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Posted 4/24/17 , edited 4/24/17
My grandparents took me in when I was a child I respect them.
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I did for a few years but now realize that life isn't perfect and that despite all the issues she was an awesome mom
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not at all.
i feel 100% blessed
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Ten years ago I would have said yes. Now, not at all. I was the first born, thus, the experimental child. I got the harsher punishment, and didn't get to do a lot of the things my younger siblings did. However, I'm also the most independent, and thankful for that.
Posted 4/24/17
I kinda clash with my mom but don't resent her.
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I kind of resent my mother, mainly because she didnt care for me when i was little. She only cared for my sister. Nowdays i still visit her ofcourse, she is still my mother.
But i dont like it as she drinks a bit too much and when she does she gets so god damn annoying.
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Yeah occasionally
Not really for the way they raise me, but for things they say sometimes. I struggle a lot with self confidence, and they can be pretty insensitive. For some reason, they always choose the times when I'm at my lowest to tell me they don't support my dreams, or approve of my relationships or think I'm socially crippled. I remember a few months after graduation, I was having trouble finding work and felt pretty shitty and started wondering if I had made a mistake choosing my major. My dad decided to offhandedly blame me and my brother going to college as reasons for why he's never owned a new car. Thanks dad. Glad to know I mean so much to you.
They've done all they can to provide for me, but I don't feel like they know how to connect with their kids as people.
Posted 4/25/17
No resentment i love both my parents I miss my dad it really hard especially on fathers day.
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Posted 4/25/17

Nalaniel wrote:

I do. My parents are conservative folks in their late 40s who are not willing to educate themselves on matters that Western society has started perceiving in a completely different manner than it used to while they were young. They firmly believe that LGBT individuals are disgusting and do not want anything to do with them. Whenever the topic comes up, they have been shown to consistently ridicule the previously mentioned individuals, stating that every form of gender presentation/similar activities that do not fit the cis/straight narrative are inherently wrong.

Fortunately, they don't happen to be xenophobic or racist. Back in good old Yugoslavia, it didn't matter if someone was Serbian, Croatian or Bosnian. Yugoslavia encouraged diversity: members of the Orthodox Church, Catholic Church and Muslims all living together. That seems to have translated to behaviour when interacting with people of nationalities and religions other than the ones I mentioned.

The problem I face is that I am transgender. My parents would never ever be accepting of my gender identity. Thanks to them, I am unable to pursue treatment for the condition called gender dysphoria. Also, the part of Croatia I live in does not have any medical facilities that would allow me to get on HRT (hormone replacement therapy). I will have to wait until I move to Germany.

I hope that explains why I resent my parents.


They were in different Era, we all came from different Era and its harder to change their belief what they were taught are immoral.
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Posted 4/25/17 , edited 4/25/17

JanusCascade wrote:

They were in different Era, we all came from different Era and its harder to change their belief what they were taught are immoral.


While that is true, I am confident that they lack the willingness to change the preconceived notions that they believe in. I have confronted them multiple times on the topic of homosexuality, but they chose to ignore the facts and arguments I presented and opt for directly attacking me. Too many times have I been threatened with being thrown out of the house as penalty for being homosexual, which is an assumption they came up with because I brought up the topic in the first place. They are very unreasonable people.
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Posted 4/25/17
There is a phrase in my family: "You have to love family, but you don't have to like them."

My dad is incredibly racist and bigoted, and my mom has been married 5 times and is awful with money; forcing me to get a job the day I turned 16 just so we could afford electricity but not hot water nor cable/internet.
I resent a lot of things that they have done. Keeping me from computers until I was 13 (2008) because they were considered 'adult tools' stunted my ability to understand the tech. I still type very poorly, I'm a terrible PC gamer, and entering high school I had no idea what a Tab was - I just opened new windows. I still get jabbed a lot for things like how sheltered I was out in the country, and not knowing tech is one of those things.

I'm a fast learner however and I have adapted over the years to be able to see past my dad's blatant racism and my mother's bad spending habits and guy preferences. I wouldn't be who I am without some of their guidance after all. So while they are hit and miss people and I resent some of their actions, I can't be unhappy on the whole. They taught me the hard way that you don't need a lot to be happy in life, so maybe they did something right by me after all.
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