I envy some of the writers on Wattpad and Fictionpress because they are so good while I'm not. I just wish I didn't have to feel this way. I don't want to be arrogant about my writing just have faith in my abilities. I posted a story on this Wattpad without editing it because I was so nervous and desperate. Now I am worried that I made a mistake. What if someone reads it and realizes so many errors, it's embarrassing. I managed to get one person to add it to their reading list but I am still afraid. I think about maybe I should give up on writing because I am such a coward. But I love writing too much to do that. I just want to be able to believe that I can be a good writer and stop being so scared.


Does anybody feel like this? How do you cope with it? What shall I do? Am I silly for feeling this way?


If you are not a writer, do you have any sort of advice for me and people like me?
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I do. I am always worried my stories are not good enough and suck terribly. When I post my story on a writing site, I think was it the right move. I know I am not the greatest writer in the world but it is hard to have faith in my writing abilities. I am terrible at showing not telling, my tenses are screwy, my grammar and syntax is bad, and I can't edit it for some odd reason. Plus I am never able to get past chapter five. Whenever I get criticism on my rough draft, I get so annoyed because I wish I was better. I refuse to reread my work because I'll just get upset at my faults. Maybe I am too hard on myself but I can not stop. I just want my writing to be already perfect. I envy some of the writers on Wattpad and Fictionpress because they are so good while I'm not. I just wish I didn't have to feel this way. I don't want to be arrogant about my writing just have faith in my abilities. I posted a story on this Wattpad without editing it because I was so nervous and desperate. Now I am worried that I made a mistake. What if someone reads it and realizes so many errors, it's embarrassing. I managed to get one person to add it to their reading list but I am still afraid. I think about maybe I should give up on writing because I am such a coward. But I love writing too much to do that. I just want to be able to believe that I can be a good writer and stop being so scared.


Does anybody feel like this? How do you cope with it? What shall I do? Am I silly for feeling this way?


If you are not a writer, do you have any sort of advice for me and people like me?


General Discussion is not the right place for advice, or discussion focused on being a writer. We have Creative Corner for that, so I've moved this there. I think you know that.
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qualeshia3 wrote:

I do. I am always worried my stories are not good enough and suck terribly. When I post my story on a writing site, I think was it the right move. I know I am not the greatest writer in the world but it is hard to have faith in my writing abilities. I am terrible at showing not telling, my tenses are screwy, my grammar and syntax is bad, and I can't edit it for some odd reason. Plus I am never able to get past chapter five. Whenever I get criticism on my rough draft, I get so annoyed because I wish I was better. I refuse to reread my work because I'll just get upset at my faults. Maybe I am too hard on myself but I can not stop. I just want my writing to be already perfect. I envy some of the writers on Wattpad and Fictionpress because they are so good while I'm not. I just wish I didn't have to feel this way. I don't want to be arrogant about my writing just have faith in my abilities. I posted a story on this Wattpad without editing it because I was so nervous and desperate. Now I am worried that I made a mistake. What if someone reads it and realizes so many errors, it's embarrassing. I managed to get one person to add it to their reading list but I am still afraid. I think about maybe I should give up on writing because I am such a coward. But I love writing too much to do that. I just want to be able to believe that I can be a good writer and stop being so scared.


Does anybody feel like this? How do you cope with it? What shall I do? Am I silly for feeling this way?


If you are not a writer, do you have any sort of advice for me and people like me?


General Discussion is not the right place for advice, or discussion focused on being a writer. We have Creative Corner for that, so I've moved this there. I think you know that.


*sighs* Do you have any advice for me or no?
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Am I happy with the first draft of a story I write?
Very rarely, if it is a short story, and not at all for longer ones.

I can rewrite scenes 10 or 20 times to find the right way to progress and sometimes decide to abandon that element of the story altogether if it isn't working.

Am I critical of my own work?
Definitely. I don't know any authors who can publish a story without any self-doubt about the quality of their work.


From what you describe above, my biggest piece of advice for you is to forget perfection. If you are so hung up on getting a story right first time you will never be an author. Once you abandon the idea of perfection, the next step is to accept your failings and learn from them. Only when you can read your own work and correct your errors or take constructive criticism from your pre-readers and editors will you be able to improve.


If you are embarrassed about making beginner mistakes in your writing and that affecting your future work then I would suggest setting up a new pen name. Have all of your early work written under one name, which will become associated with all of your errors as you improve. Then move to a new pen name (or your real name) when you are happy with the quality of your writing. The internet gives you an opportunity for anonymity that budding authors of previous centuries never had; make use of it.


Finally, if you struggle to write more than 5 chapters of a story, take advantage of that fact. Plan your stories to last for only 5 chapters (or a certain number of words). You will get a sense of accomplishment that you have completed a story rather than the dissatisfaction of abandoning a project part way through. Over time your story length will probably increase but you shouldn't aim to run before you can walk - even Tolkien started out with short stories before he wrote The Lord of the Rings.
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Am I happy with the first draft of a story I write?
Very rarely, if it is a short story, and not at all for longer ones.

I can rewrite scenes 10 or 20 times to find the right way to progress and sometimes decide to abandon that element of the story altogether if it isn't working.

Am I critical of my own work?
Definitely. I don't know any authors who can publish a story without any self-doubt about the quality of their work.


From what you describe above, my biggest piece of advice for you is to forget perfection. If you are so hung up on getting a story right first time you will never be an author. Once you abandon the idea of perfection, the next step is to accept your failings and learn from them. Only when you can read your own work and correct your errors or take constructive criticism from your pre-readers and editors will you be able to improve.


If you are embarrassed about making beginner mistakes in your writing and that affecting your future work then I would suggest setting up a new pen name. Have all of your early work written under one name, which will become associated with all of your errors as you improve. Then move to a new pen name (or your real name) when you are happy with the quality of your writing. The internet gives you an opportunity for anonymity that budding authors of previous centuries never had; make use of it.


Finally, if you struggle to write more than 5 chapters of a story, take advantage of that fact. Plan your stories to last for only 5 chapters (or a certain number of words). You will get a sense of accomplishment that you have completed a story rather than the dissatisfaction of abandoning a project part way through. Over time your story length will probably increase but you shouldn't aim to run before you can walk - even Tolkien started out with short stories before he wrote The Lord of the Rings.


Thanks so much.
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Title Correction: As a writer, do you suffer from low self esteem and anxiety?


I do. I am always worried my stories are not good enough and suck terribly. When I post my story on a writing site, I think was it the right move. I know I am not the greatest writer in the world but it is hard to have faith in my writing abilities. I am terrible at showing not telling, my tenses are screwy, my grammar and syntax is bad, and I can't edit it for some odd reason. Plus I am never able to get past chapter five. Whenever I get criticism on my rough draft, I get so annoyed because I wish I was better. I refuse to reread my work because I'll just get upset at my faults. Maybe I am too hard on myself but I can not stop. I just want my writing to be already perfect. I envy some of the writers on Wattpad and Fictionpress because they are so good while I'm not. I just wish I didn't have to feel this way. I don't want to be arrogant about my writing just have faith in my abilities. I posted a story on this Wattpad without editing it because I was so nervous and desperate. Now I am worried that I made a mistake. What if someone reads it and realizes so many errors, it's embarrassing. I managed to get one person to add it to their reading list but I am still afraid. I think about maybe I should give up on writing because I am such a coward. But I love writing too much to do that. I just want to be able to believe that I can be a good writer and stop being so scared.


Does anybody feel like this? How do you cope with it? What shall I do? Am I silly for feeling this way?


If you are not a writer, do you have any sort of advice for me and people like me?





Well I usually suffer from writer's block but none of those you've mentioned so far, thank goodness.

I'm often times too lazy to write down my ideas or whatever's cooking inside my head.
Sometimes, it can be my lack of inspiration to imagine better setting or a good plot to go around with.
Rarely, something's bothering me or one thing is hindering me from doing so.


It's not that I think I'm good at writing--- because I honestly don't feel that way. If I get compliments, I'm thankful. If I do get a negative feedback on how I write, may it be in terms of my writing style, originality, eloquence of the English language, sophistication, grammar and right sentencing and even the pace of the story... I treat them all as constructive criticism. I don't really get offended by it, but I get sad sometimes reading those messages. (some are a bit harsh lol but that's life)

I make sure to leave room for improvement, in all aspects of writing. That way, you can grow and become a better writer in the future.

Learning, polishing and molding your writing skills--- these are never-ending processes and we... as self-proclaimed writers, amateur writers and whatever type of writer you, I and we've classified ourselves as, must be accept these facts in order for us to grow and mature in this direction.


My opinion tho. :)





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qualeshia3 wrote:

Title Correction: As a writer, do you suffer from low self esteem and anxiety?


I do. I am always worried my stories are not good enough and suck terribly. When I post my story on a writing site, I think was it the right move. I know I am not the greatest writer in the world but it is hard to have faith in my writing abilities. I am terrible at showing not telling, my tenses are screwy, my grammar and syntax is bad, and I can't edit it for some odd reason. Plus I am never able to get past chapter five. Whenever I get criticism on my rough draft, I get so annoyed because I wish I was better. I refuse to reread my work because I'll just get upset at my faults. Maybe I am too hard on myself but I can not stop. I just want my writing to be already perfect. I envy some of the writers on Wattpad and Fictionpress because they are so good while I'm not. I just wish I didn't have to feel this way. I don't want to be arrogant about my writing just have faith in my abilities. I posted a story on this Wattpad without editing it because I was so nervous and desperate. Now I am worried that I made a mistake. What if someone reads it and realizes so many errors, it's embarrassing. I managed to get one person to add it to their reading list but I am still afraid. I think about maybe I should give up on writing because I am such a coward. But I love writing too much to do that. I just want to be able to believe that I can be a good writer and stop being so scared.


Does anybody feel like this? How do you cope with it? What shall I do? Am I silly for feeling this way?


If you are not a writer, do you have any sort of advice for me and people like me?





Well I usually suffer from writer's block but none of those you've mentioned so far, thank goodness.

I'm often times too lazy to write down my ideas or whatever's cooking inside my head.
Sometimes, it can be my lack of inspiration to imagine better setting or a good plot to go around with.
Rarely, something's bothering me or one thing is hindering me from doing so.


It's not that I think I'm good at writing--- because I honestly don't feel that way. If I get compliments, I'm thankful. If I do get a negative feedback on how I write, may it be in terms of my writing style, originality, eloquence of the English language, sophistication, grammar and right sentencing and even the pace of the story... I treat them all as constructive criticism. I don't really get offended by it, but I get sad sometimes reading those messages. (some are a bit harsh lol but that's life)

I make sure to leave room for improvement, in all aspects of writing. That way, you can grow and become a better writer in the future.

Learning, polishing and molding your writing skills--- these are never-ending processes and we... as self-proclaimed writers, amateur writers and whatever type of writer you, I and we've classified ourselves as, must be accept these facts in order for us to grow and mature in this direction.


My opinion tho. :)




Trust me, feeling this way is the worst. It's like it's holding you back from doing what you love to do. I wish I had more writer's blocks than some crappy low self esteem.
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I often write stories in a notebook but I never share them, mere stories like mine have no high standing in this world. The story might be good or unique, but just a glimpse of a better story written by someone other then me makes me feel like mine can't even reach the sight of the pedestal.

I guess it all goes down to self-esteem huh?

I wouldn't say it's a race of which story is "Better" but I just can't even compare my creations to the making of others, they are simply unreachable to the likes of me.

Heh, I made it sound rather depressing but that's how I see it.
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I often write stories in a notebook but I never share them, mere stories like mine have no high standing in this world. The story might be good or unique, but just a glimpse of a better story written by someone other then me makes me feel like mine can't even reach the sight of the pedestal.

I guess it all goes down to self-esteem huh?

I wouldn't say it's a race of which story is "Better" but I just can't even compare my creations to the making of others, they are simply unreachable to the likes of me.

Heh, I made it sound rather depressing but that's how I see it.


I can somehow sympathize with you on that.
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It's funny to me you think like this.

If you want to get better at something, practice makes perfect right? I thought you may have told that to a few people in your life.

I'm horrible at writing, but that doesn't bother me at all, all we can do is better ourselves to reach that level of quality. Do you know how many times I have read through my work only to re write it another 5 times before I think it's ok. Do I think my work is good enough? Who cares, I write something that I enjoy, something that means something to me. Maybe one day people can see that, and that's all we need to do in order to strive for something.

You will get feedback negative or positive, but we need to expect this, not just for ourselves, but for everyone. The only thing we can do to find a positive outcome is to stop talking about it. Just do it , just write it and keep writing until you finish.

Your ideas, think positive in the middle of despair, don't just sit there spending more time asking someone, just write and learn. Sometimes we have to be the one to teach a lesson

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- yes, everyone does.
- Practice makes perfect

etc. etc.

You know, just... read the things that you really like (or watch the shows that you really like; don't just study one medium for writing help). Figure out what about them you like, - what you like, not what other people like - and figure out how to make your own story more like that.
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Thanks so much guys!
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qualeshia3 wrote:

*sighs* Do you have any advice for me or no?


I'm sorry. I don't. But I"m glad to see others were helpful.
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I personally don't really write stories, but I work on my essays to the point I'm satisfied that I did a thorough and good job. I'm not a very good writer so I have to inject more effort into anything I write to make it perfect, and I often find myself scrapping things because I don't think it's very good or I have difficulty working with the idea or conveying it in a way that I want it to be.

Anyways, if I were you I would exercise my writing muscle since the more that you write the easier it is to do a better job with less effort. Once you get a grasp of the basics and how to approach writing things, it should become easier to write good stories.
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qualeshia3 wrote:

*sighs* Do you have any advice for me or no?


I'm sorry. I don't. But I"m glad to see others were helpful.


Thanks.
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