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Posted 11/10/16 , edited 11/11/16

bernardwheelerjr wrote:


zangeif123 wrote:


OnePunchJoJo wrote:
Honestly don't understand the point of going through a "marriage" ritual. If two people love each other, what's the point of getting piece of paper for it except to f**k the guys over?


Look at the misogynist we got here.

I've been happily married for 11 years. But everyone is different and marriage isn't always in the cards. I'm not going to knock someone who decides to be alone so don't act snotty towards those who desires marriage.

We all have different goals and ambitions. I have several older friends in their 60's who are single, never married and super happy with life. Some are divorced with kids, and others like me who are happily married and feel like we won the comic lottery.


I absolutely hate it when people throw slurs like misogynist, misandrist, racist, ect around like monkeys flinging shit. It cheapens the impact those terms deserve. He might be a bit biased but to say he was misogynist?
According to marrion Webster:
Definition of misogyny
: a hatred of women

Distrustful or biased maybe, jaded definitely. Hatred? Nope. Therefore you cheapen the word by using it as a slur. Kinda like how people throw Natzie around every time they don't agree with another person's view.


I didn't cheapened the word. Your Webster Dictionary left out:
- dislike, or mistrust of women, or prejudice against women.

With a post like that it's like saying women are succubus.

He said:
"what's the point of getting piece of paper for it except to f**k the guys over?"

That's an ignorant and unhealthy view on marriage.
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survive
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I'd rather not be single, but I have to accept reality
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They're also more controlling, and tend to only want a guy for their status or body.


I dont see the issue with that? Dont know much about status if the idea is that women are materialistic which i dont think so. But nothing wrong with going for sex appeal though, thats normal for both sexes i think. Not to say you cannot be you or see yourself as worthless,i tend to think humans have different things they are good at, despite if they are obese or not
Posted 11/11/16
I'm in a relationship. However, neither of us have any desire to be married to anyone.
I have nothing against it for those who wish to be married, it's just that I (myself) do not see the purpose of it (neither does my girlfriend).
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Married but if we ever divorced I would be happily single for the rest of my life, since people and relationships are just a hassle and I couldn't be bothered to get involved with someone again.
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I happen to be married, but I had to turn down a lot of people for relationships (or even just casual bullshit) because it just wasn't worth it for me. I think if you find someone you love and feel inspired by, go for it. If not, that's fine. I just don't think every last decision has to be a big social statement or anything. Just do you... and maybe someone hot, if they come along.
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In all honesty i have no clue why i'm expressing my opinion to people i don't knew anything about. but i guess i'm looking for something? its the only reason humans truly reach out right? Were all different in our own ways. sure theirs pros/ cons about marriage.. but why does it matter? every comment here is either
1. I'm married and couldn't be happier.
2. completely given up on a human relationship with another person.
3. blaming it on society or government.
Love has nothing to do with luck, or the government or anything like that. Love is true. and pure. It has nothing to do with getting something good from it. the only reason we should ever love is to just love. to care for someone so deeply nothing else matters. you cant say that all women or men are the same. only searching for a way up. true i believe a lot of people may try to get married for some kind of personal gain; comfort, sex, money, whatever the case. but... if i ever find love. i only want it to be because i could't see myself living without that person. that other someone has to love me mutually just as much.
So whether your male or female. if you love someone.. make sure its for them.. not yourself.. make sure its for love.
Again no clue why i'm sharing this... Guess i want to find something like love?
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ChappyAmerican wrote:
every comment here is either
1. I'm married and couldn't be happier.

Just so you know, I could definitely be happier. I think people are inadequately expressing what marriage is. I think they mean to express the happiness of life in spite of the ups and downs of marriage, because of love. Or they're humblebragging about married life... which I see all the time online so it's not surprising! Haha!

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2. completely given up on a human relationship with another person.
3. blaming it on society or government.
Love has nothing to do with luck, or the government or anything like that. Love is true. and pure. It has nothing to do with getting something good from it. the only reason we should ever love is to just love. to care for someone so deeply nothing else matters. you cant say that all women or men are the same. only searching for a way up. true i believe a lot of people may try to get married for some kind of personal gain; comfort, sex, money, whatever the case. but... if i ever find love. i only want it to be because i could't see myself living without that person. that other someone has to love me mutually just as much.
So whether your male or female. if you love someone.. make sure its for them.. not yourself.. make sure its for love.
Again no clue why i'm sharing this... Guess i want to find something like love?

This. Exactly right. If it's not about love, there's no point. It's not about society or government (even though it has been in previous eras), it's about personal connection and love. A lot of the other benefits that were once associated with the institution of marriage (social status, money, sex) are now accessible by other means, so it is not necessary for those things; to me, it is now primarily a way to express love and commitment. You seem to have a good attitude towards the modern conception of marriage and I think marriage would suit you.
Posted 11/11/16
i intend to stay single.
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I always thought I 'd be married . . .

. . . never had that happen yet.

About the time I hit 35 I figured that I'd never be rich enough or good looking enough to have a wife . . . most of the emphasis on the being rich part. Some of the guys I work with could break a mirror and they have wives . . . usually at least two , one at a time. I just saw most of my old friends getting divorced after five or ten or fifteen years and figured I didn't need that crap either, SO, I stopped looking.

The other thing I have going for me... *heh* I have pathetic taste in women. I usually find these cheeky charismatic gals that turn into ginormous flakes as soon as you affirm that you have any romantic or emotional feelings for them and I just don't put up with that crap.
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Posted 11/11/16
i guess the real question that everyone wants to know is how, huh? xD
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Closed because OP nuked.
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