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Post Reply Dating and infertility
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Posted 11/14/16 , edited 11/25/16
We all know that dating is a rather complex process that involves many aspects of human life. When a person falls in love, they most likely do not know the individual they want to be in a romantic relationship with all too good. That means many things stay hidden until the both of them decide to think and talk about certain topics. That is how it usually goes. Specific thoughts do not occur until after two people spend a certain amount of time with each other.

If you were to find out that your significant other was infertile, how would you react? Would that be an enormous deal breaker? Do you think a person is obligated to tell you their medical history before you actually start dating?

Edit: awkward, exclusive terminology such as "girlfriend" has been replaced by gender-neutral terms that are appropriate for a wider audience. I deeply apologise for the confusion this might have caused.
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I always have them fill out a survey before courtship on any level, if they lie on any part of it, it may be grounds for dismissal.
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Would be nice. Then I don't need to worry about passing down my genes. My damn genes die with me!
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Nalaniel wrote:

We all know that dating is a rather complex process that involves many aspects of human life. When a person falls in love, they most likely do not know the individual they want to be in a romantic relationship with all too good. That means many things stay hidden until the both of them decide to think and talk about certain topics. That is how it usually goes. Specific thoughts do not occur until after two people spend a certain amount of time with each other.

If you were to find out that your girlfriend was infertile, how would you react? Would that be an enormous deal breaker? Do you think a girl is obligated to tell you her medical history before you actually start dating?


It depends on the situation and it may in fact cause a breakup, not due to the infertility though. I promise all girls I date total honesty and deliver hoping the same from them. If a girl just doesn't tell me for fear how I'll look at her or react it wouldn't bother me in the slightest; but if a girl told me repeatedly that after we get married we should plan on having lots of babies knowing all too well it was a lie, those headgames are another story and a trust issue. These days there nothing wrong with adoption, surrogates, implantation or just not having kids at all. The headgames just aren't a necessity and destroy trust quickly.
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test tube baby
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I would be okay with it, having been through chemotherapy my soldiers may no longer be any good, won't know till we reach that stage but you don't need children to be able to truly love another
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there are other ways to have kids though
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I think if the girl is going to choose to keep it a secret, then they need to be ready for what happens when their significant other finds out.

Personally, though, if I am in love with somebody, it would take more than that for me to give up on them. We could always adopt anyways.
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Let's hear it boyz.
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I'd rather be involved with a fertile man, but it's not a deal breaker. While I'm young, I lean more towards the opportunity of bearing children, and I'll always prefer to not break the bank with the enormous expenses necessary for IVF and whatnot. Obviously, if I'm very attached to the man I'm dating/married to, there's no way I'd just up and walk away over infertility. There's adoption, and pets are always a good alternative. I want children, but I don't have to have them.
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lets find out girls any takers? 607-644-8548!!!! is it real, is it fake hmmmmmmmm who knows!
Posted 11/14/16 , edited 11/15/16
I'd keep penetrating her until she became pregnant with my kid
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in truth i think both partners in a relation ships should at some point relatively early on create a questionnaire as well as a undisclosed certain types of medical records as well as get certain check ups for various medical issues STIs, fertility,misc disorders etc. i truth I'm not really sure though i will admit i would want to have kids with someone at some point not that i see that happening anytime soon but i don't think it would be a automatic deal breaker for me if they may have trouble having kids
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I would look concerned and hold her in my arms as she cried to comfort her while I quietly thought about our situation.

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Posted 11/14/16
I'm pretty much infertile, so it'd be a bit hypocritical of me to mind it in a girlfriend.

I don't really want children, anyway, but adoption, surrogates, and - depending on the issue - in vitro are always options.
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