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I have been dating 3 months now, and I don't get more than a hug when he leaves, even though I try to instigate a cuddle, or like, something
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I hug people I'm not dating, so I'd hope you'd get more than that pretty immediately. Couple of weeks.
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Posted 11/1/16
I'm in a relationship and both me and my significant other hug other people all the time. If that's all you are getting after this long I think your boyfriend has some major commitment issues.
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Posted 11/1/16 , edited 11/1/16
He's probably a little shy or looking for the right moment but he's having trouble. It's a tricky thing for guys sometimes. We don't want to accidentally force ourselves on yall per say. My suggestion sneak in a few kisses when he least expects it. You're the woman here, you've got a lot more freedom in what you can do. If he's really up for it, eventually he'll reciprocate your affection


If not, knock em out and tie em to your bed. Show that lil b**** who's boss. Break out the hot wax. Whip em. Spit in his face. Make him love you ಠ_ಠ
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Posted 11/1/16 , edited 29 days ago

Ocale wrote:

39 years

I think we just heard from the OP's father.
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Posted 11/1/16

iriomote wrote:


Ocale wrote:

39 years

I think we just heard from the OP's father.


I don't have a father
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Posted 11/1/16

Vahvi wrote:

He's probably a little shy or looking for the right moment but he's having trouble. It's a tricky thing for guys sometimes. We don't want to accidentally force ourselves on yall per say. My suggestion sneak in a few kisses when he least expects it. You're the woman here, you've got a lot more freedom in what you can do. If he's really up for it, eventually he'll reciprocate your affection


If not, knock em out and tie em to your bed. Show that lil b**** who's boss. Break out the hot wax. Whip em. Spit in his face. Make him love you ಠ_ಠ


sticks and stones may break my bones but whips and chains excite me <-- awkward blush
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I don't have a father

I can sort of relate: I disowned mine.

At any rate, my worthless internet advice would be to try bringing it up with him (the boyfriend) at some point. Three months does seem a bit strange, so he probably has some reason for his hesitance and, since your needs for physical affection aren't being met, it'll keep bothering you till you know the reason for it.

At that point you'll know whether it's something you can work through as a couple or whether it's time to seek out other fish in the sea.
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Posted 11/1/16 , edited 11/1/16
I agree with Vahvi that it sounds like the guy is being shy or holding back because he is afraid to push you. If you don't want to confront the issue directly, arrange a situation where you are sat next to each other (movies or watching TV perhaps) and cuddle up to him. If you do it once, and you are both okay with it, he should get the message that it is okay to move beyond simple hugs.

If he continues with just the hugs after that then he is either clueless or not ready to commit. Either way you would have to confront him more directly to get a straight answer.
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Posted 11/1/16
Yeah, I used to be that guy. He's probably anxious and isn't used to having a girlfriend. You'll have to be a bit pushy with him in order to get him comfortable with it, but make the first move and I promise he'll come out of that shell.
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Posted 11/3/16

redokami wrote:

I have been dating 3 months now, and I don't get more than a hug when he leaves, even though I try to instigate a cuddle, or like, something


So talk to him about it, I can't force it for you.
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Posted 11/3/16
Maybe you should ask him if he's into you. What would be the point in going on if he's not?
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Posted 11/3/16
Maybe he's really careful so that he won't overdo it.

But your his girlfriend, you can subtly be suggestive for more than just a hug lol

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Posted 11/4/16
If you want something, ask for it. Nothing is sexier than having your girlfriend (or wife) ask you for physical contact.

Most likely he is just bad at reading "signals". And if he has a legitimate hang-up, then you're better off having a conversation about it than just guessing.

So use words. You've nothing to lose, and a lot to gain.
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