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Do you resent a parent (or both) in some capacity?

If you no longer do: Were you able to forgive them at some point? What helped you get over the bitterness towards them?

As for me, I currently resent both my parents a bit for things said and done (more so my Mother)--but I imagine once I move out I'll be able to reconcile those issues and mend some of my broken trust.

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I do. My parents are conservative folks in their late 40s who are not willing to educate themselves on matters that Western society has started perceiving in a completely different manner than it used to while they were young. They firmly believe that LGBT individuals are disgusting and do not want anything to do with them. Whenever the topic comes up, they have been shown to consistently ridicule the previously mentioned individuals, stating that every form of gender presentation/similar activities that do not fit the cis/straight narrative are inherently wrong.

Fortunately, they don't happen to be xenophobic or racist. Back in good old Yugoslavia, it didn't matter if someone was Serbian, Croatian or Bosnian. Yugoslavia encouraged diversity: members of the Orthodox Church, Catholic Church and Muslims all living together. That seems to have translated to behaviour when interacting with people of nationalities and religions other than the ones I mentioned.

The problem I face is that I am transgender. My parents would never ever be accepting of my gender identity. Thanks to them, I am unable to pursue treatment for the condition called gender dysphoria. Also, the part of Croatia I live in does not have any medical facilities that would allow me to get on HRT (hormone replacement therapy). I will have to wait until I move to Germany.

I hope that explains why I resent my parents.
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Nalaniel wrote:

I do. My parents are conservative folks in their late 40s who are not willing to educate themselves on matters that Western society has started perceiving in a completely different manner than it used to while they were young. They firmly believe that LGBT individuals are disgusting and do not want anything to do with them. Whenever the topic comes up, they have been shown to consistently ridicule the previously mentioned individuals, stating that every form of gender presentation/similar activities that do not fit the cis/straight narrative are inherently wrong.

Fortunately, they don't happen to be xenophobic or racist. Back in good old Yugoslavia, it didn't matter if someone was Serbian, Croatian or Bosnian. Yugoslavia encouraged diversity: members of the Orthodox Church, Catholic Church and Muslims all living together. That seems to have translated to behaviour when interacting with people of nationalities and religions other than the ones I mentioned.

The problem I face is that I am transgender. My parents would never ever be accepting of my gender identity. Thanks to them, I am unable to pursue treatment for the condition called gender dysphoria. Also, the part of Croatia I live in does not have any medical facilities that would allow me to get on HRT (hormone replacement therapy). I will have to wait until I move to Germany.

I hope that explains why I resent my parents.


Yeah, your folks sound a lot like mine. Your reasoning is understandable. I have somewhat similar reasons for my resentment. My parents do not additionally understand mental illness and neurological conditions--have said particularly nasty and ignorant things. I actually hide my autism and my other disorders around them (as much that can be anyway). I have been discreetly going to therapy without their awareness.

"What's the...weighted vest for?"
"It's for stress, Mother. Stress."

I figure it'll be safe to reveal those things to them when I'm no longer in a house they can ridicule me and facefuck me with vitamins and supplements thinking it'll cure my autism and symptoms.



They'll get over it, I'd just rather not have to deal with it more than I have been. After I do reveal those matters, it'll be up to them how much I can mend because I intend to at least attempt reconciliation. I'd just prefer having the option of hanging up rather than expecting them to hound me around the house.

I have enough to move out to a nice condominium within half a year. Dealt with it this long, so a little bit longer is bearable. I'm fortunate to have understanding and supportive younger siblings.
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Definitely used to.
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No
My parents have done their best for me and I appreciate it
Just wish I could win the lottery or something so they wouldn't have to work every single Day anymore
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I wouldn't say I resented my parents ever in a time in my life.
I mean we haven't always seen eye to eye but they always have had my back.
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At times I do, but I forgive them because they're my parents.
I love them dearly.
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I did resent my father for not being in my life at all or helping out my mother look after me and my siblings. As I grew older I decided to forgive him, he is still my father after all, being angry at him wouldn't solve anything.
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Mine isn't really that bad. I resented my parents for passing on the "go bald at a young age gene" to me. Got made fun of in high school over it, but at least I look okay for a bald dude now. I got over it after high school pretty quickly though.
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My dad defiantly. I love him but he's not the best kind of person. I pretty much based my life on being the exact opposite of him. I remember him telling me a couple years ago that he was a great father since I turned out good. I didn't say anything and let him have his made-up victory. However in his twilight years he's mellowed out.
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I'm a teenager, of course I do.

Though it's actually more "dislike" than "resent."
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I was the goodie two shoes kid, my older brothers would talk shit about my parents but I always defended them. They aren't perfect parents but they've worked really hard and given up a lot for me, so I'm very grateful for my luck in that respect.
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i think we should learn to count our blessings
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Yes towards my dad mostly.. he's not exactly a good role model but I love him
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